Waters broke at 14 weeks - very low amniotic fluid, looking for support/advice

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This is my first pregnancy and very much wanted.

I have uterus didelphys (i.e. two wombs and two cervixes) so aware of slightly greater risk in pregnancy. We were fortunate enough to fall pregnant quickly and all seemed well (including an early private reassurance scan which confirm one viable pregnancy in my left womb) until a couple of days before my 12 weeks scan when I began spotting red blood.

I was seen by A&E who were unable to scan me but gave me anti-D (I'm rhesus negative) and sent me home. Thankfully all was fine at the dating scan, despite the ongoing bleeding. A small subchorionic hematoma was noted but not seen as a concern. Since then the bleeding stopped and started, until a huge bleed with clots on Sunday. We had another private scan on Monday morning but again everything looked fine with baby.

On Wednesday I woke up to a gushing feeling, which was blood but watery and diluted. It happened two/three times, saturating pads. I therefore went back to A&E but again they said there was nothing to do, booked me a scan for today, and sent me home to wait.

At today's scan my worst fear was confirmed - although the baby still has a heartbeat, the amniotic fluid is very low (just over 1cm) and it is suspected the gushing on Wednesday was my waters. I've been given antibiotics and sent home to wait it out, with another scan next week.

Obviously the prognosis is really not good and there's every chance I will spontaneously miscarry before my next appointment but I am really struggling mentally.

I am 14 weeks now and the limbo is really killing me, especially as I'm just at home, trying (and failing) to distract myself. I feel like I want to start grieving but also don't want to give up hope, and I'm also scared of miscarrying at home and how painful/traumatic that might be given my gestation. I also feel (perhaps unfairly) very unsupported by the medics - obviously my baby is very far from viability so there is little they can offer but the overall approach and way I've been spoken to has made me feel so alone.

I'm sorry this is such a ramble, I suppose I'm just looking for any words of advice, whether or not you have been in a similar situation... thank you to anyone who has taken the time to read.

I'm really sorry that you gave felt so unsupported by medical staff.

I don't have any experience of your situation or technical knowledge to give, but I empathise with the waiting in limbo - it's a horrible feeling, characteristic of many difficult pregnancy situations.
I don't know what the possible remaining positive outcomes are - or if they told you about any. Have you got a midwife you can speak to? Meanwhile Tommy's charity has excellent feedback on here. I found them v helpful when I had a miscarriage. Might be worth getting in touch.

Whatever the outcome, take time to process. Losses happen, and we grieve (not in a linear way), and we can move forward in the right time for us.

Ah OP I'm so sorry 😞 I had something similar myself a few years ago. Although there was no heartbeat from the start. I had to have a d&c and the whole thing was awful. Luckily I conceived soon after with a healthy pregnancy. The worst part for you right now is being in limbo. Hopefully you will get answers soon. I wish you all the best.

My waters broke at 19w and the prognosis was poor. I stayed pregnant till 27w. Shes 5 years old now and perfect. Have a look a little heartbeats pprom support. Best of luck, its an awful place to be but theres still hope xxx

Very sorry to hear what has happened.
My waters broke at 18 weeks ( back in 1996) I was told to bed rest but after a couple of scans I was told the baby would not survive. There was insufficient fluid for the baby to grow plus she was now exposed to infection. Medics suggested I wait until I went into natural 'labour' but after a week I was given medication which brought contractions on. It was the most traumatic time and I felt in limbo like you are feeling now. The actual birth was quick as the baby was obviously tiny. It was recommended that we had a PM, which found the baby was a girl and she had died of infection. No reason why my waters broke, I was told I was just ' unlucky'.

The staff were kind and sympathetic but no dedicated service for miscarriage/ still birth like there is now at my local hospital. Afterwards, I contacted a local miscarriage charity, which helped a little.

i went on to have another baby but I have never forgotten my daughter and often call into the Hospital chapel to find her name in the 'baby book'.

I hope things turn out differently for you and you are in my thoughts. X