Not great news,

[Longbarn5]

So, we had our 12 week scan today at 11.6. Partner was excited. I was a little anxious for no real reason. I had all pregnancy symptoms bubbling away and a little bump developing.

Sadly our baby had no heartbeat and was said to have passed at around the six week mark. So, diagnosis missed miscarriage We are obviously really upset but I am aware that miscarriage itself is very common although missed miscarriage much less so.

The question I am asking myself is why I retained the pregnancy for six full weeks. Why did my body retain the pregnancy and all the related hormones while others miscarry straight away? Everything else was fine. Gestation sac even measured correctly for 12 weeks,

I’m so sorry for your loss OP. I’ve had multiple miscarriages including two MMC (one after the 14 week mark, one after 9 weeks). They are rare (especially later in pregnancy) and mine are linked to placenta functioning. However, I’ve also subsequently had two babies and am due number 3 in Jan. Unfortunately, sometimes it just happens that our bodies continue to think we are pregnant, even when the pregnancy isn’t viable. For me, both were my pregnancy’s with some of my strongest symptoms. which really sucked! Sending massive hugs: this isn’t something you’ve caused or could change. It’s just shit. And I’m really sorry you’ve had to experience it. Hope you can take care of yourself over the next few days and weeks x

Yes, I agree. Definitely more scans next time

Oh goodness, girljulian, so sorry. Yes, definitely more scans for me next time. No way am I going to wait for 12 weeks again!

Hey,

exactly the same happened to me on the same day you had your 12 week scan. So sorry - it’s just awful. I felt something wasn’t right as this is my third pregnancy and it just felt somewhat different. Hospital said I have to have a rescan because baby is under 7mm. Have your hospital offered you any options yet? I’m 13 weeks now and minor bleeding today but nothing such as the horror stories I’ve read online which I’m expecting before I go to Epu next week.

So sorry. This happened to me twice. I also have 5 living children.

I'm really sorry this happened to you and want to add to the other posts saying you are not alone. My MMC was a horrendous time and I also had lots of questions about why it happened the way it did. Tommy's is a great resource when you have questions pop up. You can email midwives and they will get back to you as quickly as they can. They can't always answer definitively of course but sometimes just writing about what I was fixating on helped. I used the service a few times as I processed the loss.

Wishing you all the best for now and the future OP

RIO93, so sorry to hear that you too have had this experience. It is an awful shock inst it!! I have to go back for a confirmation scan this week, which seems crazy really, since I know for certain that I cant just be 6 weeks and if I was, there would bs a yolk sac, etc, and there isnt so presumably it's been absorbed. Equally, the gestation sac is around 12 weeks so everything has grown except the embryo.
I was told I will be given the choices when I go back but I am currently cramping quite badly from time to time and have a yucky brown discharge on and off so not sure if things are starting on their own. I wanted to go for the ERPC but not too sure because all I want to do is try again and I think I would have to wait longer!

Thank you TwigletAddict10. I am thinking that as my body seems to have done everything it needed to and carried on acting pregnant regardless, that is was probably a chromizone issue and hoping that this is the case and we will have better luck next time.

Hi OP I'm so sorry your baby has died.
My first pregnancy was very similar. I started bleeding at 13 weeks, had a scan, and discovered the baby had died weeks before, although the uterus was still growing.
I had surgical management and got pregnant very quickly afterwards, and that baby was fine.

I've read so many stories of bad experiences with the medical management. I wouldn't choose it myself.

Yes, maybe your baby has a chromosome abnormality. It still makes it really tragic to deal with. Is your husband coping?

Hi love. At the very least of this horrible situation, it is nice to know that there’s lots of support on here. I have also been having this brownish bleeding now. No pain really yet. Sounds like your hospital gave you some information. Mine basically were so ambiguous - didn’t actually say much other than you must go to the EPU next week. Had about 6 people in the room and they were just all unhelpful. Anyway, hopefully this is over for both of us soon xx

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had 2 MMCs, first one I had no sign at all anything was wrong and it was a horrible shock at my scan. Second one I had an early scan at just before 8 weeks and it was a really slow heartbeat, from that point it was basically weekly scans until the heart stopped which was horrific but allowed me to grieve sooner.

I had surgical management both times because I wanted it physically over so I could start processing/healing emotionally x

I had two MMC in 2011 and 2012, at 10wks 3 days and 10wks 4 days. Both found at my 12 week scan.

I had a D&C with the first then the pessary with the second.

Look after yourself op xx

I fully agree with you about hoping it will be over soon. Good luck

Oh bless you, that's horrible. Hope you have had success since xx

So sorry for your loss, I had a similar story, went along for 12 week scan, bump developing and pregnancy symptoms still there only to find baby had stopped developing around 8 weeks. It was a total shock and I felt like my body had failed me. I had surgery a few days later as I had no signs of a MC happening naturally which was absolutely the best decision for me and after a tricky few months was able to conceive DC2. Like pp I was an anxious wreck the whole pregnancy but I had a reassurance scan at EPU and all was well.

Take extra care of yourself, it can be a really lonely time and the grief hit me harder than I expected x

It was the same for me my love, twice as it happened. It's such a cruel thing, my body was acting pregnant for such a long time afterwards, just didn't seem to realise it was gone. Im so sorry. I hope you have lots of support x

We didn't try again @Longbarn5 , very fortunate to already have two little boys at the time. We did discuss it, but just couldn't bring ourselves to go through it all again.

It took a while to come to terms with it, but we're at peace with it now x

I was the same, the worst morning sickness ever!

Sorry for your loss.

Yes, sometimes we have to make decisions on these things. Lovely to have your two boys. I imagine that having two boys must have made it even more of a shock when the MMCs occurred. One tends to expect the body to behave in the same way again.