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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Early miscarriage

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anon940 · 04/12/2023 18:10

I had a chemical pregnancy last week - 3 days of positive tests and then bleeding. Was very very early but I just feel absolutely crushed.
I had very strong symptoms of nausea and typical morning sickness which stopped suddenly the day the bleeding began.
This pregnancy wasn't planned and was a huge shock but we both got very excited after the initial shock - even though I was in denial as tests were faint.
This all happened over the space of 5 days and a hcg blood test at epu confirmed it had been a chemical pregnancy.
I have been through all the emotions but one I can't get past is why am I so upset ... this is such a common thing and others have much much worse and traumatic experiences.
I am taking a few days off work as I'm just so tearful and I tried working through the day after I found out and just ended up in a crying heap.

I guess I'm just looking for some kind of advice. Partner is supportive but obviously won't understand. I can't help but feel friends/family secretly feel like I'm being dramatic or weak . I know this is probably hormones talking too.
When will this pass and I can see with some clarity?

Sorry for the ramble

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talkingtoelise · 04/12/2023 18:42

It is so normal to grieve, even with chemical pregnancy’s, as soon as that line appears you imagine the life you are going to have and then that ends. What everyone else thinks or feels is irrelevant, YOU are the person that has experienced a loss and you should feel safe and comfortable to grieve. Give yourself time, take care of yourself and remember there are a lot of support systems out there including resources online for coping after a loss. I hope it gets better for you.

Hoping4amiracle · 04/12/2023 19:19

Didn’t want to read and run, wish I could offer you some hope but I’m short on that. However, I do echo what @talkingtoelise has said - you are grieving for the love you thought you were going to have in your life and that is totally normal. Be kind to yourself xx

anon940 · 04/12/2023 21:46

Thankyou both .

Think I needed to hear those words xxx

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