I don't want things to change

[firsttimemumglasgow]

Hi, I'm 30 years old and I'm scared of how things are going to change.

I am 34 weeks pregnant and I'm starting to feel overwhelmed at the thought of things changing. My partner and I are very much in love but I fear not being able to enjoy the things we do now like buying each other surprise gifts or watching a scary movie at night. I'm too scared to know if he feels the same so I don't ask.

I also don't feel very good about my appearance either, I'm large as expected but I don't feel as though he looks at me the same way. I did actually ask if he was still attracted to me and he said yes but my anxiety has a hold on me and I feel as though it's making me pull away.

Is it horrible to wish I could go back and not get pregnant?

I love him, I don't want to lose him.

When you talk about your anxiety, is that something that's diagnosed that you usually have some difficulties with?

Rationally there is no reason why you couldn't keep giving each other gifts, or watch a scary movie together. You're not going to lose your partner as a result of having a child together.

I often do have problems which stem from my anxiety. Prior to pregnancy I was on setraline but I stopped taking it due to it causing terrible nausua.

I feel so panicky as we get closer to the birth.

Thank you for your reply.

Giving birth and adjusting to a new baby is a change, one that you haven't experienced before. It's natural to have some concerns about how things will change. But if you are feeling constantly panicky then maybe it's something you need to chat to your midwife about?

@firsttimemumglasgow Hi just wanted to say I know how you feel. I felt the same sometimes. We tried for a year and then as soon as it came up positive I had all sorts of negative thoughts & regrets for a while.. Also the same about my DH not finding me attractive as my body was changing.. he always reassured me & made me feel like I was the most beautiful pregnant woman out there (even though I new different). Apparently he was alot more attracted to me through pregnancy & even now 2 years on with my rolls & stretch marks (i still have my 2stone baby weight) Try not to think too much about it.. your body is doing an amazing job housing your baby.

Our daughter fitted into our lives so easy. We work as a team and we get our tv time with each other and separately. Time together as a family & date nights with the help of our families. You can spend as much or as little as you need on a baby.. you make it work for you two, so that you can still fit in those little gifts. Your partner will fall in love with you even more when he sees the most precious gift you could ever give him🥰 Try to relax and enjoy your last few weeks pregnant.. it goes by soo fast. All the very best😊