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Need Help coping with morning sickness with a 21 month old!!!

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gem1981 · 13/03/2008 08:49

Hello

Starting to feel VERY sick now all day - due in October.

I feel really bad as I all want to do is sleep all day as i feeling constantly exhausted.

DS is always full of beans and constantly wants to be out doing stuff - just getting up and moving about makes me feel dreadful.

I am really trying to grin and bear it but finding its becoming more and more of a struggle and its really getting me down (quite frankly I am feeling a bit sory for myself)

DH says I need to think positove and maybe the sickness will subside [hmmm]

sorry its not a very cheery message but needed a moan

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peanutbear · 13/03/2008 08:52

I think its hard being pregnant with a LO to run around after as well

You just have to sleep when you can if he has an afternoon nap then so should you and bring him into your bed in the morning so you get chance to wake up slowly

Its even better if DH makes you a drink and I found Rich tea biscuits helped first thing in the morning

duvetheaven · 13/03/2008 09:10

Sorry to hear you are in the midst of the nightmare that is morning sickness. At 15 weeks I am just emerging from the other side.
Got lots of help on here! Seabands helped me. Also another MN said think 'baby food portions', literally a spoonful of rice or mashed potato per hour.
Other MN suggest lucozade or smelling a lemon?
Don't think that 'thinking positive ' is the answer .

roundabout · 17/03/2008 19:04

I find that boiling water, a piece of root ginger, some lemon and a tiny bit of honey are good instead of a cup of tea. Also a brisk walk with LO helps even if you don't want to. Also coke (the drink!!) in small amounts help me too.

babybaby3 · 17/03/2008 19:24

Yea flat coke also helped me but also making sure that I had regular meals (well snacks) my craven was strawberry milkshake...my husbands never been able to look at a strawberry milkshake since.

Just think how many weeks then it will all be over...

milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo · 17/03/2008 19:29

Feel your pain, I am due in October and have a 2yr old DD. Things that help me are eating before I get up and bringing DD into bed first thing in the morning so I don't have to rush about (we even occasionally have a 'picnic' breakfast in bed if I have had a bad night - she thinks its great!). I nap when she has her afternoon sleep. Also playdates are great (if you can manage it) especially with a sympathetic Mum who will make tea and bring you biscuits.

Would beat DH around the head with a day old kipper if he suggested I needed to think positive

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gem1981 · 17/03/2008 19:48

thanks everyone - i have now found taht going to bed at 8.30 pm is really helping - don't get much done in the evening though!!!!

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Sprogstersmum · 17/03/2008 20:20

I totally sympathise - am 10 weeks and constantly nauseous and occasionally vomiting and have 2.7 yr old who no longer has a day time nap! Have resorted to CBeebies for an hour or so in the afternoon while I lie on the sofa next to her and doze on and off. She'll also play with dollies for a while in my bed while I lie down. Can you ask family to have her for the odd afternoon? Also going to sympathetic friends alot who feed me and DD plays with their children. Am just starting to feel slightly better now. I find being in the fresh air helps too so can go for walks with the buggy but doesn't work indoors at all so no traipsing round the shops.

MrsTittleMouse · 17/03/2008 21:30

Oh yes, I have this too. I am waiting until I can "go public" with this pregnancy so that I can have a bit of help from friends. Meanwhile I am exhausted and feel sick constantly, and have to keep up appearances. One of the worst things is changing DD's dirty nappies. I was always fine with nappies until I was pregnant, now it's awful. Poor DD doesn't get to do much fun stuff either.

DH knows that his life would be in serious danger if he told me that I need to think positive and the sickness will subside. He isn't above asking me why I don't smile, and please can't I just smile though. I try to explain that it's hard to smile when you're exhausted and sick, but I don't think you can really understand unless you've been through it. Maybe when he has his next hangover (which will be a while - we're so boring at the moment!) I'll ask him to smile.

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gem1981 · 18/03/2008 19:00

MrsTittleMouse

ooh yes that's a good one - he is going out at the weekend so if he has a wine to many I will make sure I get a comment in!!!!

Feeling really sorry for myself today - must think positive

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greenflower · 23/03/2008 22:25

I am pregnant with no2 and feel terrible. I did first time as well - I was hoping I would get away with it this time (What is DS DD by the way?) My son is 20 months and I feel very guilty at the moment as I am lying on the sofa letting him get on with it. I am sleeping all afternoon when there is someone else around, and 12 hours a night too, but only my body is tired, my mind feels really jumpy and agitated.

Last time I felt like there was something really special going on inside me and couldn't wait to meet the baby. This time I feel like it is a parasite which is poisoning me. I feel so guilty. ALso, I have lost interest in everything, including playing with my son. It is all I can do to keep him clean and fed, then it's over to Dad. I feel like I don't deserve another baby.

The only thing that relieves my nausea is retching. Making myself retch gives me about half an hour nausea-free.

Last time I had 6 weeks off work and lost a stone and a half in the first trimester. Tomorrow I have to try and get through an interview for a promotion and then if I am successful drop the bombshell on them, so I won't be very popular!

Have just read this and realised it sounds very negative! I just need to get through the next month and I should perk up a bit.

MrsTittleMouse · 23/03/2008 22:45

greenflower - DD and DS are short for "dear daughter" and "dear son" - a bit cheesy, but much quicker to type!
Please don't feel so bad about yourself, you can see from this thread that there are a lot of us who are struggling with pregnancy and an older child. I know that in "real life" that friends of mine have admitted that they resorted to CBeebies or DVDs just to get the rest that they needed.
Have you seen the "I'm not so excited about my second pregnancy" thread as well. It's really common to feel pulled in all directions.

