Is there hope for a healthy pregnancy after loss?

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I'm beginning to lose all hope. Me and DH have been trying to conceive since Oct 2022. I had my implant out in October 2022, and fell pregnant instantly, which resulted in a miscarriage at 5 weeks in the Nov. Fell pregnant again in the April, made it to 12 weeks in June to find out baby died at 8+3 on my birthday. I had a natural miscarriage on my birthday at home. Lost all hope, fell pregnant again 6 weeks after this, genuinely thought this might be the one (was due may 13, my lucky number) to have a scan at 7 weeks and it's a blighted ovum (went into hospital to have MM- baby never grew. Even though my sickness was horrific and my tests got darker & darker. Tests and sickness mean nothing to me now. I am 27 and DH is 40 with 2 kids from a previous marriage. We are so desperate for our own baby but I've lost all hope of it ever happening for us. The nhs won't see us yet because you have to have 3 miscarriages and even though I have, the first miscarriage I never went into hospital or anything, it was just confirmed by a midwife over the phone due to all my positive tests then going negative and the bleeding. We can't afford to go private. I get periods every 28 days, and I ovulate CD13 every month without fail. It could be me or DH. So sad we have to have another MC before they look into it for us.

Of course it’s possible but now that you’ve been ttc for over a year you may be able to have some investigation. But you have conceived in that time. I’m sorry for your losses. The good news is that you are young and you have conceived.

dh may need a sperm analysis - that’s fairly cheap and non invasive. Proxeed plus is the only supplement clinically proven to improve sperm.

ive seen people swear by acupuncture too

Yes OP it's possible. I had 5 miscarriages over 7 years before we conceived DS. He's now a healthy, happy four year old.

I won't lie, the NHS were shit every step of the way, they never investigated anything, and it was only when we moved abroad for work that we finally got support with fertility. We were told in Nepal after the last MC to both do zinc supplements for 3 months and I had to do vitamin D as well, and IDK if they actually worked but exactly 3 months after the last miscarriage I got pregnant and that one ended with DS.

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Hi OP I have had 2 miscarriages, one chemical, one missed miscarriage then another at 6.5 weeks.
I then did ivf, had two failed embryo transfers and am now 20 pregnant with my third transfer (frozen) I am older than you but I had good AMH for my age but they thought was probably my egg quality hence the Ivf - it was get more eggs out quicker to find a good one.
Have you read the book it starts with the egg? It has lots of advise and supplements to take for different senarios. I followed that and believe it helped me. X

Sorry 3 not 2*

It's absolutely possible and you're absolutely entitled to investigations that don't require fertility treatment. Based on your early miscarriages it's similar to my experience. I've had 13 pregnancies and only two live children. I had to fight tooth and nail to get medical support.

I strongly recommend getting in touch with Tommys, miscarriage association and SANDs they are legitimately the only reason my children are alive. Thanks to their support I was able to advocate for myself and thanks to their research I was able to have my children without IVF.

Happy to answer any questions and I wish you all the best of luck. I know your pain, you are not alone

I'm so sorry you've gone through this. I also feel really angry for you being refused testing around the cause of the 3 miscarriages, you are absolutely entitled to them.

You may not feel like it, but I would try speaking to more than one medical person if possible. I was turned down for tests by one GP but spoke to a different GP at the same practise and was referred on.

A carer support worker I know used to always recommend saying "OK, please give me the reason for that decision in writing" if you are unhappy with a medical decision. You have a right to ask for a written reason and quite often, rather than give one they will change their mind.

Thank you everyone for your replies and I'm sorry for those who have had losses. I went to the GP today and had a lovely kind doctor and he referred me for all sorts of bloods and further testing, it's a step in the right direction!