Dealing with rude people/anxiety

[Em23012]

Hello, guess I need a little rant as I'm feeling quite lonely in this pregnancy

I had a missed miscarriage earlier this year and now I'm pregnant with my rainbow baby (21 weeks) everything is going well so far but I still have a huge amount of anxiety and people around me are sucking every bit of happiness I have

I've had comments such as "you're huge" "you're going to be massive" "are you sure you're only halfway" "are you sure it's not twins" and in relation to my pelvic girdle pain/ligament pain I've had "pregnancy isn't a disability" "it's not normal to be in that much pain at your gestation" (this sent me into complete panic mode thinking something was wrong) even though my midwife, GP and physio said it was normal

I've also had women in work be quite rude to me when I try and sit down for a rest as my job is very physical and 12 hour shifts I've had "stop slacking" and I've noticed some people have started to ignore me

Has anyone out there had any similar situations im just feeling so deflated and lonely, luckily I have a very supportive husband but everyone else seems to be so rude at the moment

sorry to hear what you had to endure! It’s not pleasant to hear comments when you not asked for one!! I had similar experience early in my pregnancy , was overwhelmed from comments from others.

in my case, I had a good cry and similar to you have a supportive husband . This was great help.

after the cry, feel like i am reset. And back to look forward focus on growing a healthy baby.

in fact , I then realised I don’t have time to care what people say. I’ve so much to do before the baby arrives!!

watch some comedy will help too!

Sorry to hear you’re dealing with that, however I’m very much of the opinion that unsolicited opinions were not welcome before, and they’re absolutely not welcome now
no one needs to be commenting on your weight or your health? just say oh wow that was rude, I can’t imagine commenting on your weight, or whatever it is they’re going on about.
And did you previously ask these women for feedback or commentary on how hard you were working? If not, there’s no reason for them to offer it now either. Don’t be scared to say so.
i am sorry people are so rude. It’s weird.

I'm sorry you are going through this. But it's only the beginning! In my experience, people will have even more "opinions" when it comes to parenting.
The only way to deal with it is either learn to ignore it (I never managed to do that) or tell them to keep their opinions to themselves (I do that all the time, especially with family-they are the worst).
You are a mother now and the baby's and your health are the most important. If you feel you need a break, you take a break! If your colleagues have an issue with that, that is their problem.

I agree with you @Katherina02837 , indeed surprisingly it’s fam opinion turned out to be the most annoying ones!!

I did not realise until joining mumsnet that the unwanted opinion and advice is so common among the pregnant women!!