Hi
Posting in the hope of hearing from someone who may have experienced similar. Daughter born via IVF in 2014. We also have 2 frozen embryos but there was no rush to grow our family. In Jan 22 we had a surprise pregnancy but I had been unwell in the months leading upto the pregnancy and the decision was made to TFMR, my own medical reasons. I was heartbroken. Sept 22 we had another surprise! But at 13 weeks discovered that this baby had numerous abnormalities and a 10% chance of survival. Heartbreak all over again. In both losses I had retained tissue requiring two procedures both times. The last procedure I had I was kept in overnight as I had bled more than expected however not enough for a transfusion, just iron tablets. This really shook me up and I've developed a fear of haemorrhage should I get pregnant again. It's making me ill with worry but I can't get over my losses and want to try our frozen embryos. The fear has made me delay going back and I feel time isn't on my side as I'm now 42 almost 43. I go round and round in circles, what's the right thing to do, I've created an irrational fear. The fertility clinic agreed to scan me to check for scarring and all is ok. My embryos are from when I was 32, so in great condition. Am I fool for delaying fearing a bad outcome, am I fool for wanting to try again at my age, am I putting myself at risk of complications ?! My head's a mess 🥺