Due dates getting more and more unrealistic

[Maay87]

So I am by my calculations due 9/4/24, because I had a small procedure there is only one date that can be the conception date 16/7/23, as that’s the date me and hubby had sex. They keep moving my date further forward at each appointment and now over a full week ahead. Making my conception date when I had my period, when I was in hospital under going turn general anaesthetic at the time 6/7/23. I’m worried about the implications of potentially doing a c section on baby who isn’t as far along. Even though he is coming up big. I have a crazy voice in my head that’s starting to wonder if I was assaulted under general anaesthetic (it’s probably nothing more than 3 am gremlins in my head and fear as a previous sa victim) but now they have reared their head and it won’t shut up. And i feel like it’s starting to make me detached from the pregnancy. I didn’t test positive until 24/7/23 I was testing as I felt off, I just want them to stop moving my dates! How do I shut out the fear and the crazy voice?

As someone with a history of SA, when I needed multiple general anaesthetics later in life, being SA while under was a huge fear for me. I just want to acknowledge how real and scary that fear can be for someone with a traumatic past. I had specialised counselling and would highly recommend it OP. Being pregnant, you should be a high priority and have an expedited referral.

Regarding the dates, I had IVF so knew my dates were precise. My baby’s due date was changed slightly at the dating scan despite this, but I ignored it and would have declined any intervention before the date I knew to be correct.

Please seek some counselling. That’s not a normal reaction. Due date is an estimate based on firstly your last period (irrelevant when you had sex), and then as it goes along, based on the baby’s size. It’s always an estimate.

Same here. Son was born 'five days late' but by my calculations he was born a day before my due date.

Current baby is measuring three days ahead of my initial date.

I just wanted to echo what some other posters have mentioned about speaking to your midwife about this, in as much or little detail as you would like to.

Does she/he know about your history of SA? It's a risk factor for post-partum psychosis and if they do know, I believe you should be being monitored by perinatal mental health. I'm sorry for what you went through and the anxiety it's causing you now. X