Firstly, thankyou so much for reading... a little background on my situation- thankyou for your patience in advances. I'm divorced with a five year old that I share custody with with my ex. My fiancé has been living with me and my son for a year.
He is really so incredible in so many ways, he is amazing with my son, he insists on doing everything around the house and it's so kind and supportive... but there are some aspects I find so hard to deal with.. when we argue it's really bad. I'm 20 months pregnant and we've had some terrible arguments - it's happening about once a week... and today - I just need to know an honest opinion if I am overreacting to this because I'm pregnant....
Two things today - for example first thing - today he was arranging private health care for my son - which he was going to pay for... which is one of the incredible ways he can be so generous... He was on the phone to the insurance company but at the same time he was feeling really I'll- I offered to help but he insisted on doing it. he was on the phone to the company - and then after half an hour became very short and rude with them. He hung up the phone and stated smashing the phone on the table.
Then half an hour later he became violently ill and stared vomiting for like an hour. I offered help and kept asking if there was anything I could do.
He said he would go and sleep in my sons room ( who was staying at our dads) and wanted me to sleep in the bedroom (he was currently in).
I said it wasn't a good idea as it could be a virus and contagious so better for him to stay in one room. He got annoyed and said if you arnt going to sleep in this room then you should go to your mums house. I said I can't because I have to be here for my son in the morning. And I said it wouldn't be a good idea to sleep in that room anyway. He got annoyed and talking to me sarcastically- he then stormed out the house
And said 'Alright (my name) go back to being so supportive.'
He came back in 15 minutes later and pretended nothing happened- I was upset - had been crying and he got angry and annoyed and said 'I can't do this' and saying he was going to go and stay somewhere.
Then he said 'please put down your fucking phone I can't stand you looking at it' he said I can't do this anymore and went upstairs and started slamming stuff around.
I went into the bathroom and locked the door - when we have an argument he can't leave me alone so I locked myself in there.
He was banging things around the house and then came down and said he'd ordered a cab and can I come out and speak to him before he leaves.
I said 'no, I don't feel safe' and he got annoyed and said I was being cruel and it was unfair to play the victim. I refused to talk to him because I knew it would just escalate and he told me again I was being cruel and he can't take it anymore and someday my 'treating him like this' I would see the consequences.... he finally left and has called 4 times since but I can't talk to him because I've learnt it only gets worse....
Am I over-reacting?