MirandaG · 24/03/2008 10:34

I had the parasite feeling too and near constant nausea for the best part of the nine months, but now I have DD2 (7 months) who is the sweetest, most adorable thing, so it really is worth it. I really struggled with DD1 while I was pregnant with DD2, but I think, as another poster suggested, there is no harm in a bit of extra CBeebies or DVDs so that you can get some rest. It is in the best interests of your whole family that you are rested enough and IME rest did help a bit with the sickness. I found fizzy water helpful too, espcially San Peligrino! The bubbles are bigger somehow This is going to sound weird but I found that if I ate only non colourful food I felt a lot better - white bread, chicken, rice etc. not very healthy I know, but really struggled to eat fruit and veg... Also, try to stay away from places with strong food smells or lots of food. I struggled to go round the supermarket without retching, so in the end started ordering online. It might seem expensive but I think is worth it if it makes you feel less tired. Thinking positive is not going to help, but DH taking DS off your hands so that you can get some rest might (or is there someone else who would take him/). Good luck!

greenflower · 24/03/2008 19:31

Supermarkets are definitely no go areas, as is in-town shopping. I am finding people smell too much! What an awful thing to say, but especially when you walk past people smoking. What you say is true, it will be worth it in the end, and it's not the poor baby's fault. I keep thinking about it floating around in the warm in there without a care in the world, and thinking maybe we could swap places for a day! Back to normality tomorrow, I have had DH here for four days helping me and I don't want him to go back to work (or me either for that). Thanks for the words advice - I will definitely try the San Peligrino!

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gem1981 · 24/03/2008 20:15

poor you greenflower - I just checked this thread adn its sounds as though you are haing it rough too - hope you get some relief very soon.

My morning sickness has had to take a back seat, cos I have just developed a stinking cold (bloody typical) so feeling doubley sorry for myself now.

I JUST WANT A LEMSIP

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sylvev · 24/03/2008 21:16

Morning sickness is really horrible, I sympathise. With DS I found bananas helped, with DD, cold baked potatoes. I was lucky, both times it disappeared at 12weeks. I remember the tiredness, again just sleep when you can.

greenflower · 25/03/2008 09:45

gem1981 - you sound very similar to me. My son is same age, and I am also due October (very end). It seems like ages away! Isn't it frustrating when you get ill and can't take anything. I remember last time, DH and I were both really bunged up - he was fine after a pseudofed and I haad to grin and bear it! He is being very good to me though - although he has made one comment along the lines of me not knowing how good I've got it (ie, stop whinging)! Hope you feel better soon.

chocbiscuits · 25/03/2008 15:25

It's all ghastly and I hope we all feel better soon!

MirandaG · 25/03/2008 15:51

gem 1981 - you can have some paracetamol - will help you feel a bit better

babybore · 25/03/2008 19:46

Gem1981 - I'm so feeling your pain (I have a 22 month old and am pregnant as well). I puked up on a pavement this morning - so hideous but I can't stop myself. It's so much worse 2nd time round and I'm always asleep by 9.30pm. You just don't want to move from the sofa all day - but I feel guilty having Cbeebies on all the time. Rich tea biscuits have helped a bit and that clear lucozade is good too, especially for rehydration.

piscesgirl · 25/03/2008 21:07

Try sucking on rhubarb and custard sweeties. They seemed to take my mind off the sickness!

Seabright · 25/03/2008 22:42

I am drinking stacks of fizzy water, that seems to work for me. Also, v cheap - Tesco Value Sparking Water is 17p for 2 litres!

I am quesy rather than actually being sick and the fizziness makes me burp (sooooo ladylike ) and the burp relieves the sick feeling

Laino · 27/03/2008 16:28

Breezed through 1st pregnancy - morning sickness what's that? - and now suffering with second prg. Doctor gave me some gaviscon tablets and I just take one at bedtime. Reduces the stomach acid so i'm not getting hit with the nausea by the time I'm in the shower. Haven't actually been sick though so prob not as severe as some of you guys. I feel for you really. Breadsticks, rich tea biscuits and hovis biscuits help. can't bring myself to eat fruit but i know i have too. bit of a struggle really. small amounts of stuff - constantly!

LouisePenn · 27/03/2008 22:56

No problems in first pregnancy either, but this time around I had the worst morning sickness. Was sick at least once a day for three months and at the worst point, every half an hour - impossible with a two year old. Would recommend taking some Probiotic food supplements but only when you think you can handle them - to help to rebuild your intestinal health after all it's been through. They really were the only thing that seemed to stop my cycle of morning sickness and stomach bug, it went on for so long.

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gem1981 · 27/03/2008 23:22

cold has now gone

but MS still here

11 weeks on Sunday so hoping not long to go now (although this lasted thru till wk 20 last time !!)

to top it all off DH has torn ligaments in his ankle and now can't walk or do anything for himself at the moment, so aswell as taking care of DS (21 months) I am now also at the mercy of DH (360 months )

still depsite all this I am surprisingly starting to feel more +ve about it all - there's nothing I can do so i have just decided to roll with the sickness !!

hope you guys are all feeling not too bad x

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readytoswiggin · 27/03/2008 23:39

poor you. with my 2nd and 3rd pgs i lived on lemon sorbet, plus it got some much needed liquid into me.

Was prescribed Avomine for my 3rd. used to nap sitting on the bottom of the stairs, dc's kept climbing on me if i was on the sofa

goodluck