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Comments on bump size

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Peachtails · 27/10/2023 10:02

Hi everyone,

Has anyone else found people will comment on the size of their baby bump?

I'm 26 weeks with a lovely round bump. Baby is healthy and when the midwife measured my bump at my last appointment it was textbook perfect.

I mentioned to her about the many MANY comments I've received on my 'size' and she reassured me that everyone's bump is different as every baby and mum to be body shape is different and to take no notice. This has ranged from family members to waitress to people on the bus.

I've just had a man ask me how long left I have to go, I said 3 months ish! His response was 'I don't mean to sound rude but aren't you a bit too big'.

And because of the nature of my job I couldn't really answer him back so I just ignored the comment and carried on.

I was a decent size 12 before I got pregnant so I wasn't fat nor thin, I just seem to have gone all bump.

I know it's not a big deal in the grand scheme of things but it just gets tiring, and with all these hormones flying about sometimes it can be a bit upsetting too.

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britespark1 · 27/10/2023 10:04

People are ridiculously rude about baby bumps! I got asked if I was carrying a baby elephant with my first 😂just ignore as best you can.

Sa11yCinnamon · 27/10/2023 10:07

People are so fucking rude, I'd respond with an unsolicited comment on a part of their body and see how they like it.

Anyflippingname · 27/10/2023 10:10

People are unbelievably rude and weird. I get the same and I just sort of smile and think HOW CAN YOU SAY SOMETHING SO RUDE WITH A STRAIGHT FACE?

Lorelaigilmore88 · 27/10/2023 10:23

Yes I found this. I was at work about 5 months pregnant and someone (who I don't know well) commented that I looked MUCH further along than 5 months and 'was I sure because I think you look much further along'.
Yes thanks, I think I'm best placed to know how pregnant I am. It made me feel like a whale.
But when you're pregnant it feels like its open season for people to look at you and pass comments. Don't get me started on the guy who later tried (and failed) to find out if I'd delivered by csec or naturally 🙄

Fluffysockswizzard · 27/10/2023 10:28

Yes I have been getting comments except it's "you sure you're due soon? There's nothing there" - which annoyed me because i've already had to have growth scans as the baby was measuring small! It's rude, I personally wouldn't be making comments like that to anyone

ThisOneNow · 27/10/2023 10:31

Oh god - I remember those comments with my second. "Are you sure it's not twins" all the time! And "How lovely, a Christmas baby" when I was due mid-March. DC was bang on average size when he arrived.

Juicyjuicymango · 27/10/2023 13:02

Good lord, I would have responded to him 'well you DO sound rude whether you mean to or not!'

Unfortunately pregnancy seems to be an open invitation for people to comment on your body and the way you live your life (ahem, coffee shop people assuming I want decaf...if I want decaf I'll ask for it!)

The unsolicited comments only get worse once baby arrives so you'll need to think of some good come backs and/or practice ignoring and moving on.

Oldermum84 · 27/10/2023 13:10

Yep. Really pisses me off. I'm pregnant with my second and am definitely bigger than last time but the amount of unsolicited comments are awful. I hate the "are you sure it's not twins" as that's actually a fear of mine. One man actually shouted across the road to me when I was out walking the dog "not long to go now!". Why do people think this is ok? Even my dad constantly goes on about how I'm going to have a big baby (currently on 42nd centile).

cocksstrideintheevening · 27/10/2023 14:00

It'll get worse once the baby arrives.

Blippard · 27/10/2023 14:04

I didn't care when people said my bump was big (as it means nothing), but the way that man said it to you, was rude.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 28/10/2023 19:22

I’m 17 weeks and got asked if I’m sure it’s not twins last week. 🙄 Yes I’m sure. This is my third pregnancy and my bump just appeared. My muscles know what to do this time and I was already on the chubby side.

People can be really rude.

Casperroonie · 28/10/2023 19:49

Don't be upset, people are just ANNOYING! I was a size 6 with an enormous bump,and even though I was not big I was always subjected to the stupidest comments.

Enjoy your bump, I really missed it when my babies were born!!! It's a magical thing.

If you can't say anything back, just for the sake of any satisfaction, could you get away with giving a dirty look or frown?!?!

Sennelier1 · 28/10/2023 19:58

Your answer : " And you would know that because......you are a specialist in pregnancies and more specific babybumps? Like you were a top-viroligist during covid?"

