Scared I'm having a miscarriage

[Givemepickles]

Please help I'm so anxious. I'm 4 weeks pregnant and due AF yesterday. I first tested positive 4 days ago. Last night I had bright red blood when I wiped. Not just a few spots, it covered the paper but it wasn't heavy and no clots like a period. I burst into tears immediately. I don't want to lose this baby. Overnight there is small spotting on a pad and then darker red blood when wiping but a bit less than last night.

I've also had lower back pain since about 8dpo and it got worse yesterday, enough to want a hot water bottle but not unmanageable.

Has anyone had bleeding like this? What was the outcome and how did it progress?

Oh lovely it could go either way and none of us can tell.
What I can advise, is not to test so early, because it sets you up for heartbreak. If the egg doesn't stick and your period comes at the normal time you'd be disappointed at 'not getting pregnant' but not heartbroken at what now feels like a miscarriage.
Unless there's a huge infertility back story and you need to test early for medication or something I wouldn't put myself through this.

So sorry you’re going through this, I’ve been there and it’s awful. As above, there is really no way to know yet. My first pregnancy I started bleeding around 6 weeks, sadly it was a miscarriage. Second pregnancy I had a big bleed again around 6 weeks, I was convinced I was going to miscarry again but everything was fine, carried to 38 weeks with no further bleeding or issues. It really could go one way or the other and I really hope for you it’s positive. Look after yourself xx

I agree it's so early, there are no guarantees anyone can give you.

Is there a reason you're testing early?
If you don't remain pregnant at this point it's most likely because that embryo isn't ready or right to stick.

If this pregnancy doesn't last it you can be sad and have a big ugly cry. But you will get over the other side.

Thanks for your replies. I tested early because I felt I was pregnant and wanted to know. I never considered there was a reason not to test to be honest. I've not had any fertility issues and have one DC already. I'm blaming myself because I went on a long walk yesterday and got really tired and think I overdid it. I know it's probably not that but can't help feeling I've caused this.

I didn't have bleeding in first pregnancy and that pregnancy just felt different too even right from the start.

Nothing you’ve done will cause it. It’s usually the egg not developing as it should so the process stops. D

You did nothing wrong OP, these things are out of our hands, could still be all ok 🙏

There is literally nothing you can do to cause a miscarriage this early. A long walk certainly isnt going to do it.
If it really is a miscarriage, it is because the embryo wasnt viable, and had some genetic/chromossomical anomalies that made it incompatible with life. This is not on you!

Unfortunately, it is too early to tell. Even a scan would not be able to tell you anything at this point, as there would be literally nothing to see.

I would say wait a few days, maybe 5 or 6, and then test again. It is a case of wainting to see, unfortunately.

Thank you.

I'm still bleeding so assume this is it. No pain though but maybe that's cause its so early. I'll test again at the end of the week. Dh wanted me to test this morning but that wouldn't be accurate would it?

I've got up now and going to get out and do my best to enjoy the beautiful autumn day we have here and my gorgeous happy boy who needs to get out the house. Will update this thread with what the outcome was when I know xx

Sorry, just wondering if I should expect pain or just a normal period? What are others experiences?

Sounds like a possible chemical pregnancy, I'm sorry OP. I've had one and a later loss so I know how much it hurts.

For me at my 4 week loss, it was like a heavier than normal period. I was recommended to wear thick pads rather than tampons to reduce the risk of infection. Go easy on yourself over the next few days, it's ok to cry xx

My chemicals were like a normal period. And the cramps weren't too bad. I hope you're okay and you'll get through it x

I had a MC at 7 weeks I had a bleed which started as spotting then turned to a light bleed and got heavier and then only what I can explain as a rush of blood as I passed the pregnancy and then it all settled again I barley bled through the night and by the next day the bleeding was all but stopped wasn't any worse than normal period pains for a few hours. I hope you are doing ok xxx

@Givemepickles so sorry my love. I had a CP last month - started bleeding at 4+5, 4 days after my BFP (although it was always a faint line). In my case, it was just as though my period had arrived late. No heavier and no more painful than usual. I had a MMC earlier in the year and that was completely different.

To hopefully provide some hope, I've conceived again this month - the cycle immediately after my CP. I'm a bit of a mess just now as at 4+5 again and stressing it's happening again but time will tell. Point being, you never know what's around the corner. Hopefully you won't have to wait too long to see that second line again. 💕

I'm blaming myself because I went on a long walk yesterday and got really tired and think I overdid it

You didn't cause it. Please do not blame yourself. Miscarriages in the first trimester are pretty common and even more common at the point you were at.

Look after yourself, you're allowed to feel sad. You will get out the other side.

Thank you everyone for taking the time to reply and share your experiences. I'm sorry so many others have had this sadness and realise it must be hard to talk about so I do appreciate it.

My bleeding stopped early afternoon and not had any since. It never got heavier so I am hoping maybe it was implantation bleeding or just some cramping? I don't know, I'm clutching at straws. I've read online that the bleeding can stop and start so I have to wait and see, which is so hard. We went out today but I found it too much and came home to rest. The last 24 hours has been exhausting.

I'm assuming there's no point contacting my GP tomorrow as there's nothing they can do. If I'm still pregnant on Friday I'll register with my hospital's maternity unit and see what they say about the bleeding.

I had all of that with my second after having never had any of that with my first- both successful pregnancies. I bled throughout the pregnancy with my second and it was nerve wracking, but in some pregnancies that is normal. I've had friends go through similar and go on to have miscarriages and I've had friends go through similar and have healthy babies nine months later. The truth is that it's impossible to tell right now for anyone, medical professionals included. All you can do is wait and see, which is literally the worst thing you could hear right now, I know. Take it easy and be kind to yourself. Fingers crossed.

I had some bleeding around 5-6ish weeks with pain in my left side! I was terrified it was ectopic! I was referred to EPAU who were great and scanned me the same day and everything turned out fine! I had pinky/ red spotting for probably almost 2 weeks, then stopped! I'm now 16 weeks!