Heterotopic pregnancy

[Kittymam]

Hello,
I’m about to go for surgery due to having a heterotopic pregnancy and they’re going to have to remove the one growing in my tube. They’re hoping the one in my womb will survive but there’s still a chance it won’t. Has anyone else got any experience of this? We don’t have twins in either family so it has come as a big shock. No fertility help. Very mixed emotions as I’m very sad to be losing one but also really hoping the other survives, although we will always have that feeling this baby should’ve been a twin.

This is my 6th pregnancy, 1st I had a baby born on time but with a genetic disorder, 2nd miscarriage, 3rd a 29 week baby, 4th and 5th both miscarriages and now this. I honestly feel exhausted with it all and an emotional wreck.

Hi, I thought I’d give a quick update. I had my surgery and they removed the right tube. I’m back at home now. I can’t have much for pain relief due to hopefully still carrying one. I’m on blood thinners as I have a high chance of clotting and also progesterone suppositories due to two previous miscarriages and having had bleeding with this pregnancy. I’m bleeding a lot of brown blood today but they said that can happen from the surgery. I will get a scan later next week to see whether the other one is still viable. It has been a really awful weekend and I’m emotionally drained 💔

No advice but wishing you well.
You poor thing, you have been through the wringer.

So very sorry you're going through this.

My first pregnancy was heterotopic and IVF, but I lost the first baby before my tube ruptured. I nearly died.

It might sound ridiculous but I had tried to have a baby for so long that the dramatic surgery helped me stay sane after the loss, as I didn't "have" to keep it secret or pretend to be okay.

I went on to have several more early losses, then a healthy MIRACLE baby, and then lost my last fallopian tube to another ectopic last year.

My advice is to ignore absolutely everything other than getting well and knowing that you are doing everything you possibly can for your remaining baby but that it's out of your hands.

I found comedy videos helpful from the sofa to keep my mood up.

Best of luck. It's horrendously isolating.

Wishing you well and hope your uterine pregnancy continues ok. Hugs.

I really hope all goes well for you OP.

I had my right tube removed due to an ectopic a year ago. I think the bleeding took quite a while to subside - might have been about a week. I was told the bleeding was all from the surgery and rupture.

I had quite a lot of pain but the worst of it eased after a few days. I spent most of the time on the sofa with my legs propped up on a box I was using as a footstool. I found I was quite constipated from the pain relief (paracetamol) and the gas from the surgery (which also made my shoulder continue to hurt). Lactulose (which is safe in pregnancy) helped a lot.

The emotional aspect was the hardest to deal with. My advice is to take each day at a time and be kind to yourself.

No experience but sending you lots of good luck.

Gosh, you've had such a hard time. You deserve some luck! Let's hope that the blood thinner and progesterone mean this one is going nowhere. Best of luck and please keep us updated.

Just another update. I had my scan yesterday and there wasn’t much development there, still a heartbeat though. They took my blood to check hcg levels and I woke up today bleeding heavily. I called and checked on the blood results which were only 53 so I’m losing this baby too. Absolutely heartbroken 😭 I don’t understand why me.

I am so very sorry. It is not bloody fair. x

Oh I'm so sorry 😢

I'm so so sorry xx

So sorry. Take the time you need to recover, mentally as much as physically. You will get through this, even if it doesn’t seem like it now xx