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Feeling like a failure

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alexis97 · 23/10/2023 10:58

Can someone please tell me if I'm being a softie.

Im currently 25 weeks and 3 days pregnant. I have had a terrible pregnancy. I vomited from 4 weeks up to 24 weeks with no avail, no anti sickness tablet worked for me... I've had to miss a shedload of time off work to go pregnancy related issues and a combo of picking up every single bug under the sun. I currently also have a toddler going through the terrible 2s and I e had a to take another day off work due to exhaustion and sinusitis. My husband has been taking so much overtime to help cover costs when I are on maternity. I manage a house, work full time myself, care for my toddler and our 3 dogs pretty much alone and im trying my best to crack on and deal with this all while pregnant. I feel like I should be just sailing through and dealing with it, I feel like a terrible human for feeling so drained. Is this normal? - many around me say I should just crack on, trust me I'm trying..

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TheBirdintheCave · 23/10/2023 12:21

You're not being a 'softie'. You're doing your best in a very trying situation! I'm so sorry you have so little help on top of the sickness and everything :(

Sa11yCinnamon · 23/10/2023 12:37

You're not a softie and you're definitely not a failure! I'm really sorry it's been so tough, but please be kind to yourself and take any opportunity for self care you can x

Macadamiabeat · 23/10/2023 12:49

You sound like you are doing as much as you are able to, not being a softie at all! Be kind to yourself which I know is not easy.

My counsellor told me would I say the same thing if it was my best friend saying these things. It was always a no!

Bex5490 · 23/10/2023 13:02

17 weeks pregnant here, pregnancy from hell sickness wise, ASD 4 year old, house to run and full time job…

LIVING HELL!!!!! And that’s minus the three dogs!

You are not being a softie. This pretend feminism where we do everything we did in the 50s except also with a full time job is a joke and has you believing you’re inadequate for not rising to the challenge.

Give yourself a break and tell anyone who tells you to get on with it a sharp F you and then blame it on the pregnancy hormones!

sending virtual hugs xx

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