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Pregnancy after a miscarriage

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Bethandfreddie · 30/11/2023 08:34

Hi, this is a bit of a heavy one but I just need to get it all out.

In June this year I miscarried at 9 weeks, and in that pregnancy I barely had any symptoms. I had an early scan, they were measuring smaller than they should have and a few weeks later I started bleeding.

Now I'm pregnant again (only 4+4 so very early days) and I can't stop comparing this pregnancy to my last. I know every pregnancy is different, but with my first pregnancy I was already feeling sick (this is my third time being pregnant, I have a DS) but with the pregnancy I miscarried with I barely had any symptoms and that's the same with how I feel now.

I keep having nightmares of blood and being told I can never carry children again and it's haunting me.

I don't even know how to cope, Ive not long finished having therapy and now I feel I need it back again.

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deliwoman1 · 30/11/2023 09:48

I’m sorry, OP, that sounds very hard. I know from experience how difficult it can be to be pregnant following a loss. Early pregnancy is tough at the best of times but when you have pregnancy-related trauma, it can be a nightmare. There’s no right or wrong way to feel, but I think it’s a really good idea to reach out for support in all the ways you can. Talking to a therapist again may help a lot.

You already know that no two pregnancies are alike. I can say that I’ve had pregnancies with symptoms that led to losses, but with my DD I had very few and she was a textbook pregnancy.

I’m currently 4+6 with fainter pregnancy tests than I’d like and zero symptoms, so you have my sympathy 🫂 All I can do is remind myself there’s nothing I can do right now except be kind to myself and talk to others I trust about my fears.

I hope you feel better soon, OP ❤️

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Bethandfreddie · 30/11/2023 11:02

deliwoman1 · 30/11/2023 09:48

I’m sorry, OP, that sounds very hard. I know from experience how difficult it can be to be pregnant following a loss. Early pregnancy is tough at the best of times but when you have pregnancy-related trauma, it can be a nightmare. There’s no right or wrong way to feel, but I think it’s a really good idea to reach out for support in all the ways you can. Talking to a therapist again may help a lot.

You already know that no two pregnancies are alike. I can say that I’ve had pregnancies with symptoms that led to losses, but with my DD I had very few and she was a textbook pregnancy.

I’m currently 4+6 with fainter pregnancy tests than I’d like and zero symptoms, so you have my sympathy 🫂 All I can do is remind myself there’s nothing I can do right now except be kind to myself and talk to others I trust about my fears.

I hope you feel better soon, OP ❤️

Thank you so much, it's awful the first trimester I will be glad to see it gone!

Wishing you all the luck in the world with your pregnancy and sending love🩷 we just have to think positive xx

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Stephy1024 · 30/11/2023 18:49

Sorry you went through this op.I think after any miscarriage your bound to be more on edge. I had a mmc in April this year and I didn't really have any symptoms. I have two living children and only got mild pregnancy symptoms with one.I'm currently 13+4 weeks pregnant and don't really have any symptoms again, but baby is all good. Unfortunately the symptoms aren't always an indicator that something is wrong.
Congratulations and try to be positive. This is a new pregnancy.

Stephy1024 · 30/11/2023 18:50

Sorry you went through this op.I think after any miscarriage your bound to be more on edge. I had a mmc in April this year and I didn't really have any symptoms. I have two living children and only got mild pregnancy symptoms with one.I'm currently 13+4 weeks pregnant and don't really have any symptoms again, but baby is all good. Unfortunately the symptoms aren't always an indicator that something is wrong.
Congratulations and try to be positive. This is a new pregnancy.

Aaliyahrae · 30/11/2023 19:02

Hi, sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I had a miscarriage in July but found out I was pregnant in May/June. It was very similar to what you describe - I had no symptoms, had an early scan, measured small with slow heartbeat then it ended. I’m now pregnant again, nearly 9 weeks, and I found out when I was 4 weeks as well. I googled ‘healthy pregnancy with no pregnancy symptoms’ ‘why don’t I have any pregnancy symptoms’ at the beginning of this pregnancy really freaking myself out then 6 weeks hit and omg I have been so poorly - they really did come out of no where! There’s still time to develop symptoms. Plus, there is a lady on the conception thread I’m on that had strong symptoms up until her 12 week scan and was diagnosed with a MMC so symptoms don’t necessarily tell you everything is ok. As hard as it is, try and relax and take everyday as it comes. You are pregnant right now and I know that pregnancy is scary especially after miscarriages but right now, you are pregnant and there’s a high possibility that this pregnancy will continue as it should! Congratulations xxxx

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Bethandfreddie · 17/12/2023 17:57

Aaliyahrae · 30/11/2023 19:02

Hi, sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I had a miscarriage in July but found out I was pregnant in May/June. It was very similar to what you describe - I had no symptoms, had an early scan, measured small with slow heartbeat then it ended. I’m now pregnant again, nearly 9 weeks, and I found out when I was 4 weeks as well. I googled ‘healthy pregnancy with no pregnancy symptoms’ ‘why don’t I have any pregnancy symptoms’ at the beginning of this pregnancy really freaking myself out then 6 weeks hit and omg I have been so poorly - they really did come out of no where! There’s still time to develop symptoms. Plus, there is a lady on the conception thread I’m on that had strong symptoms up until her 12 week scan and was diagnosed with a MMC so symptoms don’t necessarily tell you everything is ok. As hard as it is, try and relax and take everyday as it comes. You are pregnant right now and I know that pregnancy is scary especially after miscarriages but right now, you are pregnant and there’s a high possibility that this pregnancy will continue as it should! Congratulations xxxx

Update, this has happened to me! I hit 6 weeks last week and I have some insane nausea! X

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