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Neonatal death and conceiving again after an inverted T incision c-section (classic c-section)

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Hope4family · 16/10/2023 10:27

Our beautiful baby daughter devastatingly passed away one day after she was born. She was 36 + 1 day and suffered severe blood loss during c-section. I had an anterior placenta and placenta previa. My baby daughter was also transverse. My consultant cut through the placenta (twice), then had to turn her to a safe position. During the procedure an internal t-incision (classic c-section) was made to help get her out. It took a long 7 minutes, and during this time she was bleeding out through the placenta (something we established from the neonatal team after her death. The Neonatal team advised it was a catastrophic amount of blood loss. The blood gas results came back normal yet low from the umbilical cord at the time, but the team also confirmed after her death that the results may not have actually been accurate. Two hours later my baby daughter suffered two cardiac arrests and was rushed to NICU. She sadly passed away the next day. Due to the amount of blood loss with no blood transfusion, all her major organs failed. We are absolutely devastated and trying to adjust to this life without her. We have a 4 year old son who was waiting to meet his sister. Heart breaking. A hospital investigation has been conducted over the past 3 months and we still await the report. Our lives will never be the same and we are taking it day by day with counselling and support from family/friends.
We are desperate to give our son a sibling, and want to try again when it’s possible, but this comes with all kinds of thoughts/emotions. We will never forget our daughter, and think about her every second of the day, but want our son to have a sibling.
Has anyone else had an internal t-incision c-section and conceived/safely delivered another baby? We have been told to wait 1 year before trying to conceive again.

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FirstMondayInMay · 16/10/2023 12:40

I’ve got no advice in relation to TTC again but I just wanted to say I’m so so sorry you’ve all had to go through this!💐

BlossomTheUnicorn · 16/10/2023 22:31

I can't relate totally... but my little girl was stillborn at 36+6 and a week later I was diagnosed with bowel cancer which required emergency surgery to remove a chunk of my bowel. I remember feeling so many things and just such a sense of injustice and having been robbed. I was told not to conceive for 1 year to give my body time to heal and so I could have all my follow up cancer checks. When they told me this I was so devastated as my arms felt so empty that I just wanted to conceive again straight away?? But in hindsight, and now currently 30weeks pregnant, waiting the year was really good advice... I made a few life changes which I don't honestly think I would have done otherwise, my partner and I booked a lovely holiday for the two of us and had it to look forward to, and I had my full maternity leave to spend extra time with my then 4 year old. My pregnancy this time, 2 years on from my surgery has been absolutely fine? I haven't had any issues with scar tissue or anything but it has been mentally challenging...but I feel more equipped to deal with it? I am so so so sorry for the loss of your little girl. I'm sure she was just beautiful and it is so cruel that you never got to know each other. One way I like to think of things is that this little baby in my tummy only exists because my little girl passed away as she would have been our last baby... she will never, ever be forgotten but I am excited to see who this little baby will be. Xx

Jadex92x · 17/10/2023 13:03

I don't have advice either but wanted to say how sorry I am you had to go through that 😥 💐

Caffeineoclock · 28/11/2023 14:27

Hi op, I'm so so sorry about your loss. I don't actually post on MN (ever) but I had an inverse T incision after an awful (utterly negligent) long labour. My baby was delivered flat and blue (no vital signs), was resused and went to NICU. Baby pulled through after a very wobbly start. Again I am so sorry that you lost your precious little one, we were a hair's breadth from that. and I bled out for 5 hours on the table, got sepsis and spent two weeks alone fighting for my own life. Not the point of the thread but I just wanted to give a background. Otherwise healthy normal pregnancy right til that point, I was 30 so neither young nor old.

They told me to wait 2 years because of how extensive my PPH was and how sick I became post op. We waited the 2 years and then TTC. We have had a second little one now. (again a bit poorly but pulled through after a scary in patient stay on NICU). They insisted an elective c section absolutely no VBAC which is fine, they said do not labour- except baby came early, there were no spaces in theatre and it went to emergency c section. My t incision came apart. I have to have a hysterectomy in the near future.

I'm sorry it's hard- and your going through so much. T incisions are quite uncommon so I haven't met any other mums who've been through anything like it IRL.

I would look into getting a private well woman womb scan they can see how your womb is looking. I found it useful.

Take care op you've been through a lot x

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