Christmas drinking

[Amyw367]

Christmas drinking advice !

So ‘tis the season upon us. I am 5 weeks pregnant, so far only my husband knows. We have so many festive plans coming up soon with friends. How do I hide the not drinking?! My friends will smell a rat instantly as I do drink and would go to the pub regularly on weekends and am known for my cocktail Christmas gatherings haha

Also any advice on when to tell people. I feel like if it was January I could hibernate from the world haha

If your hosting just just leave the room and tip and replace the drink. Mocktails ect or instead of red wine replace it with red grape shloer and just laugh a lot and act like a drunk. I've done this a few times when i was 'late' and nobody batted an eyelid

I was on metro last year for a gum infection, so thats an option.

However, no one thought I was pregnant, as I was loudly counting down the days until I could drink again!!! LOL Not to mention that the days leading up to it, I had been complaing about my gum and how much pain I was in.

But I do agree that just telling people you are on antibiotics, without a proper set up, is a flashing sign of "Im pregnant!"

Don't tell anybody anything. I've never, ever been out and a man has started pointedly telling people he's on a very specific antibiotic and therefore can't drink. As a result, nobody has ever policed what's in a man's glass. Women I've seen do it repeatedly. Whilst giggling and blushing. Usually 7 weeks ish before an announcement.

Just drink/order something you like and people won't be inspecting your drinks or grilling you.

Seriously, the vast majority of socialised humans know that it's completely and utterly socially verboten to publicly guess if a friend or colleague is pregnant. Out loud anyway. There isn't a reason on God's green earth why women should have to spend time worrying about hoodwinking friends. If they're friends, I'd hope they wouldn't be rudely asking about pregnancy unless you brought it up first.

I had to do this at a wedding with my eldest.

had had a miscarriage only 4 months prior and was 10 weeks at the wedding.

all of our mutual friends were there.

I accepted the drinks, nursed them and then my DH used to down them.

He was not very well the next day 😅

Just say you've had a heavy night the day before?

These threads slightly perplex me. Can't you just say you're taking it easy tonight? Maybe because you had a heavy night the night before?
Or say you'll have a non-alcoholic drink for this round? (Few people will check).
Or say you're on antibiotics and if anyone thinks that means you're pregnant and has the chasm of manners to suggest it out loud you laugh, say "yeah, sure", and change the subject.
Or say you're not drinking because you're trying to get pregnant.

Maybe it's my age - plenty of the social circle have already been off the booze because of pregnancy, illness, alcoholism or other health reasons. Noone would dream of making a big deal of it.

It seems to be very much our culture to always have a drink when socialising. It’s almost unheard of not to so people just assume you’re pregnant if you’re not. I don’t drink at all so no one questions it when I don’t.

I agree with PPs to make zero fuss about it.

These threads slightly perplex me. Can't you just say you're taking it easy tonight?

ofc you can. But if you’ve not said that once in the last 10 years, everyone will know you’re pregnant. Most people ime will ask, especially once they’ve had a few drinks, then you’re stuck trying to convincingly lie. Or they won’t ask and they’ll just know, and that rather defeats the point of keeping it private if that’s what you’re wanting to do.

If you aren’t hosting the event at your house and you drive just say you’re on driving duties.

We had a wedding to go to when I was 7 weeks pregnant so I just drove. No one said anything. I also had a meal with my boss just when I’d found out I was pregnant, she ordered a regular beer and I ordered non alcohol beer, I don’t think she even noticed I hadn’t had alcohol.

Best way is just to accept that loads of people will guess. Mostly they'll be polite enough to carry on the charade but they will guess.

I never bothered. Never announced it but when asked why I wasn't drinking just answered honestly. Made it far less of a big deal.

If you’re at dinner it’s obvious to be the one person who says no to the wine as it’s being poured, so just say yes but never make it through the glass! Only your most hawk eyed female friends will notice.

In any other situation where you order from the bar it’s easy to just get 0% G&T

Even easier if you’re hosting as you’re the one pouring the drinks and the one in and out of the kitchen so very easy to appear like you’re drinking when you’re not! And a few “toast” sips of an alcoholic drink aren’t going to hurt - if you’re really committed to the charade!