Miscarriage options

[baby197]

Hello

This is my first pregnancy.

I’ve had confirmation today that I am having a miscarriage, baby was measuring 2/3 weeks behind (6 weeks when I should be 8+5) HB was slow over the weekend and had stopped on re scan today 😢

I’m going to EPU tomorrow to discuss options. The sonographer today said that the sac is “floating around” which indicates my body is preparing to miscarry. I would really like this just to happen naturally, the other options terrify me.

Can anyone tell me how long after the HB stopped did you miscarry?
Please don’t tell me any awful stories about either option (medication / surgery). I just feel so heartbroken, lost and unsure what to do next x

I can’t really answer your question as my mc was a mmc - by the time I found out he/she had died they’d been gone a few weeks. But I just wanted to respond and say how sorry I am. It’s horrible and heartbreaking.

I think if you want to miscarry naturally there’s no reason why not? Hopefully someone more knowledgeable than me can share their experiences though. I went for the surgical option and it was fine - I just didn’t want to see anything basically and it was pain free.

Totally up to you and I really hope everything goes as ok as it possibly can ❤️ xxx

So sorry you're going through this.

Like the above poster mine was mmc so I can't say how long after the heartbeat stopped. They had stopped growing a week before we found out and I had the miscarriage naturally a day after we found out.

It's much more likely you'll be able to have the miscarriage naturally, especially since it's already started. I was also scared of the idea of surgery and relieved things happened naturally. I would recommend taking painkillers like co-codomemol or at least ibuprofen when it starts. I didn't take them right away as the pain was very mild at first and I was then nauseous when the pain became strong so couldn't keep them down. The strong pain lasted about 30 mins to 45 mins and I found holding an ice pack to my stomach helped. Mine happened at 9.5 weeks with the baby having grown to 8.5 weeks so hopefully yours will be less painful being earlier. If I'd known the strong pain would end so quickly it would have helped me. Although we were emotionally devastated, when the pain stopped we actually felt calm and strangely positive that night, to have that part over, and I was able to eat, drinks and watch tv as normal that evening. I'm pregnant again now.

Wishing you all the best.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had three miscarriages. One I had surgery for, one I took tablets to bring on bleeding (medical
Management?) and one I just miscarried naturally. The one with the least 'side effects' was the surgical management. I didn't have any pain or much bleeding afterwards. The other two miscarriages I had cramping and heavy bleeding.

It's personal what method you choose. I didn't want to wait so opted for surgical and medical management when it wasn't happening naturally. I know it can feel scary, but in my experience with all 3 of mine, the emotional side was far worse than the physical.

I hope whichever method you choose goes smoothly (as much as it can) and that you have people you can lean on for emotional support. Best of luck.

@baby197 sorry to hear about your situation and its a horrible position to be in. Like the others I also had a mmc, which was picked up at the 12 week scan but baby measured 6 weeks. Everyone's experience will be different, I decided to let it happen naturally but my body seemed to want to hold on to it. At about 13 weeks I started to miscarry with heavy bleeding and clots every few days with medium bleeding in between, then about 15 weeks had the strong pain and very heavy bleeding when the miscarriage completed. The second time I had a miscarriage I chose surgical management so I didn't have to go through the uncertainty of when it was going to happen. But it sounds like yours will happen soon.

I had a MMC in April, baby was only measuring 5+5 at 7+6 despite strong heartbeat so I knew it wasn't going to last.

I also didn't want surgical option and opted to see if it passed naturally over the weekend. I actually ended up calling them to book ERPC on the Monday morning but passed it naturally the next day. It took 10 days from bleeding to passing, I think it was 11/12 days from the heartbeat actually stopping (from my own calculations).

I'm so sorry that your baby has died. I've been there twice with a missed miscarriage. The first one I had an early scan at 12 weeks because I was spotting. Baby had died at 6 weeks. I was told to come back 2 weeks later just in case but I miscarried naturally the next day. 2nd one I was there for my dating scan at 13+2 and baby had died at 9 weeks. I chose to have the surgical option that time, for various different reasons.

I have recently had MMC. Embryo stopped developing at 6 weeks. MMC discovered at 12. Mine seemed to have no intention of leaving naturally and I opted for surgery, by which time I was 14 weeks. All went well.

I'm so sorry OP my heart goes out to you

I went through several miscarriages and always chose to do them naturally at home. From starting spotting to passing everything it would usually be around a week. Lots of hot baths to relax muscles, stock up on super strength paracetamol with codeine and super max pads. Sleep on towels as often bleeding started at night. I was able to WFH and that helped to keep my mind busy whilst waiting and also meant I didn't have to go out too much as I didn't want to risk having a large bleed whilst out and about x

I had some bleeding 8/9 weeks then uss a bit like yours. Bleeding got heavier and heavier than miscarried naturally and completely. I imagine you might bleed quite soon. Good luck. My next pregnancy came within a few months and went to term normally x x x

I’m not sure how to reply to everyone individually but honestly thank you so much for sharing your experiences and offering advice. It’s much appreciated and has made this awful time a little easier. I don’t feel so alone.
Thank you xxxx

I’m going through the same thing right now but I wasn’t really given the surgical option, baby died at 6 weeks, I had a scan booked for 6 and a half weeks but I don’t think I’ll be passing it anytime soon, nurse told me surgical has more complications but I’ve been told surgical is better? I’m really confused on what to do. Sorry you’re going through this, its so unfair and cruel

Hi Elisha1375, so sorry for your loss. I think management is very much down to the individual. I went for surgical for two reasons myself. One because the pregnancy had been there, non viable, for several weeks and they were keen to remove quickly for this reason and secondly because I had read so many stories of people having a natural loss or medical management and having tissue left behind which needed surgery anyway.
I dont think any medical or natural procedure in this situation is without some small risk so I guess it is just a case of going with the options you are given/what you feel is best for you. I am so sorry you have experienced this loss. There are a lot of us on here, holding hands and being here virtually for each other and I wish you a safe management and hapoy future pregnancy/s xx

I have been unfortunate to have four. First mmc was picked up at the 12 week scan. It took a week then I passed naturally one afternoon. I was in horrible pain, worse than any period pain I have ever experienced. Luckily it coincided with having booked a week off, but that day my husband was at work, so was on my own and it was awful. I couldn’t imagine doing that at work.

The next one I chose surgical. The idea of going through that pain and not knowing when it would happen was something I could not do again. It was painless, quick, had no issues. My husband picked me up, we had a cry, had some cheese and wine and cuddled on the sofa and watched something silly. I did the same for the others. I would 100% choose that if I have the misfortune to go through it again.

So sorry you are going through this, it is such a hard time.

I started to pass naturally this morning before I even got to EPU for my appointment. By the time I had my scan this afternoon, the sonographer could not see any remaining tissue, It has all happened very quickly.
I really do appreciate everyone’s advice. Thank you so much xxx

Ahh bless you baby197. Hooe your recovery is smooth and you get your rainbow baby soon xx

Sending you best wishes, so sorry for your loss.