How to deal with the bad days?

[charlotte121]

somedays I wake up and I just feel totally de-motivated. this morning I looked in the mirror and felt fat as a house, which is rediculous as Im pregnant so getting fatter cant be helped.
ex came over for an hour this morning to see ds which made me feel worse as he was chatting about how much fun he has been having... and was telling me all about his best mates girlfriend who he thinks is "fit" and yes she was stunning.
he had to go to get to to football and left me feeling compleetly deflated.
I just dont understand why im feeling like this. we have been split up for a while now and i have been being really strong when he has tried to make passes (he wasnt a very nice guy so i really dnt want to get bk with him) I hate having days like this because i never seem to be able to flip them around and turn them into good days. Instead I ended up just bumming about all day getting nothing achieved which makes me feel even worse and just leaves me to think which makes me feel even more fed up. Just want a bit of a life I suppose. Does anyone else get days like this??? I feel so stupid about it. But I just dont know how to get round these stupid feelings. I hope you dnt think im moaning. Just having a really bad day.

[posieflump]

It sounds like you are going through a lot. Is your ex the father of the baby you are carrying?
I think everyone does have days like that. Did he take your ds out with him? If so use the time to have along bath and just chill, watch a dvd, read a book, eat chocolate, that sort of thing.

Hope you feel better soon xxx

[charlotte121]

yeah ex is father of both kids. In the past he has been a right pillock and hasnt really bothered with ds however the past week or 2 he seems to have bucked his ideas up which is quite good, and he has been playing with ds when he comes round rather than just watching the TV. He was gonna take ds to the park but he's a little bit under the weather so decided it was best to keep him in the warm. I think that might be one of the problems that i dnt ever get a second to myself and if i do i end up having to do decorating or coursework.
I just cant see how the next few weeks are going to get any better as I have a mountain of assignments for uni to get done, my flat needs the decorating finished for when the baby arrives and my mum has just been diagnosed with cancer so will need extra help. Dont know when im supposed to get time to be me. At the moment i struggle to find time to have a bath!

[BearMama]

Oh there is NOTHING worse than some woman being described as fit when you feel like crap so at your insensitive ex.
On the Uni side, have your tutors been made aware of your situation? Its great when they are on your side - makes you feel you are not alone.
You are not being stupid btw. You are in the grip of hormones and feeling vulnerable. That's completely normal and always worse when you have added stress to cope with.
Sorry to hear about your Mum, however you dont have to cope with that on your own, her GP should make you aware of all the help available.
Post here when you need to, there's always someone willing to listen. X

[charlotte121]

I love this site everyone is so nice. Can always rely on ppl to cheer me up. Thankyou. My little brat sister has just turned up and supprising offered to help me with some housework and decorating so perhaps I can turn this day around and have a good day

[BearMama]

Excellent! Put her to work and have a nice warm bath in the meantime.

[BearMama]

Excellent! Put her to work and have a nice warm bath in the meantime.