Am I overreacting?

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I'm pregnant with Baby #2. Early days still but I am exhausted. Like always exhausted. I work FT from home. I'm not eating properly. I'm just feeling very sad and hopeless at the moment. I'm hoping its just the nausea making me feel like this. I'm getting severe Mum guilt for not doing more with DC #1 who is nearly 4. And the lead up to Christmas, which is making me feel I should be doing more. I don't want to go out or have the energy to.
How do I get out of this headspace?!

Be kinder to yourself. The first few weeks are hard, the fatigue is intense
can your partner step up and spend more time with dd?
stay off social media if it’s adding to your guilt, not everyone is doing loads of Christmas things.
If you really want to (but you don’t have to) maybe pick some concentrated quality time at the weekend to do some simple Christmas stuff with dd that doesn’t require too much but that she’ll love.
make hot chocolates together, have a ‘sleepover’ and watch Christmas movies in bed together with popcorn, do some colouring in together, have a ‘spa’ day where you paint her nails or you just lie on the sofa with face masks on. But really don’t beat yourself up
it’s only a few weeks in the whole of her life

Also talk to your DP/midwife/friends and family if you’re really struggling with your mood. Hopefully it’ll ease up in a few weeks though.

Rest, Eat better, remember it’s one Xmas out of a lifetimes worth- and if you have a partner tell them to step up. If they can take your other one out more, then that will ease the guilt and give you some rest time.

I feel for you ! Ultimately your exhausted and no doubt constantly feeling ill, that’s always going to leave some one feeling low. I was the same in my 1st trimester (now in my 2nd, 2nd pregnancy) honestly I was so fed up in the first, every day felt like a battle. Consider what you can leave doing to conserve energy (house work etc) ask for help from fam & friends if possible with your child so you can get some rest on the weekend. Try not to be hard on yourself, ill will get better but do keep an eye on your mood, if it gets worse and is constant , maybe reach out to the GP, but highly likely your just running on empty because being pregnant, with a child, whilst working is incredibly tough, try to keep telling yourself that and know you are doing the best you can with the little energy you have Xx

Didn’t want to read and run.

I totally sympathise, but please be kind to yourself. I’m also pregnant with my second and feeling awful about not being able to put as much energy in to playing with him as he clearly needs from me. The first trimester was the worst and I felt like crying most of the time because I was so tired. For me it’s got a bit better in second trimester but I’m still sick so having to rely hugely on my partner and family to help with my little boy

I keep telling myself that it’ll be a short period of time in the grand scheme of my life, and I’m certain that I’ll barely think about it when I meet my baby.

hang in there ❤️

Honestly this was me up to 16 weeks. I was just surviving. Then the sickness and exhaustion passed and it all got better. Back to feeling guilty at 34 weeks as I just don’t have the energy/too much pain/too big etc to do everything DD wants me to do but I’ve just accepted I can’t do it all and in reality DD isn’t going to remember this period of her life!