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Has sonographer let slip the sex?

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CinderRosie · 04/12/2023 19:17

Had my 20 week scan today and most importantly, all is looking normal and well. We didn’t want to know the sex and told the sonographer this when he asked. He also had a student with him. The main sonographer did all the measuring and checking and asked us to look away for a few seconds while he went lower down. He then passed over to the student and he said to her “you’ll have to VERY careful on this one Sarah when you’re scanning low down as they don’t want to know the sex”
several times during her scanning of me he’d say “Don’t go any lower!!!” And from this I’m assuming it’s a boy and there must have been loud and proud at letting their bits dangle about for all to see 😂 later on sonographer also referred to baby as “he” but I know this can be common for random pronoun to be used. I’m feeling a bit deflated as we really wanted the surprise at birth. Although DH is less convinced and thinks this all meant nothing. Anyone else had this?

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Doubleespresso33 · 04/12/2023 19:21

I don’t think they meant it was a boy girls can be just as easy to spot. Ours still refer to ours as a boy and we’re having a girl (yes we triple checked!) 😅 congratulations either way OP

autumnboys · 04/12/2023 19:24

Yes, sonographer was surprised we didn’t want to know and referred to the baby as he towards the end of the appointment. I was completely convinced I was having a girl so disregarded what was said…. Had a boy! So it does happen.

MissHoollie · 04/12/2023 19:24

Don't give it another thought . I think they use he or she randomly

spottydinosaur · 04/12/2023 19:27

I would assume it's for training so the student knows not to go further to not give away the sex on any scan they do

Arthurnewyorkcity · 04/12/2023 19:31

defo random, mine kept saying 'he's an active one' at 12 weeks then at the 20 weeks 'he's'... i said 'i take it, it's a boy then'... 'oh i don't know, let me check. No it's a girl'.

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CinderRosie · 04/12/2023 19:35

It was more the “you’ll have to be VERY careful on this one” and the insistence she didn’t go any lower. Although as @spottydinosaur has said it could be that he was emphasising not to go any lower regardless of the sex. If it was just the fact he said “he” I wouldn’t have thought twice about it.

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GreenIsMyFavoriteColour · 04/12/2023 19:40

+1 for them using a random gender.

InTheRainOnATrain · 04/12/2023 19:42

Congrats on a healthy baby at your scan!

I imagine it was probably part of the training and he was just telling her where to stop not just for your scan but for future reference. Then saying he/she sounds nicer than saying ‘it’! With my first I remember mine saying ‘he’ throughout, then asking me if I wanted to know, then saying they couldn’t actually tell as the position was wrong, so I went away for a coffee and came back in an hour and got very uncertain ‘I think it’s a girl but keep the receipts if you buy pink’. She was indeed a girl but it shows that the sonographer saying ‘he’ didn’t hold any particular significance.

Also, you still aren’t sure what you’re having, so there will still be a surprise at the birth! Nothing ruined! Not that it matters that much in the greater scheme of things because it’ll be an amazing moment regardless of whether or not you know the sex 😀

Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy!

FlyingHighFlyingLow · 04/12/2023 20:02

They often default to one or other. I'm definitely having a boy and one sonographer said 'she' all appointment.

Look, its 50/50. You'll have a boy and assume they 'gave it away' even if they didn't. Or you'll have a girl and you'll think it was a mistake.

You have a healthy baby 🥰. Knowing hasn't taken anything away from me. I'm just so excited to meet my little boy, I can't see how I would have been any more excited if I didn't know.

Justyouwaitandseeagain · 04/12/2023 20:05

I think a lot of people find out these days so I would presume the 'you have to be very careful on this one' could be because you don't want to find out v. other scans where people want to know. Reminding the trainee not to reveal anything.

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CinderRosie · 05/12/2023 08:26

@Justyouwaitandseeagain this is what DH also thinks. Maybe I am overthinking it!

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Mangotango39 · 05/12/2023 08:40

Similar happened to my friend re being careful etc and she was convinced it ment a boy . She had a little girl .

they also keep referring to our surprise as she and I think - do you know something??? Haha!

allgoodthings84 · 05/12/2023 09:31

At both our 17 weeks private scan and the 20 weeks nhs scan I knew straight away (when looking at the right parts) that we had a girl and I am not a sonographer or medical in any way it was just very clear. Sometimes it’s clear either way at 20 weeks or at least a very good idea and as the student was in training and you said you didn’t want to know the sonographer was just making sure the student didn’t go too low.

It’s 50/50 though so even if it is a boy doesn’t mean they slipped up just means there’s a 50% chance it’s a boy

PickledScrump · 05/12/2023 11:08

My girl was very obvious, you could clearly see the 3 lines. In scans it’s often just as clear to see it’s a girl as it is to see it’s a boy so I really wouldn’t read too much into it

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CinderRosie · 05/12/2023 14:11

Sounds like I am possibly reading too much into it then. I will be sure to update this thread in April once I know 100% at birth!

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ChristmasSteps295 · 05/12/2023 14:19

When I had mine, the person said he. I did notice them saying that.

It was a boy.

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CinderRosie · 06/12/2023 10:00

If it was just the 'he' part I would have brushed it off because I know sonographers just use he/she instead of 'it'. It was mainly the emphasis he appeared to give the student to be VERY careful on this one. Well, 19 weeks to wait until we know for sure!

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CinderRosie · 01/06/2024 16:46

thought I’d pop back and update now I’ve had my baby in case anyone else comes across this thread in their future searching!

I had a boy 🩵

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JellySunset · 01/06/2024 22:23

Congratulations! Hope you’re both doing well

ChristmasSteps295 · 03/06/2024 13:48

Aw congratulations!

2mumlife · 03/06/2024 13:58

In my NHS area they refuse to tell you the sex at 20 weeks. In one of my later scans a sonographer referred to the baby as 'he', and I gave birth to a girl. I read into it, but I think they just use gendered language sometimes, even in places where the policy is not to look at the sex

FlyingHighFlyingLow · 03/06/2024 14:53

Congratulations OP!

I wanted to know, just as well really as on one scan opened with a clear shot of my baby boy peeing into the fluid. Another I had to have a repeat scan as they couldn't get a measurement (think it was fluid levels) because he kept waving his penis and balls in the shot. Not sure how they'd have explained that to me 😅

Starlightstarbright3 · 03/06/2024 20:20

Congratulations .

My D’s was definitely doing a display on his scan legs wide open . No medical training required.

I didn’t want to know ex did - however I can say it became irrelevant at birth .

Ihavenoclu · 03/06/2024 20:24

Oh congratulations OP!

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