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Did you feel scared with your first pregnancy?

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glasshalffull0 · 24/10/2023 07:54

I’m between 4-5 weeks today (not entirely sure as I ovulated late) and I was initially very, very excited as we have been trying for about 6 months.

now that excitement has turned to apprehension, we’re actually (hopefully) going to have a baby!!

did anyone else feel like this? I’m 28, 29 when baby is here and I just don’t feel old enough. I feel like the worlds worst parent that I’m not excited all the time!

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muddlingthrou · 24/10/2023 07:57

Yes, it's totally normal. You will go on a rollercoaster of emotion over the next few months, so prepare yourself for that. You are adjusting to a massive (probably the biggest ever) change to your life and priorities. Congratulations and hope all goes well!

FoleyHuck · 24/10/2023 07:58

I feel exactly the same OP, except I'm 40 and sometimes feel too old 🙈.

I think everyone feels the same way to a greater or lesser degree and it's healthy. I'd rather prepare myself for the realities of all the hard bits than float along in a bubble of optimism and then get a rude awakening!

Lollyloup8 · 24/10/2023 07:59

Hi, I was 29 when I had my first DC, also 28 when I was pregnant with him.

I'm now 33 and has my second DC at 32, so been through it twice.

It is scary but remember it's totally natural, we are made to do this! Your body knows what it's doing. You might feel unwell for a while, but I found that actually helped me feel things were heading in the right direction and my body was clearly making the right hormone.

As PP has said you will have a rollercoaster of emotions but that's what makes pregnancy exciting, and like nothing else.
Then at the end you get your very own baby!

BuffaloCauliflower · 24/10/2023 08:04

I’ve been pregnant 3 times (2 children 1 miscarriage) all extremely planned and wanted etc, and my first thoughts on every positive test and the first weeks was fear and anxiety. Never any excitement. Just general horror 😂 not helped with DS by the fact I got that positive test at the start of March 2020, and we all know what happened there.
Both of my babies the excitement didn’t really kick in until hearing the heartbeat at 16 weeks, not sure why that’s the thing that did it.
It’s probably the biggest change you’ll go through in life and it’s completely life changing forever. Of course it’s normal to feel scared, even if you also feel happy. You’ll be ok 🙂

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glasshalffull0 · 24/10/2023 08:46

Thank you ladies for the reassurance. My partner is scared too which I think has made me even more anxious!

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Lealea4 · 24/10/2023 09:03

Congratulations, and yes, it's perfectly normal. I was calm at first, but as the due date approached, I started to worry. But don't worry, giving birth was the best thing in my life. I wouldn't change it. Good luck!

rickandmorts · 24/10/2023 09:05

I was 29 when I had my first last year and felt like a teen mum 😂 but I think it's the perfect age to have a baby. Congrats!!

TheBirdintheCave · 24/10/2023 09:34

Yes I was terrified and desperately didn't want anything to go wrong. It had taken 15 months and the threat of IVF to get pregnant. It was also March 2020 😂

PinkRoses1245 · 24/10/2023 09:35

I felt surprisingly calm in my first, and very much of the mindset that I couldn’t do anything if it went wrong. It did go wrong at 11 weeks. I’m nervous how I will find another pregnancy!

allsfairin · 24/10/2023 09:37

glasshalffull0 · 24/10/2023 07:54

I’m between 4-5 weeks today (not entirely sure as I ovulated late) and I was initially very, very excited as we have been trying for about 6 months.

now that excitement has turned to apprehension, we’re actually (hopefully) going to have a baby!!

did anyone else feel like this? I’m 28, 29 when baby is here and I just don’t feel old enough. I feel like the worlds worst parent that I’m not excited all the time!

If you didn't feel apprehensive and unprepared, then you would not be taking it seriously enough! The fact that you do feel these things, indicates you will be a thoughtful and committed parent.

AgaMM · 24/10/2023 09:42

I was early 30s when I was pregnant with my first. I definitely felt too young to be having a child, and one of the things that I struggled with post partum was realising I’m now a grown up responsible for another person.

To be honest, nothing about me actually changed in terms of my personality, but it was a huge change mentally.

I think a lot of us feel younger than we are, and then when forced with the reality that we’re not, it can very much hit you!

FrancescaBlake · 24/10/2023 09:56

I am with you!
I am 30 and 9 weeks. Absolutely shitting myself if I am honest. That is the only thought I have had going round my head for the past 3 weeks 😅

lenalove · 24/10/2023 10:03

I'm with you OP, I am 28 and 13 weeks and keep having to remind myself I am a "proper" adult 😂

PinkPink1 · 24/10/2023 10:05

I literally just turned 27 before I gave birth to my baby (3 months old now). I felt like a teen mum! I don't feel too young now though. I feel like this is a normal age to have a baby.

IHeartGeneHunt · 24/10/2023 10:07

I had a pretty big "What the fuck have I done" moment, but it passed!

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