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Anyone lose a baby at 13 weeks/ health professional and have any idea what might have happened my baby?

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Pmd1 · 02/12/2023 17:12

Hi,

I lost my baby at 13 weeks, only began to misscarry at 15 weeks.

I had spotting since the start of the pregnancy, found out a few weeks later than normal that I was pregnant, as I had what seemed like a period.

Had 4 scans, the baby was perfect and growing really well. A small bleed was spotted early on in my left horn, baby was in the right, bleed nowhere near them.

The mc seems to have occured when the baby moved up noticeably in my tummy and when placenta took fully over.

I am awaiting a lot of tests atm. The wait is hard. Placenta issues suspected.

I cannot grasp what happened and how baby was perfect and active on all scans.

If anyone could shine a light, that would be helpful .

xxx

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Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 02/12/2023 17:16

I'm so sorry for your loss. It happened to me, 12 week scan all fine, started bleeding at 18 weeks but the foetus stopped growing at 13 weeks. In my case I got the mumps bang after my scan and I assume that caused the miscarriage. Could you have got ill with a virus at that time? It could also have just been random bad luck. You do feel very cheated when you've had the 12 week scan and everything is fine, as the chances of miscarriage after that drop so much.

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Pmd1 · 02/12/2023 17:23

Hi. Thanks for the reply. That is so bloody horrific for you. I am really sorry, so cruel. I got all my bloods back and no infections, so don't think so. Unless it was one with no signs and it did not show up on bloods. Yes you really do feel cheated. X

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shmivorytower · 02/12/2023 17:25

I also had a miscarriage at 12 weeks though baby had stopped developing earlier. I cannot shed any light on what happened to you but I wanted to send you a hug. I am so sorry for your loss.

MrsNandortheRelentless · 02/12/2023 17:28

You are lucky to be having lots of tests. There was nothing at all when I miscarried at 13 weeks.

I was told that it’s just one of those things and possibly chromosomal.

Hope you get some answers.

MrsC2018 · 02/12/2023 17:36

Happened to me twice, 12 week scans fine lost mine sometime between 14-15 weeks and found at 16 weeks.
No reason ever found for either from the tests on me or the post mortems.

I suspect placenta issues, I wasn't told this in the debriefs though. The first was a complete shock, I have 2 children and this was my first miscarriage- no issue in either of the pregnancies either. For the second I was put on aspirin and had extra monitoring so I know she was fine at 14+1 but then at the 16 week midwife apt she couldn't find the heartbeat so send me for a scan and was told that she had gone sometime in the last 2 weeks

I'm pregnant again, for this one i was prescribed aspirin again, progesterone until 16 weeks and clexane. I'm 20 weeks and all is still well at the moment, I had an extra scan at 16 weeks with the specialist consultant. There's never going to be a definitive answer for me, but I'm convinced now that the blood thinners have supported this placenta.

I hope you do get answers, but even if you don't they will do what they can to prevent it happening again. I would ask for Progesterone and clexane to be prescribed and start aspirin once a heartbeat is confirmed.

Feel free to ask any questions, the miscarriages were only last year for me so unfortunately fresh in my mind xx

toomanyleggings · 02/12/2023 17:46

Ahh Mother Nature can be cruel. I had one that stopped growing at 11 weeks, I’d seen it with health heartbeat and even did a little wriggle for me on screen at 10 weeks. Never found out what happened. I had to have a d and c and they sent away testing but nothing came back. Sorry this happened to you. I did take aspirin in my successful pregnancies. Most people do go on to have children. I’m currently hiding in the bathroom from mine

RichTea63 · 02/12/2023 17:48

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my dd at 18 weeks a few days after a bleed (sub chorionic haemorrhage). Prior to this perfect pregnancy, scans etc all ok. I was told I there were signs of infection from the tests I had...but no signs of infection at the time. It was bewildering to me. I hope you get some answers OP. Take care of yourself and hope you're getting some support. SANDS were very helpful for me xxx

LoreleiG · 02/12/2023 17:52

I am really sorry OP. I have no experience of a miscarriage that late but just wanted to send you a virtual hug.

Rachel111111 · 02/12/2023 18:28

Sorry to hear this. So difficult not knowing why and getting past the 12 week scan.Lost mine at 16 weeks, had severe cramping and bleeding . Blood tests were all fine. Maybe placenta issues.

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Pmd1 · 03/12/2023 00:22

Thank you so much. That is very kind. How are you now?

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Pmd1 · 03/12/2023 01:35

I know. I am in Ireland and under a consultant. He is very good. Thanks for the message. Sorry for your loss, how are you?

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Pmd1 · 03/12/2023 01:38

Hi. Thank you so much for the detailed answers. That is all so helpful and have screenshotted it for when I have my review with my consultant. I am so so sorry for your losses, two in a row must have been hell. So strange considering you have two kids already and all was well. I am so pleased to hear you are pregnant again and wish you so much luck. You deserve a happy ending xxx

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Pmd1 · 03/12/2023 01:39

So sorry for your loss. Thanks for the reply. Ok that is very helpful re the asprin. The hiding from your children part made me laugh. Xx

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Pmd1 · 03/12/2023 01:41

So sorry for your loss. That must have been very difficult and so out of your hands. How are you now?

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Pmd1 · 03/12/2023 01:42

Thanks, you are very kind x

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Pmd1 · 03/12/2023 01:43

Hi. So sorry for your loss. Hope you are ok. Thanks for the reply.

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flowerchild2000 · 03/12/2023 01:51

Miscarriages in the first trimester are almost always due to chromosomal abnormalities. Things just didn't form right in other words. That's why so many pregnancies end really early, even before we know we're pregnant usually. It's like the foundation of the body wasn't laid right so it couldn't keep on growing from there. I've had a few miscarriages and I also have 4 really healthy kids, and very often look at them and feel amazed they grew from just a few cells to something so perfect, nothing wrong at all. It's a miracle really, given all that has to take place for that to happen.
I hope you are doing well, I know how devastating it can be. Right before I had my last baby, I had a very traumatic miscarriage. It was early on but it was still really difficult. Just remember that whatever you're feeling is normal and you're allowed to mourn as much as you need to. Just because it was early on doesn't mean it wasn't your precious baby. If you believe in life outside our realm it's nice to think your baby that passed will be looking out for you and your hopefully next healthy baby. Many women fall pregnant with a healthy child right after a loss. Big hugs and try not to overthink it too much, it was definitely nothing you did, just a normal and natural thing to happen on your path in motherhood. 💜

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Pmd1 · 03/12/2023 02:13

Some of the tests that have come back, not all yet, have indicated that it was not chromosonal. So that is why I really hope to get answers.

Thank you so much for your beautiful message. It has a lovely message and has given me hope. Thanks xxx

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