How early did you tell your employer you're pregnant

[bardosya]

I work in an education setting, and was wondering how early did you tell your employer about your pregnancy?

If you kept your pregnancy hidden for a little while, how did you negotiate time off for antenatal appointments?

I dont work in education, there aren't so many appointments to attend. I told my employer at 20 weeks because I was starting to show.

First time, at around 8 weeks. Second time, 6 weeks.

First time, I had to end a call to throw up so I explained why the next day.

The first time, we had a client lunch at a tapas place and I could eat barely anything that was ordered (rare steak, raw fish, etc) and didn’t drink wine, so he guessed.

To be fair, we have a really good relationship and he knew we were planning a second child.

I had (have?) recurrent miscarriage so my manager and my grand-manager both knew from about six weeks as I've had time off for extra scans etc. Rest of the team won't know unless I make it to 12.

Physically not allowed to do my job when pregnant (cabin crew)

I did one last trip knowing I was but felt quite vulnerable so I told them when I was 5 or 6 weeks then got grounded

@jellytots18 You have such a cool job!

Thank you all for your responses!

I am still waiting for my first scan but have had a midwife appointment. I will hold on until then as a bare minimum.

First time I was about six weeks had to tell them as I was normally doing lifting boxes and stuff. Second time it was twenty weeks as I was still on maternity leave with my first 😂

First pregnancy told at 12 weeks
Second pregnancy miscarried at 8 weeks so they never knew
Third pregnancy told at 12 weeks miscarried at 18 weeks
Fourth pregnancy told 25 weeks

7 weeks both times just because I had HG and had already self-certed for a week. So my sick note told them both times.

I told mine early (8 weeks) too, because I was so unwell, I ended up in hospital. Her reaction was "thank goodness for that, I thought you were going to resign".

Ah thanks I really enjoyed it and missing it a lot whilst I'm grounded (baby due end of jan)

Don't know how I'll feel about leaving him when I go back but we will cross that bridge when we get there 😅😅

@jellytots18 Yeah I know two former cabin crew who didn't go back after they had their babies. I think Covid also had some influence on that though.

13.5 weeks after I had had my first scan.x

6 weeks!

14 weeks - few days ago.
mainly because i can’t tell lie about freq doctor/hospital/clinic appointment. I’ve got an image at work for being very healthy, love fitness never take sick day kind of employee .

if I had read this thread before my announcement, I would choose as late as possible like until my bump start showing. Because I don’t know if I will be mistreated now after reading others.

I told mine at 6 weeks.

Main reason I told was because I've had awful nausea and have needed to WFH. We're meant to be in 2 days a week and our office days are logged centrally so I needed my manager to know why I wasn't coming in.

I had about 4 weeks off last year for an ectopic and 2 weeks off for a miscarriage. I've still been encouraged for development opportunities since so I know in my workplace there aren't issues with telling them early.

I told them at 5 weeks. I don't think it's fair that women have to wait to tell due to fear of miscarrying or distrust in managers. If I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks, I would want time off.

I was told by my manager it was too early for me to tell them but I had HG and it was during COVID so I was concerned working with COVID patients. I find it all a bit ridiculous.

I'm 8 weeks and told my boss at 7 weeks as I have had reoccurring miscarriages and also on a immune treatment plan so already have had 2 scans that can take half a day out the office with travel and waiting around. So I am now changing my role to be WFH based and not doing education visits to schools for that reason as immunocompromised and can't have COVID jab or flu jab. I plan to put myself and by baby first in the hope we have a successful pregnancy.

After my 12 week scan. The couple of appointment I had before that I just said I had an appointment but as a PP I don't work in education.

In education also, I had to say before 12 week scan as I was required to put hospital letter in with my absence request. Booking appointment I managed to get in without taking time off.