I am not sure whether my partner loves me or not😭

[Michah89]

Me and my partner lost our daughter last month and since then he's hardly been there for me going in his moods all the time we still have sex alot bug other night he drank a lot and smoked weed and had a go at me he was abusive telling me he cheated on me and I was fat and ugly bare in mind I'm 8stone 8 I also said I met someone else and told him out daughter wasn't his out of anger I no I shouldn't of said it but after wat he said 🫢😭 he then started calling me a slag saying I have no one cos ov me being in care so I got that worried I rang police he got arrested so charges were made he came home the next day as if it was all my fault ?🫢 Was it ally fault? He then went on and said cos he's a gypsy it goes against everything he stands for and he should leave me , is he abusing ne?

I'm sorry you lost your daughter.
You two clearly shouldn't be in a relationship. He's calling you vile names ( what a scumbag) and you've in return told him the baby he's been grieving for isn't his! ( dugusting thing to say) This isn't normal behaviour

He always calls me names like this in argument and yeh I should never said wat I did but all I no is I love him but I feel I'm in trauma bond relationship

@Michah89 that's not love!
If a man is calling you such disgusting degrading names everytime you argue , why are you still with him? This isn't love!
Don't lower your value to put up with someone who treats you with such little respect. Do you really think someone who speaks to you like that loves you?
Move on. And please don't ever tell a man , especially In a situation like that grieving for the loss of a child, that it was never his to begin with. You should be ashamed telling him that. Call him all the names under the sun , whatever, but to say that is just wrong.
I've seen men go to very dark places due to women telling them their babies weren't theirs. I've a friend who committed suicide because his partner at the time told him their stillborn baby which he loved and cried for wasn't his.
It's not a normal thing to say. There's something seriously wrong here.
You both don't belong in a relationship together. This isn't love. This is extremely TOXIC! please go your separate ways before you bring another child into this mess of a relationship. Your as bad as each other sorry

That's a car crash waiting to happen, definitely shouldn't be together!

Never in my worst pain could I imagine saying that to my DH, that's not a normal insult

@Toda11 I agree. I can't stand when women throw the paternity card about.
It's the lowest of the low

@Michah89 sorry op, but this an extremely volatile, toxic and childish relationship.
Under no circumstances should you have told him he's not the father of that baby. It's beyond an insult
The two aren't really comparable in my eyes. Please do yourself a favour and him and call it quits.
And no , your not the victim here.
He's not abusing you , YOUR ABUSING EACH OTHER !