9 weeks early scan not good

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My pregnancy was a surprise, im 40 and didn't think it would happen again. I was really happy and excited though. Pregnancy is really difficult due to me having phenylketonuria (pku) but I was really positive and managing.

I had an appointment with the epu because I've had spotting for3 days, only first thing in the morning and brown.

The scan showed a pregnancy of earlier than 6 weeks, this can't be viable. My dates are pretty clear cut but the hospital can't yet declare a non viable pregnancy, due to measurements.

I'm utterly heartbroken and am facing repeated hospital visits that I don't feel I can cope with. I feel so guilty and I know it isn't logical but I just can't help it. It breaks me seeing my husband so sad.

There is literally no point to this post, I just needed to tell someone, so thank you for listening.

Oh lovely I’m so sorry to hear this.

I’m early days with PCOS and had many losses and this is the first time I’ve reached 7 weeks. Did they not show you a heart beat or see one at all?

@amberu97 they didn't show me anything and didn't mention a heartbeat so I'm not sure. Thank you for replying, I wish you the absolute best with your pregnancy x

They didn't show you the screen at all? That seems odd. If pre 6 weeks I'm assuming they have seen gestational sac and yolk sac only?

I'm so sorry it's not looking good. I've been there and know how horrible it is to be measuring so far behind when you know that it's not possible, especially when hospital can't call it yet. My pregnancy last year was like this - it did actually grow a little and we saw a heartbeat on a subsequent scan but it never caught up and ultimately ended in MMC.

However, I know people who have measured way behind and had a happy ending, so it's not over til it's over. Crossing my fingers tightly that you'll be lucky and your baby is doing its weird and mysterious thing in there.

I'm so sorry, The wait is horrible and the repeated visits.
Sending you strength.
Chat away on here if it helps, Sometimes it does.

I've been there a few times and had the dreaded "Are you sure of your dates" question.

Three bad outcomes and one good one, Happy to answer any questions (if I can)

@ladycarlotta I think she said she could only see a gestational sac and no yolk sac so it very much is looking non viable. I can't quite remember though, I was a bit emotional. I'm back Thursday but not hopeful.

Due to my health condition, I can't eat much when pregnant as it harms baby's development so I'm very tempted to eat a big bowl of rice or a doughnut 🤔but I'll have to wait till confirmation because otherwise I'll feel too guilty.

@McQueensMuse thank you. Yes the wait is horrible and I know it is pretty much hopeless but I can't help but let my mind wander to possibilities. So I will force down all my many tablets and carry on eating my prescription food 😖

Oh I'm so sorry for the worry you're going through OP. Sending you lots of solidarity. I can relate with the torture of waiting, my first pregnancy was anembryonic (or a blighted ovum) and I found the return trips to the hospital to "check", when I knew the dates didn't add up, so difficult as it delayed being able to go about moving forward. But they delay and check for a reason, to be really sure (that's what I told myself anyway). They must do this for the cases where things do progress. I'm currently pregnant for the 4th time (have one DS) and my mantra is "I can't change the outcome". If it doesn't work out for you this time, it's not your fault OP. I wish you well, you will come out the other side. Sending love x

I'm sorry you are going through this OP. Is your DH going with you to scans, or could you take a family member or friend along for support? I assume your DH was checked he wasn't a carrier of PKU? IF things don't work out, you might find the miscarriage association helpful. They have a helpline too.

The Miscarriage Association:Pregnancy Loss Information & Support

@Bumblesbee84 I can absolutely relate to the follow ups difficult due to being able to move on. I'm dreading them tbh. Thank you for your kind words and I hope your pregnancy goes smoothly for you x

@SM4713 thank you, yes my husband was with me today and has booked Thursday off too. He has never been checked to see if he is a carrier but i feel well educated to look after a baby with pku so I don't overly worry. Thank you for that link x