Why can i not do this and the rest of womenkind can?

[donbean]

I just think that it is so unfair.
Its natural and every one does it, why do i do it so bllody badly.

Think i am losing yet another baby. This will be number 3 mc.

scan today showed a pregnancy sac, with nothing in it.

Not sure of dates, know i had a period in Januay, no idea when tho.
Had tiny bleed of old blood about 3 weeks ago, nothing since.
Am sad today, cant sleep, cant stop thinking about it.

Ah well, looks like im going to be forced to join fucking weight watchers again as i havent got any excuse now, amjust fat, not pregnant any more.

Just wanted to say I'm really sorry for you.

Have you had any investigations into repeated mc's?

This is not your fault.

no investigations no.

im just waiting for the bleeding and pain to start.
i read somewhere that you can take a tablet to hurry things along, might ask them at epau when i go on sunday.
took 7 weeks last time to mc, dont want to wait that long again.

Don't know what to say either except that I am so sorry.

7 weeks sounds horrendous to wait.

Oh - have you looked at the Zita West website - I think she has some info about recurrent miscarriage.

I think you should ask for investigations.

have been trawling the net all night.
lots of very interesting sites actually.

positives are that ia m unsure of dates so could be 4/5 weeks pregnant if thats the case then nothing will show up on scan, internal or otherwise yet. too early iyswim.
no bleeding , no cramps.
feel very pregnant,sore boobs, tired etc.

negatives are that if i am 6/7/8 weeks and nothing seen in sac, then its a blghted ovum again, wait to mc.
you DO feel pregnant with this.
this is MY luck we are talking about, and i ahve zero luck when it comes to babies, so looks innevitable really.

Good God, im getting on my own nerves now with my whinging and moaning!

It doesn't sound inevitable if you're not sure of dates though.

When do you go to the epau? Excuse my ignorance - but with a blighted ovum would your hormone levels still rise? Could you ask your GP to take the test? Maybe at least then you'd know.

You really could have dates wrong. I had to have an early scan (5.5 weeks) to rule out ectopic prg and could only see 'empty' sac. A week later a tiny 'dot' could be seen. Am 13 wks now. I hope all is well. Will be thinking of you.
Becki

went yesterday, going for bloods on sunday.

ive just given up hope, dont know if it is just a gut feeling or what but ive just got none.
am remarkably resigned.
just think that if anything comes good, tis a bonus ey.

I'm so sorry Donbean. I had a blighted ovum last year and it's so horrible isn't it. I felt really cheated, going through all the symptoms of early pregnancy only to discover there was nothing actually there. To have to go through it more than once must be heartbreaking. I was offered the option of a medicalled managed miscarriage (the tablets), an ERPC or a natural miscarriage. I opted for the D&C but ended up miscarrying naturally before the appointment. They should be able to give you information on all of these options, if it comes to it.

It must be awful having to wait and not knowing. Good luck with the upcoming test and fingers crossed you really do just have your dates wrong.

donbean

just wanted to send you some hugs -

• i think you went for your blood tests today hope you will have some good news soon.

x

oh no donbean i cant beieve this is you

take care x

donbean I have no experience of this but (((hugs))) for you. Have you posted in the other forums? If not please do to get all the support you can. X

oh donbean. I hope everything ok. I had 3 mcs and felt also that I couldnt do that apparently so simple thing that everyone else around me was managing to do. Its horrible and Im thinking of you. I hope you get good news from your bloods. If not do ask to be referred to a recurrent mc clinic. There is 1 in liverpool and 1 in padddington london, might be others I dont know, they take referrals from nationwide.
I eventually did go on to have two little boys thanks to baby aspirin.
Hope you ok

Hi

If the worst happens then I recommend you ask your GP to refer you to a Recurrent Miscarriage Centre - there is one in London called at St Mary's hospital which is run by one of the leading miscarriage doctors called Lesley Regan. I haven't yet (fingers crossed) been unfortunate to suffer a miscarriage but last year (before I knew I was pregnant) I met Lesley as I was helping with fundraising for St Marys and I understand they have a very good success rate and specialise in women who have had recurrent miscarriages (more than 3)

Here's the website: savethebabyunit.org/

Good luck, I really hope everything works out for you and your family.
Daniya

Please dont get too disheartened. I may still ahppen.
Ive lost 5 babies now but have 2 beautiful boys to show for it.

((((Donbean))))) How are things?

Please don't beat your self up about this I felt the same way for a long time and here I am at 40 and 21 weeks pregnant. A friend of mine gave up telling us she was pregnant she had that many miscarriages they found out she had blood which was too sticky she was put on low dose aspirin and has two beautiful kids who are now scarily teenagers. Push for investigations to see if there is a reason this keeps happening (although I know in many cases there is none) Have strength and hang in there.

Hi

I have been through it too (a number of mcs over two years, one ended in an ERPC which was very distressing) and felt exactly the same way as you, asking myself was it even worth going on trying and feeling really depressed.

I was referred to the Recurrent Miscarriage unit at the John Radcliffe in Oxford, and they were brilliant, I was put on low dose aspirin for the first 12 weeks like Kaz1967's friend, and had scans every fortnight from 6 weeks to 13 weeks.

Do look into seeing if you can get a referral to such a clinic.

Very often there is 'nothing identifiable' wrong with you (this was the case with me) but I found the extra care and reassurance helped enormously, and our first is now about to arrive (in three weeks)!.

Thanks all, you are lovely.
Went and had bloods and levels were 12000 on Friday, than on Sunday they had jumped to 19000, supposed to double but as the mw said...its near as damn it and together with no bleeding and no pain, this looks encouraging.
Going fo a scan next Monday.
I will know then.
Today tho, i feel SO pregnant, boobs killing me, cant stay awake (fell asleep at 9.15 this morning, didnt wake up till 11.30, and desperate to close my eyes now!

My doubts are that when i had blighted ovum, I felt pregnant, no bleeding, no pain from 6 weeks till 13 weeks when i finally miscarried.

Because we havent told any one, not even family, i have no one to talk to about this and no one i know has had mcs either so i feel pretty alone tbh....glad ive got you all.

Blood results sound promising as do your symptoms! It is hard when you have m/c before as it makes you worry so much more when you are pg again. After 2 m/cs in 2006 I finally had my DD in January this year and I was certain for much of the pregnancy that I was going to lose her and analysed every change of symptom. Please try not to worry too much, only 7 sleeps until your scan.

BTW I found this thread great support during my pregnancy, lots of lovely ladies who have all been through it.

LOL knicker checkers annon....this is me, i am obsessed with it.

Thanks, 7 more sleeps, not long now.

((((donbean))) keep strong

I was obsessed with it too - even at the end of the pg! Keeping everything crossed for you though x