Not enjoying pregnancy

[Raysalexandra]

Hi everyone, I’m currently 14 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I’m really not enjoying pregnancy. The first trimester was awful, the tiredness was unbearable and I had the worst nausea. The nausea has settled to what it was but I still feel so sick all of the time. I feel so uncomfortable in my body and still so tired. Is anyone else feeling the same? Does this get better or will I feel like this for the rest of my pregnancy? None of my friends have ever been pregnant so don’t have much support apart from my partner who I feel such a burden to. Xx

Yes! The first trimester for me was 4 months of my worst hungover. Every single day.
If it helps, with my first pregnancy, around 14-15 weeks, everything changed. Nausea disappeared, I got my energy back and finally started to enjoy my pregnancy. Hopefully, your symptoms will ease soon.
I'm pregnant again and feeling horrible, again! The second trimester can't come fast enough!

@Katherina02837 it’s awful isn’t it! I’m so glad I’m not the only one. I’ve been so moody and down for the past couple of months because of the tiredness and extreme nausea! I really hope it does settle over the next few weeks, I’ll be so relieved! I feel bad for you that you’re still in first trimester, really hope it goes better for you this time xx

I had HG all the way through and hated every day. Still did it 4 times and love being a mum.

Currently not so much as my adult son is being really grumpy this morning but was in A&E and hospital with a serious infection this week so I'm being tolerant.

Is there any expectation that pregnancy is enjoyable?

I'm 18 weeks and still have very difficult days but after week 15 it's definitely got easier. I'm very grateful for this precious baby but no, I don't think I'll ever enjoy pregnancy and just coming to terms with it.

By 17 weeks I started to feel better and the tiredness subsided and I felt like I had a nice pregnancy from then onwards.
I think week 34/35 I started being a really restless sleeper, I’d end up on the couch watching some bingeable mind numbing series at 4am to try and doze off. Pregnancy tired is soo much worse then newborn tired IMO.

I'm not sure I know anyone who enjoyed being pregnant, OP. Your body is pushed to its very limits. It's rubbish.

Ive had an easy go of it, but Ive still hated it.
Im 18 weeks now, and second trimester is DEFINITELY better, but its still not great. My baby is SITTING on my bladder. I constantly feel like I need to pee, even though I really dont!
But at least the food aversions and nausea are gone!

I am very grateful for my baby, but pregnancy is not nice.

I do know people who loved it, I just dont understand HOW!

The nausea is the worst part, especially when it’s all day no break from it. I’m 38 weeks and still struggling with it and it’s been the most miserable 9 months of my entire life. First pregnancy and I can’t see me doing it again!! Don’t feel bad for not enjoying it, everyone is different and being poorly for so long is soul destroying and miserable. Hope it doesn’t last much longer for you!

You have my sympathies. I HATED my 2nd pregnancy. I felt awful for the whole 9 months and was miserable. The upside is that looking after a toddler and newborn was a doddle in comparison! Hope you feel better soon OP. If not, sleep is your friend

@Yarnle omg that’s awful I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with it your whole pregnancy!! Xx

The vast majority of people feel better by the second trimester (which was the case in my first pregnancy) so please don't let my experience scare you!

I’m the same. When I found out I was pregnant I thought this will be my last and I should appreciate it, but at 32 weeks I’m desperate for it to be over and will try remember this feeling so I don’t feel bad about ever being pregnant again. My pregnancy has been routine and so I’ve been fortunate not to have the hard times some have with constant nausea.

I found the first trimester completely unenjoyable too, and I was lucky enough to just have nausea (no vomiting). I also had a lot of headaches and tiredness which didn't really subside until about week 16. Once I started feeling kicks (17 weeks) and had my 20 week scan I began to enjoy pregnancy a lot more and got my energy and appetite back! I know some people struggle with discomfort throughout pregnancy, but I've definitely felt more like myself during the second and third trimesters. Though I'm starting to get into the uncomfortable stage now at 32 weeks 😂

Does this get better or will I feel like this for the rest of my pregnancy?

Nope and yes. Sorry.

@Treetophill This makes me feel so much better! I havent vomited either, mainly dry wretching, its just constant nausea. Hopefully im the same and it settles from 16 weeks! awww no i hope you dont feel too uncomfortable, not long to go!! 😁xx

I’m currently 21 weeks pregnant with my first baby. I had a terrible first trimester and felt miserable being pregnant. I was exhausted, constantly nauseated, vomiting, had the worst food aversions and just was generally quite miserable. The nausea and vomiting lucky subsided at the end it the first trimester and the tiredness slowly got better during the start of the 2nd trimester.

I wouldn’t say that I love being pregnant quite honestly but it’s so much better now than it was. It felt never ending. I defo am more excited now as well.

I didn’t enjoy it until about 32 weeks. Then I loved having a bump and feeling her move all the time. I now miss those last few weeks a lot! Before 32 weeks was hell though for ever changing reasons

I found the first trimester really hard too and had similar thoughts as you. I used to think about how it's so much to put your body through.

Good news is: most people find the second trimester much better. I actually loved the second trimester, felt soooo much better compared to the first. You're so close 🧡 you'll hopefully then feel more "you".

I really hated being pregnant. You're fed a diet of "glowing mama" so I felt guilty for hating the experience too. My body constantly hurt and I was so uncomfortable the entire time. It made me wonder if I could be maternal because I hated it so much.