DS risk 1/60 and am over 40. Anyone else had similar risk?

[Oldasthehills]

I had a nuchal scan last week which looked good (nuchal measurement 1.3mm) but with my bloods and age my risk is 1/60 of DS.
The staff nurse who called me acted like this was terrible news, and obviously it isn't great but I have medical friends who say this level of risk is not too surprising given my age.
I'm going to the Fetal medicine centre in Lond for cvs this week depending on what their risks say.
Just feel very odd and nervous about the cvs hurting and the risk to this much longed for pregnancy. I have one ds7, had one mc, and this is the first time I've managed to get pg since then! It took three years to get pg with ds!

Do many people miscarry after cvs really? Some people say that they quote 1% mc to cover themselves but that it is actually quite rare.

Would love to hear from anyone who's been through this!

cece, I'm so sorry for your loss

did they have any idea why your daughter died?

My result was 1/16 when I was 40 and pregnant with DD, I was offered subsequent testing but refused. DD was born 10 months ago and is absolutely fine - no problems at all.

No they didn't know why. Just that the problem seemed to start about 2 weeks prior to her dying. She was measuring smaller than 18 and half weeks... think about 16 weeks or so....But that is not unusal, apparently over 50 % of in utero deaths are of unknown causes.

Gosh cece that sounds devastating. And what along wait for answers. I hope you got some.

cece,I once met a pathologist who said she tried everything to give bereaved parents an answer to why their baby died, she was very passionate about her work and it's so sad that people are often left with no answers.

Hope was born in Dec so it usually takes about 8-10 weeks to get the results back from the pathologist and they don't like to offer an appointment till the get the report in writing.

cross posted. Sorry you had to go through that.

bundle - the doc did comment that he was surprised the report was so detailed and thororugh but even then they couldn't find out why.

I know there is a shortage of pathologists, and an even bigger shortage of paediatric pathologists

the one I met was based at Barts/the London but did post mortems for all of north london as well as south london sometimes

The bereavement midwife told me there are only 14 peri natal pathologists in the country.

Hope had to be sent off to a London hosptial for her post mortem.

What a lovely name.

It seemed approriate as we had been hoping for the best

oh cece, I'm sure they took the best of care of her, this woman was one of the most dedicated professionals I've ever met. she was almost in tears telling me some of the stories..

profile of her

sorry for hijack,oldasthehills

yes sorry for the hijack oldasthehills

I had an amnio for 1/100 Downs' with dd.

It wan't so much painful as very, very uncomfortable, and it felt as though my whole body was in shock afterwards, very shivery and stiff for a day.

But I was so glad to be able to proceed with the pregnancy without the worry.

but I think, as others have said, that your risk is pretty standard for age 40.

this is a very interesting thread.
For me, as i said, i need definitive answers and my decision is absolute, i would not continue with the pregnancy should the worst be confirmed.

Yes children with downs can live independant lives but you cannot say hand on heart that that child would not have severe health problems associated with Downs.
The amnio can detect many chromosomal abnormalities, not just Downs.

I fully accept that there are no absolutes when it comes to this baby making lark, it is by far the most natural yet the most difficult thing to do.

I am adamant that i will give no explanations to any one about my reasons for needing to terminate an abnomal pregnancy. My reasons are my own.
The act of becoming pregnant and maintaining a pregnancy has never come easy to me, the most precious thing i have is my child, we had huge difficulties getting him. The decision is ripping my heart out as i sit here waiting for a scan next Monday to confirm if i am going to lose this baby or not, yet it is at the forefront of my mind.
I have many hurdles to jump before i even get to the amnio stage.

donbean, xxx

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i just thought id say im 40 and 21+3 wks pg i have a child with ds hes nearly 7 yes he was born with heart disease and is due to have surgery soon he is my star the most lovable child i have. i refused all tests mainly due to the fact i could not terminate once id made up my mind on that one i knew id be happy throughout my pregnancy whatever the outcome i still have fears and worries and i am going for heart echo very soon to check out the babys heart but thats it .just to say charlie goes to mainstream school is very popular joins in everything is so very clever at reading and problem solving hes a very practical liltle boy as you can gather i love him to bits.it was hard at first i was kinda scared of him being so responsible for this special child as he couldnt feed when born and was tube fed up until 1 year ago hes very tiny at nearly 7 he wears age 3/4 clothes and weighs less than 2 stone but i expected him to be different.the only prob i guess we have is other ppls attitude to him in supermarkets little children stare at him which is fine charlie smiles back and says hi but its the parents they are like "dont look its rude" that upsets charlie probable more than anything.sorry im rambling here now back to main question though when i found out i was pg this time i was devastated through fear so scared to do it again but i sat down with my dh we said this child is a gift to us no one else can create this unique baby but us we are going to give every chance and love it unconditionally,i know this desicion isnt for everyone just thought id share my experience with you to give you a different perspective,who says children have to be "normal" to fit in or rather they have to fit in with the adults perspective of family life.

done!

ah dysneystar you are a lucky lucky lady truly, but for you this was right, for me, not.
All children are gifts (even mine when i know in my heart that he will go to young offenders then onto prison LOL)

your post has made me from ear to ear x

i hope i dont offend anyone here i realise my decision was mine alone and i respect we all have own choices to make i respect anyones decision i know this can be a upsetting subject ive been through it myself apologies in advance if i upset anyone

have CAT you donbean