When to tell my partner I'm pregnant?

[Helen1815]

Hiya,

I hope this finds everyone well 😊

So I suppose my question is, when do I tell my partner that I am pregnant??

This year we have had 3 miscarriages, one was a missed and I had to have an MVA. We found out that one was a wee boy- that hit hard.

I found out yesterday I was pregnant, still very very early but I'm getting positives none the less. I've to phone the EPU tomorrow morning to arrange an appointment. I was told I'd need to start progesterone when I fell pregnant next.

I am so desperate to tell him as part of me is so happy and excited but the other part of me is jist waiting for the bleeding to start, it won't stick so do I really need to tell him, only for him to hurt?? Why hurt us both when it can be prevented?

It's such a negative, horrible feeling to have BUT it's realistic. From past experiences anyway.

What do I do? What is best? Is there any right way to do it?

I hope to hear anyways and thanks for giving the time to read this!

xx

Best of luck with this pregnancy, I had 2 MCs between my first child and current pregnancy (I’m 35 weeks) and it was really tough. I think you need to tell him now, otherwise if you unfortunately do MC you’ll need to go through it alone? I know it’s tough but you’re in this together x

Tell him now. He will be devastated if you keep it from him

Sorry to hear about your previous miscarriages. I had 3 miscarriages also and also went through the same questions as yourself. I felt I didn't want to tell anyone because it was making me feel like I was just going to upset everyone again when it went wrong. I think I went a week of it just being my little secret but then my partners boss had covid and my partner was wondering whether he should work from home so I was kinda forced to tell him then. Luckily, I think progesterone did the trick for me and the pregnancy was successful and I was glad I had my partner to hold my hand through it. However, on the flip side, I also felt there was No excitement about this pregnancy because we were both just so anxious. Felt like I told him and it was a similar reaction if I'd have just said something very minor like, we're having chicken for tea. Like the pregnancy announcement to my partner had just become another everyday sort of thing. I hate that I was robbed of that excitement and the exciting buzz of it. I told my partner that I was thinking about keeping it a surprise for a while and he told me he wished I had because it would have been a bit of excitement again seeing that the pregnancy had progressed way past what it had done before.

Do what you feel is right for your mental health and how you will cope with it. Everyone deals with things differently. I personally like to handle things on my own and feel like people knowing makes me feel more anxious and like there's pressure on me to actually deliver a baby if you know what I mean.

Such an awful time and I'm wishing you all the luck in the world with this pregnancy ❤️

Tell him now, don't keep things like this from your partner

Tell him now.

Tell him, he will want to be involved and if this pregnancy does not workout then you'll need his support, you won't want to do this by yourself.

You are a couple you are in it together, good and bad.

Tell him now.

Agree with the others, tell him now.

I think it’s your choice and you need to do what’s best for you.

Of course tell him now.

So sorry for ur previous loss but a huge congratulations 🎊. I would tell him now, he would be so upset if you didn't. You have achother for support. Best of luck