To not be excited? Is this normal? Help.

[rahrsh]

Hello everyone. I'm just looking for advice. I'm 9 weeks pregnant 3rd child. My others are 5&6 I don't struggle but as any children they're are abit of a handful they fight A lot which has always stressed me out as I have mental health (anxiety&ptsd) < (please don't look down on me because I have these) anyway Since about 6weeks pregnant I have experienced nausea no sickness till about 8 weeks then actually started being sick. Doctors prescribed anti sickness tablets but I kid you not as soon as I took them they would make me feel more sick and completely put me to sleep. Haven't been able to get an appointment since for different ones. I've been struggling with being down and not excited one bit with this pregnancy to the point I don't want to go to scans etc. I am very stressed I've had 2 teeth fall out since 6 weeks pregnant which has made me hugely conscious then ontop of that throwing up everyday and trying to mother 2 children that argue and fight everyday while my partner works. Is this feeling I'm having because I've got a lot on or do you think I could suffer postpartum after? I'm so worried about that

It sounds like you're completely overwhelmed! And no wonder, you've got so much going on both internally and externally. You're trying to be a good mum and be there for your children which, let's face it, is exhausting at the best of times. Plus you're dealing with physical things like the issue with your teeth and your mental health. It also sounds as though your partner maybe isn't around much so a lot of the everyday things are falling on your shoulders. Honey, you're human, not a superhero! Anybody would be exhausted and pushed to the brink with all of this going on.

Give yourself some credit for what you've achieved, take a moment to just tell yourself how amazingly you're doing right now. You need some time to appreciate you, to stop and breathe.

I think it would be really good if you could talk to someone about your wellbeing, can you ask your midwife to refer you to someone? The support would really help you and in turn would benefit everyone around you as you'd feel like you could cope more. I think not wanting to go to the scans and not feeling excited makes sense, you're overwhelmed and stressed and right now you don't have capacity for anything else. Maybe it's worth thinking about how that's going to feel once you've had little one and where you're going to find that capacity from. That's another thing that would be good to talk to someone about, you can't expect to figure it all out on your own.

Please see if you can get some sort, you deserve it and right now you need someone to be there just for you. Sending so much love xxx

@MarmiteMumma thankyou so much for taking time to help. I really appreciate this and it made me feel less guilty , just find my self snapping a lot because I constantly feel sick and have anxiety about my teeth. On top of feeling dreadfully I'll I have to get 3 teeth out at the same time on Monday which I'm petrified of dentists. I was supposed to get out to sleep for this but found out I was pregnant after booking it so now my anxiety is through the roof. Also my partner can't get off work so when I have them taken out I will be doing school runs all week with pain and no front teeth🙂 I feel drained x

Early pregnancy really is horrible, I didn’t feel excited at all.

If I were you I’d keep trying to get different anti sickness pills. Feeling sick is awful, and it feels so much like anxiety sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference. I really believe it’s impossible to feel happy and sick at the same time.

@rahrsh you're taking on so much. Is there any way you can get your partner to watch the kids tomorrow so you can get some rest? Or can you ask a friend to go with you to the dentist and help with the school run afterwards? Or maybe they could even go to a friend's house after school for a bit? I just feel like you need to be able to have some space to breathe.

If none of that is possible then just try and get as many early nights as you can. Try using some mediating videos on YouTube when you go to bed and just find some space for yourself to be calm.

Keep telling yourself - I've got this, I've birthed 2 children - I can do scary shit, soon this will all pass and just be a memory 😘😘😘

@DuploTrain @MarmiteMumma thankyou for the advice girls I feel better to talk to you. I've just had enough I'm so mentally drained my partners very supportive as much as he can be I'm very appreciative of him. I just feel genuinely so sick and poorly all day everyday I've cried non stop because I'm petrified of getting my teeth out tommorow, I have no family my only friend has children off school tommorow so no help there. I haven't had this and anxiety for 5 years and it's 100% hit me today I've woke up shaking etc.

Just wanted to say good luck for tomorrow, it'll be over before you know it, keep breathing, you've got this mama x