Active discussions

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Original poster

I feel somethings wrong😞

41 replies

Pearly1 · 10/11/2023 08:29

When I first found out I was pregnant I did a digi and came back 1-2 I’ve just done another which is 3 weeks later and it’s stil 1-2!! I’m 7+3 today and even my Ic isn’t super dark. Has anyone experienced this before and what was the outcome?xx

pic added the top ic is this morning and the one underneath was last week and the others the week before. Didi is this mornings

I feel somethings wrong😞
OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Set a reminder
cherryscola · 10/11/2023 20:40

Sorry to hear that OP, glad you got to the hospital when you did and are being looked after.

TeaKitten · 10/11/2023 20:44

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

You told her she was being ridiculous and that if she wasn’t bleeding it was fine - outright wrong advice. Tests staying positive but not progressing and the pain can both indicative of ectopic. You were harsh and wrong and you’ve made yourself look like even more of an ass now. Maybe find some empathy before posting on sensitive threads next time.

LightSpeeds · 10/11/2023 21:07

Thinking of you OP xx

goababy · 10/11/2023 22:06

I'm so sorry OP, this is awful and I'm shocked at some of the replies you received. I hope you aren't in too much pain and the hospital take good care of you.

mummyh2016 · 10/11/2023 22:21

@TeaKitten in @Screwballs defence the OP only mentioned about the pain after @Screwballs had first posted. The very first post made it sound as though the OP was only worried because the clearblue tests weren't progressing.

Sorry for what you're going through OP.

TeaKitten · 10/11/2023 22:25

mummyh2016 · 10/11/2023 22:21

@TeaKitten in @Screwballs defence the OP only mentioned about the pain after @Screwballs had first posted. The very first post made it sound as though the OP was only worried because the clearblue tests weren't progressing.

Sorry for what you're going through OP.

It’s not a defence, screwballs posted twice after that telling the OP she was bonkers and that a midwife wouldn’t be interested at 7 weeks.

Hiddenvoice · 11/11/2023 07:53

Op I’ve just read your update- I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m glad you trusted your instincts and phoned for help.

mummyh2016 · 11/11/2023 09:47

@TeaKitten she was right though! At my local trust midwives can't do anything or see you for anything non routine until you're 16 weeks. Any MC symptoms you have to present at A+E and even then they're unlikely to do anything unless you're having ectopic symptoms - what the OP described at the time wasn't stereotypical MC symptoms. A friend had a miscarriage a few years ago at 8 weeks. She was told to go to A+E, they wouldn't even scan her to check it had completed, she was told to attend her 12 week scan in 4 weeks time. There are continuous posts on here about how lacking the MC care is with the NHS. It is also very normal to suffer cramping during early pregnancy. Yes @Screwballs maybe could've worded it a bit nicer but she wasn't nasty.

TeaKitten · 11/11/2023 09:53

mummyh2016 · 11/11/2023 09:47

@TeaKitten she was right though! At my local trust midwives can't do anything or see you for anything non routine until you're 16 weeks. Any MC symptoms you have to present at A+E and even then they're unlikely to do anything unless you're having ectopic symptoms - what the OP described at the time wasn't stereotypical MC symptoms. A friend had a miscarriage a few years ago at 8 weeks. She was told to go to A+E, they wouldn't even scan her to check it had completed, she was told to attend her 12 week scan in 4 weeks time. There are continuous posts on here about how lacking the MC care is with the NHS. It is also very normal to suffer cramping during early pregnancy. Yes @Screwballs maybe could've worded it a bit nicer but she wasn't nasty.

I didn’t say ‘nasty’, and mumsnet have deleted one of her replies so even they agree. Being unnecessarily harsh to posters on sensitive posts is shitty. Clearly you think it’s fine, good for you, nethermind that she upset the OP. Anyway neither of us are helping the OP so it’s time to move on.

I hope you are doing as ok as possible today OP.

Screwballs · 11/11/2023 13:36

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

Wt12 · 11/11/2023 13:49

I'm so sorry you are going through this right now OP. Sending love x

elisha1375 · 11/11/2023 18:33

So sorry you’re going through this 💔 and @Screwballs what a nasty comment. She’s used this forum for some support and horribly inaccurate. My baby died over a week ago, I’ve had no bleeding any my hcg was doubling so it’s incorrect.

lemonyfox · 11/11/2023 18:36

Wallflower1988 · 10/11/2023 15:34

Hi there,

whilst it is not generally recommended to continue testing/ I have had 2 ectopic pregnancies and 2 ‘normal’ pregnancies (one ending in missed miscarriage at 8 weeks). Both my ectopics I knew something was happening before I was scanned because my tests were progressing very slowly (I had no other symptoms). With my other two pregnancies the tests got darker and week indicators progressed as expected. This isn’t to scare you or suggest this is happening to you- I have a very specific situation that is highly unusual, but I’m saying if you are worried get yourself checked out- I didn’t do that first time and drove myself crazy until I eventually found out I was right. It could equally be that your urine concentration isn’t so strong or other factors could impact on this.

What I would say is that if you’re experiencing pain and are worried call your local early pregnancy unit. Because you have had some pain they may want to do a blood test to measure your HCG or do an ultrasound. They probably won’t care much that the tests haven’t got darker but I would mention this too. I always have scans at 6 weeks now having had ectopics (as directed from the early pregnancy unit), if I wasn’t offered this and experienced anxiety I would just book a private scan.

good luck OP fingers crossed!!

Sorry to hijack the thread but... I've had two ectopics and I'm struggling to conceive afterwards. Did you have your normal pregnancies after your ectopics? And how long did it take you to conceive, if so?

Wallflower1988 · 11/11/2023 19:18

Hiya,

Yes my two ectopics were my first 2 pregnancies- first was an accident, second took 3/4 months to conceive. I had my Fallopian tube removed after my second, started trying again straight away and then got pregnant on my third month of trying (missed miscarriage). Then I got pregnant again my first cycle (a few weeks after surgical management of miscarriage) and now have my baby :). We’ve just started trying again and whilst it was so horrible I’d do it all over in a heartbeat.

I thought it’d never happen but it did, I saw a fertility person to discuss it all and was told losing one Fallopian tube reduced fertility to roughly 70%, and that the egg from one ovary can ‘cross over’ to the other side. I was also told that if you are able to become pregnant once, the chances are it’ll happen again but it’d probably take longer given the reduced fertility. With my pregnancy resulting in actual baby I ovulated from the opposite side.

I hope that is helpful, I was desperate to hear positive stories- especially after my second. I know at least 3 people who have had 2 ectopics and now have their babies.

take care :)

princefamilypaper · 12/11/2023 09:52

I'm so sorry Op xx

thelonemommabear · 12/11/2023 10:15

I'm so sorry to see your update OP I was actually coming on to reply and say always go with your gut instinct - I had several miscarriages and ectopic pregnancies and clear blue digital with weeks was accurate in indicating something wasn't right on every single one x

New posts on this thread. Refresh page