Mood swings

[Mbag]

I'm 15 weeks pregnant and this is the first time I'm pregnant. I'm having terrible mood swings and when this happens I have really negative thoughts with being pregnant. I think this is starting to effect my relationship with my husband. When I start to feel like this, should I just shut myself away in a room for a while until it passes? I honestly don't know what to do anymore. Any advice appreciated 🙂

I haven't been pregnant so I don't know exactly what ur going through and it sounds really not nice for you but my advise is don't shut urself off from him because it will put more strain on the relationship and it might cause ur mental health to get bad, my advise is to tell him what u have told us, tell him that the mood swings are making u have thoughts and u don't know how to cope and hopefully he will sympathise instead of causing arguments, it's always best to talk abt stuff because if u shut ur self off it will just way more stress on you and you don't need that if ur pregnant xx

I second the poster above in saying not to lock yourself away, speak with someone be it a midwife, counsellor or Samaritans.

I think there's an expectation that pregnancy is a happy wonderful thing, and for some it is but for others it really messed with how you feel and those feelings can quickly spiral.

If you don't feel able to speak with your partner or if you get upset when you try to speak maybe journal it and share that with him.

Maybe write down what your fears are and on a less emotional day look at them and try work through them.

I know when I'm upset I cannot make sense of anything and s day or 2 after I can usually work out what's irrational fear and what could be genuine fears that I can research to either prepare or reduce how I feel.

I'm only 6 weeks and 5 days and did it as IVF (had 3 IUIs & 2 IVF and been in planning for 5 years ) as single but when I got my positive test I spent the first 2 days wondering what the hell I had done and thinking it was the biggest mistake ever and those days felt dark and speaking to people outside of my friend circle was good, have one told 1 friend so far.

Hormones play a big part in it so be kind to yourself too

Thank you for the advice @rhutchins48. Yeah, maybe shutting myself off isn't the best thing to do but I was thinking along those lines so then I wouldn't cause an argument and he wouldn't have to know how negatively I was thinking as I think it upsets him when I say how I am feeling out loud.

@ttcsolomumtobe you are right about the hormones and I understand where you are coming from when you say you felt like it was your biggest mistake. I know on my really low days I do wonder if getting pregnant was the right thing to do as I've had really bad nausea too and have generally felt ill for about 2 months of the pregnancy. But then on the better days I am glad I am pregnant. But next time I feel low I will try to write down how I am feeling and unpick it later as in the moment I cannot see or think rationally.
Thank you both for your advice :)