Worrying about miscarriage

[LW678]

Hi all, I’m 5+5 and just so anxious about miscarriage. I have no signs of a miscarriage but just read so many stories and it seems so common. I had a chemical in June when I was 4+5 and I think this is what has caused the anxiety. Just wondering if there’s anyone out there feeling the same? Still taking tests everyday, feeling my boobs every 2 minutes to make sure they’re still hurting..

This really helped me - hope it helps you too.

Thank you so much x

I found these odds really comforting as well and watching them go down everyday!

https://datayze.com/miscarriage-chart

@Parvule These are amazing! I am 17 weeks now and wished I had seen this earlier as I was (and still) am feeling like the OP. Thank you for sharing xx

Thank you. Every little twinge I think is this it? And each time I use the toilet I panic!

Thank you for sharing that @coscosymama2020

Same honestly. I’m at 6 + 1 now and it is starting to lessen. I use that data website too. But I also think, every person who’s ever had a baby has been in the early stages of pregnancy and it’s not ended in miscarriage. Just try to keep yourself busy over the next few weeks if you can!

"My past does not dictate my future" is an affirmation I've had to repeat to myself many times!
I'm now 31+1 and still worry that something bad might happen, I don't think it ever goes away completely unfortunately but there are ways you can manage it and learn to enjoy your pregnancy.

Aw OP I really feel you!
I had a chemical at 5 weeks in 2020.
Pregnant April 2021 and was anxious mess the whole time! Happy healthy boy now 21 months old!

I found counting milestones really helpful (I'm now 7+2 and just as anxious so using the same method this time round.. I also still took a test today!)

These were the milestones I counted:

First was an early scan at 6 weeks
NHS early scan at 8 due to dr picking up blood in urine sample but had no bleeding
Then midwife booking in appointment 9 weeks
12 week scan
Another private scan at 14 weeks (expensive but had pain)
16 week midwife appointment/hearing HB
17 week early gender scan
20 week scan
22 week rescan as some 20 weeks checked couldn't be done
Then 24 week midwife
With growth scans/midwife appointments became more!

Then the movements were felt from 20ish weeks and it really did lift some anxiety! By ticking off each milestone it didn't feel so daunting and a 'whole 9 months' and more little goal posts to reach and less to count down 🙏🏼

I also recommend deleting this app. Lots of women have this a a safe place to discuss our sad losses/connect with others in the same situation when going through it and I find it's all you unfortunately read, so of course you feel like it's going to happen to you. Mumsnet is lovely until it stresses you out.

Trust in your body. It's what our bodies are made to do ❤️🙏🏼

Thanks so much everyone! With my first miscarriage never even crossed my mind, I thought it was a rarity, but now it has happened I look at things so differently. I have my first scan tomorrow at 6 weeks exactly, I want to feel excited but failing to feel anything but worry and dread incase there’s no heartbeat.

@Boymamaxx you are so right. I’m so pleased you went on to have a healthy little boy x

It’s normal to feel that way, but remember it is common and you can’t do anything about it. That has reassured me since having a loss recently. 6 weeks is a bit early to have an accurate scan; most good places don’t do them til 8 weeks. For me staying awa from pregnancy tests and scans is helping

@LW678 I've just come across your post and really resonate with you! I am 6+4 today and I have my 7 week reassurance scan on Thursday (IVF pregnancy) and I am ADAMANT that I've had a missed miscarriage / have a blighted ovum / the baby has stopped developing. The anxiety is beyond me.

How did your scan go and I'm really hoping your anxiety was for nothing and you are feeling better with a baby growing nicely.

@GCS34 hello! I had a scan at 6 weeks where they saw the gestational sac and another scan at 6+4 as I was so nervous and then they saw the yolk sac. So I am a bit behind with my dates but pleased to have seen progression. Going to go back again soon to ensure I have a fetal pole and heartbeat. I bet you can’t wait for Thursday!

@LW678 Ah that's great news and great they could see both sack on both! What was their estimation on gestation based on those two scans and where are you now?
I'm not sure if It's not being able to wait for Thursday, more just wanting it over and done with as I'm adamant it's a MMC so I just want to know so we can at least know, that make sense?

@GCS34 hope I'm not butting in!

I've got a private scan on Thursday too, I'm about 8 weeks. I had a MMC earlier this year and I'm quite scared by the experience. I'm thinking like you, knowledge is power. If it's not gone right, at least I can make decisions and move on quickly. If it's fine, then great.

But in my head, I'm convinced it's going to be bad news.

@LW678 pleased for you!

@Macadamiabeat no not at all! It's lovely to know someone else is the same and same timeline as me (bar a week). What time is your scan on Thursday? Are you natural or IVF pregnancy if you don't mind me asking? And i'm really sorry for your loss earlier this year. x

I think that's it - just knowing what's to come is at least more certainty than right now, you know? And ditto - I am the same. Do you have any symptoms or anything like that? And have you had any issues throughout the 8 weeks that have lead you to think it could be bad news?

Thanks! It's a natural pregnancy and the scan is in the late afternoon, but wish I'd chosen morning so I wouldn't have to wait around and pretend to do some work. When is yours?

Symptoms were fierce all of last week but today I actually feel hungry and like a human, albeit a tired one. I even spoke to the maternity unit who were very nice but said not to worry as long as there's no cramping and bleeding. Nothing this time to make me think there's something wrong other than my naturally doom laden way of thinking and far far too much time in the internet.

I had this OP.

Went thinking I was 5+6 (saw sons HB then so risked it) and was measuring 5+2 with yolk sac and no HB. Went back thinking I'd be 6+2 as it was exactly a week later but was 6+1 so I was convinced it was going wrong. Did see a HB then.

Went back thinking I'd be 7+4 (had some pains so booked in) and I was 8+1 and my dates matched up!

I was SO certain of my dates on the earlier scans, it would of been impossible to have got the BFP when I did if the dates were correct at the start but was just all too small to measure properly.