TTC post miscarriage

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Hello-

I had a miscarriage around 3 weeks ago, this was quite early on in the pregnancy at around 6 weeks.
We are desperately ttc. I have been doing ovulation tests for the past two weeks and all are negative.
My discharge has changed and is normal for my cycle, it is clear and sticky and has deffo increased over the last few days.. although my ovulations tests are all negative :(
I record everything, so i know when we have had sex and each ovulation test i have done.

I know things can take a while to return to normal following a miscarriage. Its just so incredibly hard when you want something so badly.

I am trying to stop doing the ovulation tests as everyday i think i am putting too much pressure on myself and taking all the enjoyment out of having sex.

Dreading the day my period arrives.

Has anyone ever experienced this with the continuous negative ovulation tests? I know ovulation doesn't guarantee pregnancy but at the moment i just feel like i have no hope and no chance at all.

I never managed to get a positive with ovulation sticks, but my period was regular so I was able to work out my fertile period, told my OH and we just made sure we had plenty of sex in that window. Other than that I didn't track anything, just took a pregnancy test when I missed my period.

It was really important to me not to make sex feel like a chore, and still having sex outside the fertile period was important too.

Doing anything 'desperately' in this scenario is unlikely to be helpful. How long have you been trying, how old are you, and what are you doing to actively de-stress?

Hello- So we have been trying for a few months now. I know this isnt long in the grand scheme of things.

I miscarried three weeks ago and i think that is what has triggered this feeling to be honest.

I'm 28, my husband is 35. We have one little boy together and conception has always been so easy previously.

Seeing negative ovulation tests is just really disheartening as it literally feels like i don't even have the chance of getting pregnant.

Hello, I missed ovulating completely on the first month after a miscarriage, but went on to ovulate normally the month after. I also found the clear blue digital tests so much easier and more accurate

Sorry to hear about your MC. If it was only 3 weeks ago then it may just be that your cycle hasn't returned to normal yet - hormones are all over the place after a miscarriage. I had surgery for a miscarriage in September and don't think I have ovulated since, but am guessing that maybe I just won't in this cycle.

Have you had a negative pregnancy test since your MC? It can take a while for HCG to decline afterwards so that could also affect if/when you ovulate.

@CluelessInLondon Sorry to hear that you MC.

I had negative pregnancy tests as soon as i stopped bleeding. I was bleeding for around 6 days, wasn't heavy. lighter than my normal periods.
As soon as the bleeding stopped i tested again and this was negative. Confirmed by scan (internal) that i had a complete miscarriage and there was no pregnancy tissue remaining.

So sorry to hear about your loss. It took about 8 weeks for me to get a positive ovulation test after my MMC. Things seemed to regulate on the second cycle.

I never had positive ovulation test, and did get pregnant although ended in loss. I felt desperate to get pregnant after but we decided to wait a couple of months and I’m now glad we did. It gave us headspace to grieve and process what happened. And it is recommended to have a normal period before trying again. Look after yourselves first.

I’m overthinking every little pain or twinge I get thinking it’s implantation too.. going to try and not test now until my next cycle as it’s being an unhealthy obsession

Morning- got my peak fertility result on a clearblue digital this morning. Finally feel like I have at least a chance of conceiving!

never got any ‘high fertility’ results before this though, yesterdays was negative. But oh well I’ll take it!