Pregnant after 4 miscarriages-very anxious

[JLB234]

Hi all,

I am currently 7+1 weeks with an IVF pregnancy following 4 natural miscarriages. We had our 6ish week scan on Tuesday where everything was shown to be perfect (clear heartbeat, measuring at 6+1 so only 2 days behind) but ironically since then I seem to have completely spiraled and am struggling with extreme anxiety. I had a little bit of yellowy discharge on Friday too which has now made me fear the worst. It was a tiny bit and I’ve had nothing since but my mind has just gone into overdrive. I also rang the clinic and they said they would only be concerned if it was fresh blood.

I should mention that unfortunately with all of my previous losses, we went for scans and saw the heartbeat and twice we started bleeding the day after scans which is why I think the scan might have acted as a bit of a “trigger” for me. It’s also why booking another scan won’t offer me much reassurance-it’ll probably actually cause more anxiety!

I was just wondering if anyone had any advice or positive stories to keep me going?

Thanks so much in advance,

Jenny x

Hello! Congratulations. I totally understand your worry after your losses. I am so sorry for your anxiety and how these experiences mean it is hard to be peaceful right now. How are you today?

I have just done IVF and had a miscarriage at 6 weeks (first time ever being pregnant) and I am now so distressed. Like you as soon as I was pregnant I started to worry after years of unexplained infertility.

Can I ask what your protocol was for embryo transfer? Did they factor anything in for your previous miscarriages? If you’re comfortable letting me know, I’d be super grateful. Thank you!

I had yellowy discharge my whole pregnancy and everything was fine, I think it might have been the multivitamin I was taking

Nothing we can say can help your anxiety, I was adamant the whole time something bad was going to happen but someone said you are pregnant today, celebrate that and concentrate on that and you can worry about tomorrow tomorrow, kind of helped me a little!

@JScott89 I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s so so hard. They’ve put me on maximum progesterone (3 pessaries and 2 injections a day) and we also went for private testing which revealed I had slightly raised NK cells when pregnant so my NHS clinic agreed to put me on 20mg prednisolone too. I’ll be thinking of you and I’ve got everything crossed that your next transfer will stick ♥️.

@justanotherlaura thanks so much. I think I’ve just totally freaked out and gone into a bit of a spiral. I might look into finding someone to talk to over the next few weeks. Yes, I like that. I find it really hard to focus on the present so that might help too! X

Thank you. I will ask them about NK cells. What were the tests if you don’t mind me asking? Is it a blood test?

@JLB234 so sorry to hear of your losses and gentle congratulations 🎉

I've had three missed miscarriages previously and now 21 weeks pregnant having seen a specialist and started on treatment. I think for me remind myself I'm now treating something really helped.

I agree with you about the scans not being particularly reassuring as I also saw a heartbeat then didn't. It is a really difficult time but I just keep telling myself it's a new pregnancy, things are different and worrying won't change the outcome.

I hope this helps and sending lots of hand holds x

@justanotherlaura I had a range of tests which included blood tests and uterine biopsy. I’m not going to lie, it really wasn’t cheap but if a baby comes out of it, I’d pay it again many many times. I know must NHS clinics don’t test NK cells but definitely worth asking.

@Greenvelvetdress gentle congratulations to you too. You’re totally right. My husband keeps on saying, this time is different but it’s just so hard to get my head round sometimes. Wishing you the best of luck going forward x

I really sympathise. I've had 1 stillbirth and 5 miscarriages. I do have 4 children now, but each of those pregnancies followed a loss and I had bleeding in early pregnancy for all but the last one.

I got through by telling myself firmly that I was going to have a baby at the end of it, but also by only taking one day at a time. Remind yourself that today, your baby is fine. Tomorrow will come and you can do then what you did today, but each day only needs to be used for its own worries. Obviously, I was scared every time I went to the toilet until about 15 weeks, but thinking only about today really worked for me. Deep breathing exercises were good for helping me to keep calm too.

I feel your pain - also had lots of miscarriages, however I have two children now so things do work out for people
With the discharge, don't forget your hormones are going bonkers at the moment and your body will be making the mucous plug. You'll be really worried about everything til the baby is born so try to talk to others and research twinges and feelings you'll get (stabbing pains sometimes, ligaments growing and uterus growing causes pain too,
Congratulations and best of luck to you -- sticky thoughts

Sorry not very helpful in the easing anxiety part as I'd love some tips too. I'm in the same situation as you 4 previous MMC and currently 7weeks. Saw a HB last weds which I haven't seen in the last 3. Some days really are better than others which I've just learnt to go with. today I've had crippling anxiety but some days I feel positive about it. I just keep telling myself I've got through a loss before I can do it again if it comes to it. Just be kind to yourself on days you feel a bit crazy ❤️

@bringmearainbow it’s nice to talk to someone who is in a similar position as sometimes it feels like you’re either the only person in the world or absolutely crazy. I’ve got everything crossed for you. Here if you ever want to talk. Take care x

@JLB234 it is indeed. Same here my nausea has really increased since last week so I'm hoping that's a good sign 🤞🏼how are you feeling?