Hibiscrubbed · 28/10/2023 20:32

I got comments about how small both my bumps were. Which considering I’d had to have amniocentesis for both pregnancies and weekly growth scans, was fun…

Ask them why they feel entitled to comment on your body,

Boymum456 · 28/10/2023 21:05

I had someone working the checkout tell me I was ready to pop when I wasn’t even 6 months, it really upset me, like you measured perfect my whole pregnancy although I was defo bigger than with my first! People should mind their own business!

GreenShadow · 28/10/2023 22:09

See now, I wouldn't see this as being rude at all. And certainly wouldn't interpret it as an 'insult'.

I would take it as it presumably was intended; someone making conversation and commenting on something obviously important to you.

BiscuitLover3678 · 28/10/2023 22:13

I keep getting told I’m ready to pop. Nope. I’m really not. Just getting fat as well thanks.

Ljp1991 · 28/10/2023 22:44

People are sooo rude! I had so much of this too… early on it was ‘oh that’s not a bump it’s just bloat’, ‘you are massive for 3months’, ‘are you sure it’s not twins’… further on I then got ‘you’re barely showing are you sure you’re that far along’ ‘your bump is so small are you sure baby is growing ok’?… then 10days before my EDD I was shamed for being in work (nice easy office admin role) by a total stranger ‘you’re massive, you should be at home, why are you still working!?’ Another stranger then added ‘you should of been at home a month before your due date resting for the sake of your baby’… I worked until 5 days before my due date, and my baby was a perfect 7lb3oz arrived 2 days after EDD, so I got a nice week to myself relaxing before, and she is perfectly healthy and happy!
unfortunately I’ve found from the moment you fall pregnant ignorant people feel they can comment on you, from your body, your lifestyle, your labour choices, and then when baby is here it’s your parenting it feels never ending… as hard as it is, you’ve got to just ignore it, listen to the real experts like the midwife’s, GP and health visitors; even with their advice you will form your own opinions and make your own choices, it’s your baby… anyone else can eff off 👌🏼

gerteddy · 29/10/2023 00:47

My friend had a really big bump by 6 months and she used to get these comments. I felt really bad for her. She told someone she had 3 months left they were like 😮 I thought u were due any day, are you sure they've got it right 😂

In the end she just started saying she was due soon to get strangers to shut up! Hit harder when folk know though and some ppl can be really mean without realising it can be offensive.

Itwasamemo3 · 29/10/2023 00:52

I looked massive with my first baby ,my daughter didn’t actually have a bump when she was induced at 38 weeks…we are all different 🤷‍♀️

Pennyroses · 29/10/2023 11:21

Hibiscrubbed · 28/10/2023 20:32

I got comments about how small both my bumps were. Which considering I’d had to have amniocentesis for both pregnancies and weekly growth scans, was fun…

Ask them why they feel entitled to comment on your body,

Same here. It actually upsets me more being told how small my bump is. I was huge with my previous pregnancies and was often asked if it was twins but that didn't really bother me. I'm really small this time so I'm worrying already and people pointing it out doesn't help. I have a different partner this time so I'm guessing baby is just going to be smaller.

paddyclampofthethirdkind · 30/10/2023 16:49

Hideously rude. People think a pregnant woman has no feelings 🤬

Girlmumma1912 · 31/10/2023 21:17

They really will. I had a tiny bump - I’m usually a size 8/10 top and 10/12 bottom. So slim but not skinny…
it’s odd because whilst it’s the opposite, it still gets to you. I mean, when people say “what, you look great” it was different but when people say “your bump is tiny” it still got me down. I don’t think it helped I had HG and I struggled with food throughout my pregnancy, she was a perfectly healthy newborn and is now a high centile 10 month old, but I was so so worried that because my bump was small that she wouldn’t be healthy etc

it’s hard but I think all you can do is essentially ignore them - but also take a deep breath and just visually picture punching them in the face!

ClaraBourne · 31/10/2023 21:19

When I was six months I was asked if my twins were due any day, I had to say, I'm 6 months and it is just the one.....

lucya66 · 01/11/2023 08:22

I’ve had loads of comments too, I’m big one day, small the next etc. It’s fine by me, I try not to sweat the small stuff to be honest.

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