i already have a son who my best friend absolutely adores. However, I am not in a relationship with my son’s father and they DO NOT like each other at all. Our relationship was VERY toxic and he put me through so much. However, as I ended the relationship I found out two months later I was pregnant. We coparent very well and our son is THRIVING and so happy. However, one evening I made a stupid mistake and gave into his continuous efforts to try and get back into my bed. I thought nothing of it at the time as it was a week after I was due to ovulate anyway. Until I missed my period. I took a test and two lines straight away. Originally I was petrified. However, coming from a HUGE family I’ve always wanted at least three children because for me siblings are EVERYTHING. So I told ‘Dad’ and he was over the moon. He too has always wanted many children. However, we aren’t in a relationship and I would never get back in a relationship with him. Due to me allowing him to live with me after the birth and he done nothing! No feeds, nappy changes, wouldn’t watch him for 5 minutes to allow me peace to walk my dog, refused to cook or clean up. I was doing EVERYTHING so I didn’t see any point in him being there. But since not being here he has been a better father and my son adores him! The relationship is amazing to watch. Now my bestfriend - it is her 30th Birthday January and we’ve always said our 30ths will be BIG. For mine we went on holiday with our little boys and we had the BEST TIME. For her she wants to go to be a tourist and then a comedy show on the night. I can do that as it’s nothing EXTREME. However, if I told her now I was pregnant she would cancel these plans and then blame me for ruining it due to me being pregnant (I don’t know why she thinks I can’t do anything when pregnant. It happened with my first too) So I was planning on telling her after her birthday (I’d only be 18weeks then, so big baggy clothing would help me cover any bump until then) I just really want to tell her. But #1 she’ll be disappointed in me as I have said I would never go back to that man (but literally two minutes has ended in another pregnancy) it wasn’t planned and I admit I was stupid for going to him. #2 Because she ‘wasn’t ready’ for a child she kind of puts me down. And she’ll say well you don’t have the job you want yet and so many other things that can come later in life ( I don’t see the rush) so why have more children. Why this why that. But my son is very well looked after, he is very smart for his age, he is happy! There’s nothing I would change about his situation and now he’ll have a brother or sister to play with! #3 I just want to tell her NOW as she’ll complain I didn’t tell her first or straight away but I know she’ll cancel her birthday plans and I don’t want that!! I just don’t know what to do