Feeling absolutely miserable

[Lucky2610]

Hello, I’m very new to this and feel I don’t have many people to talk to at home. So my partner and I have been trying for a baby for over 2 years and about 3 weeks ago I found out I was pregnant, currently 9 weeks. I was initially so happy but now I feel absolutely depressed and miserable, I’ve been suffering from HG which has me bed bound most days and off work, I feel ugly and unattractive and just so alone, I cry everyday actually wondering if this is the right choice I’m making, I talk to my partner and he just says it will get better! We already have a 9 year old and I was happy it just being the 3 of us. I don’t know what I’m actually feeling, I’m scared of a new baby I'm scared of my life changing, this is was 100 percent what I wanted before I was pregnant and now I feel different. Any advice would be appreciated I just don’t know who else to even talk to 😪

Have you been to your dr for anti-sickness medication? If you have and it’s not working then have you been back to try the 2nd line option?

Sorry you’re feeling so rubbish. As pp said are you taking anything for it?
I completely understand the worry about throwing a new baby into the mix. I have an 8 year old and 5wks with no.2. I think it’s normal to worry about how everything will change when baby is here and the hormones won’t be helping. Your partner is right, it WILL get better and when you have your baby you won’t be able to imagine life without them! 💛

Sorry to hear you are suffering with HG. I think that plays a massive part in all these intrusive thoughts you have. I’m 36 weeks with my first and have had HG throughout, cried a lot, mostly housebound, wondered if I can even go through with the pregnancy!
It’s been utterly miserable, so I can empathise with you on that. It really does rob every ounce of your happiness, definitely speak with the GP and take one hour/ day at a time! I’m here for a chat if you need one as I know how isolating it can be. I hope you get some reprieve soon x

How are you now, has the sickness eased a tad? Honestly it’s never ending isn’t it! So far I’ve tried cyclizine and Prochlorperazine, none of them have worked, I’ve sat in bed for almost two weeks with a sick bucket, dry crackers, lucozade sport and fruit as it’s the only thing that will stay down. I’m 10 tomorrow and praying it calms down by week 12. It makes you feel completely miserable and as horrible as it sounds I’ve asked my self why am I doing this again even though it’s a much wanted baby 😫oh and if anyone else tells me to try a ginger biscuit I might actually kill them 😂😂 x

Tried Prochlorperazine and cyclizine and so far no luck 😭 I can’t have ondansetron as I have a mild heart condition. I’ve looked at scopederm patches but they haven’t been tested in pregnancy so that’s out the window too! I’m 10 weeks tomorrow so I’m praying it eases by week 12!

Here to support! Huge hug~
I’m in my first pregnancy , so may not fully understand yet about the anticipation of second pregnancy. But similarly, we tried for 4 years and fell pregnant when no longer stress about the possibility of being pregnant. I had my first breakdown not long ago, so feel for you. Questioning this was what I wanted but why sad. I acknowledge it’s because of hormones, and when time of breakdown, I did less exercise which might contribute to more extreme mood swing. I found support from this community also help. Hope you too! :)