14w2d very anxious

[Kayleigh121]

I'm 14w2d today however baby is measuring 14w6d and I am so bloody anxious it's unreal. I had a scan on the 4th of October and dont have another one until the 23rd of November. All the symptoms I had have disappeared and it's making me feel very sad and anxious. I have paid for a early gender scan on the 29th of October but so bloody scared I'll go and they'll tell me something is wrong.

How does everyone cope between their 12 week scan and 20 week scan?! The constant how are you, how is baby and your just like I have no idea.

I know I am probably just overthinking everything as I had such a rubbish 1st pregnancy and 6xmiscarriages trying for this baby I just don't know how to feel or what to do 😭

I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriages, it’s bound to make you feel nervous.

Just keep reminding yourself that you have a healthy baby and everything was good at the 12 week scan! Don’t worry too much about size, they can grow really quickly early on and then it can even itself out or they are just just going to be a bigger baby, which is absolutely fine too.

It’s completely normal for the majority of pregnancy symptoms to have disappeared now since you’re in the second trimester. Hopefully soon you’ll start to feel some flutters of movement and then maybe be getting some stretching pains with your body changing to carry the baby.

It’s really difficult not to worry and panic yourself, but try to think of the positives and try look forward to the gender scan. Who will be going with you? How are you going to tell the others.
I liked booking my gender scan as it felt like a check in between the 12th and 20th week scans.

The pp said pretty much everything I was going to say. 12-20 weeks is such a tough part (for me anyway) your symptoms disappear (completely normal) and you can't yet feel anything.
I booked a gender scan at 17 weeks. I wasn't particularly fussed to know the gender but did need to know baby was ok. I also insisted the midwife check the heartbeat at the 16 week check. It's not protocol anymore as it can be hard to find, so it's up to you if you wanted to take the risk but I had never heard of anyone not finding it at that stage and was willing to book a private scan if she couldn't find it.

Sorry to hear you’re so anxious. It’s totally understandable with everything you’ve been through. Just know that now you’re past 12 weeks the risk of miscarriage has gone down significantly and it’s totally normal to have less symptoms in the second trimester. If it helps at all, I had very few symptoms and spent my entire pregnancy convinced something was wrong. I now have a healthy four month old son.