Pregnant again after MC

[Bumblesbee84]

Hoping to find some lovely ladies in a similar situation to share the journey.

I've just found out I'm pregnant again after a miscarriage in August. This is my fourth pregnancy, my first was MMC, second was beautiful DS, third was spontaneous MC. I'm struggling (already!) and it's only day 2 of knowing about it! We'll be booking an early scan at 7-8 weeks, which i found reassuring with DS pregnancy. Right now I don't know how I'll get through the next days and weeks...I know from past experience the time WILL pass, but its so hard when you're in the middle of it.

Anyway, if anyone is in a similar situation and wants to share the journey I would love to hear from you! Equally any positive stories or wise words welcome!

No positive stories but I'm in the same position! Pregnant today (5w3d) after four previous losses. Absolutely terrified and time is moving so slowly. I had a little spotting so ended up taking time off work as I could cope with my teaching job whilst also being on high alert for bleeding etc. this is a tough road to walk!

I'm reading the "pregnancy after loss" book by Zoe Clarke Coates and also using the PAL app. Trying to distract with crappy tv and arts and crafts as much as possible but mostly just wishing time away!

Hope you're doing okay!

I'm also in a similar situation. 4 miscarriages with my last being in May this year.

I'm absolutely terrified this time around even though I'm just 4 weeks along. I didn't feel this way with my last pregnancy. I was genuinely thrilled and excited. But this time I'm just so worried. I'm thinking maybe it's hormonal and the reality will sink in a few days and I can start to feel that same joy again.

Do either of you have any other symptoms yet?

Hi ladies, thanks for your replies
@thehurtingheart I'm so sorry for your previous losses. The time moving slowly thing is very real! Sounds really sensible to take some time off work, take all the time you feel you need. I've found work a bit of a distraction this week although a colleague has just announced a pregnancy which I'm trying not to think too much about! I've not heard of that book, are you finding it helpful?

@JunkJane so sorry for your previous losses too. Have you guys had any investigations? I've found joy really hard thing to grasp, definitely just aiming to get through the days atm. Be kind to yourself, pregnancy after loss will always have emotional challenges. With DS it was only really after 12 week scan i started to believe it might be ok and we'd had an earlier scan.

I ovulated really early this cycle as I think things were messed up after MC and have short cycles anyway so even though today would be AF due date, I'm only 3+3! Re symptoms my boobs have definitely been more sore than usual. And I've been feeling nauseous, but never had nausea this earlier in a pregnancy so wonder if I'm a bit under the weather or something. Other than that, no symptoms but as I'm so early in ok with that.

I'm trying to focus on little goals/ things in the diary as milestones to pass, like pilates on Monday which will be good.

Have you guys told anyone or are you planning too?

Hey ladies, hope you’re all managing to stay sane during this anxiety inducing period. This is my 4th pregnancy. 1st was a MMC, second was a blighted ovum and my 3rd resulted in my now 17 month old. Super nervous and counting t the days down to my early scan. I know it’s awful but I have already convinced myself that this pregnancy has gone wrong. I guess that’s my coping mechanism.

I really hope we all get the positive outcomes we deserve. None of my friends have has a miscarriage so feel like I’m bringing down the mood whenever I mention it, so I don’t anymore.

how’s everyone doing symptom wise?

@Boredinthehouse12 everything crossed for you with this pregnancy! How many weeks are you? When's you're scan? We've booked one when I'll be 7+2, feels like ages away right now!

It's hard when friends find it hard to understand. Quite a few of my friends have had miscarriages, I'm 39 so probs more common with my age group. I only told one friend about most recent MC, everyone is so busy with their lives so I didn't say anything...but sort if wish I had.

I've just had sore boobs, have your had any symptoms? Feeling quite tired today but not long back from a holiday so that might be why!

I had a mmc in July at 12 weeks and found out this week I’m expecting again. 4 weeks today and feeling all of things you mentioned!

Definitely want to book a scan, just not sure when for!

@Bumblesbee84 Im 5+2 today. I have have minimal symptoms really. Just a bit of mild nausea here and there but nothing worth noting.

Due to history my EPU will be scanning me at 7 weeks. I’m soon to be 34 now but had both miscarriages when I was 32.

@Agathapoirot sorry for your loss and congrats on the new pregnancy. Everything crossed for you! It's hard to know when it's best for an earlier scan, ideally I'd have gone for 8 weeks but we're away then so i thought I'd book a few days before.
@Boredinthehouse12 that's really good EPU will scan you early. A day at a time until then right.

Hello everyone! Mayo join?

Had a MMC in April (scan at 11+4 - babyhad stopped developing at 7+5), then a CP last month. Much to my surprise I've just had another BFP 4 days ago. Still feeling extremely cautious as not even past the CP timeline yet, although I think my tests look better than the ones last month.

I'll be 38 in December and I'm lucky to have a gorgeous 2 1/2 year old boy already.

Sorry for your previous losses and food luck to everyone with our 🌈 babies! 🙏 Xx

Gargh sorry for all the typoes 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

@SnookyPook congrats on your new pregnancy, hoping for a healthy and safe journey for you. That's positive that you're lines look a bit better than last month. Keep taking it a day at a time!

I've been feeling quite nauseous, which I'm hoping is a positive sign although it seems really early. Didn't kick in with DS until 6 weeks.

Hey @Bumblesbee84

i had a Mmc in &’July and am currently 9w. It’s been the slowest 6 weeks of my life and I’ve actually found it rather lonely. Last time I told some friends very early on and then obviously had to share the loss. I don’t honestly believe that “jinxed” me but this time I’ve been so reluctant to share that I’ve told no one.

I’ve been for a scan today and the growth all looks good but I’ve been told the heartbeat is weak. I’m measuring exactly what the baby measured finally measured in my MMC.

I would definitely share with someone you know and share the burden of worry xxx

Hi @HashB sorry for your previous loss. I really hope this one works out for you. Was your scan at the EPU or private?

I think I might be having another early loss 😔 no bleeding yet but my lines are looking rubbish and I should be 20dpo now. Hey ho...

Do you think it could be a situation where your urine is just diluted? I know if I were in your situation I would also fear the worst, but keep just carrying on until you know for sure. My lines have all been super faint. Only today at 17dpo does my line look dark enough that it's starting to feel real. Still not a dye stealer but maybe in a few more days it'll look like the control line. I hate being such a depressive worrywart but I'm 38 and still trying for our first.

Hi all,
Just wanted to pop on, i have had 4 pregnancies, 1st was my daughter (5), 2nd I had an early miscarriage at 6 weeks, 3rd was a MMC at 11 weeks and now I am 20 weeks pregnant.
I still feel completely overwhelmed and anxious! I am ok for about 2 weeks after a scan and then I struggle!
I would urge anyone to contact their GP or EPU if it's affecting your mental health, I know EPUs differ depending where we live but I was very fortunate that they took all my concerns seriously and referred me to a clinic who would scan me every 2-3 weeks in the first 12 weeks.
Pregnancy after loss is hard and I feel for you all. I have no tips or tricks because I still suffer each day but I'm sending you all lots of luck xx

@Mummyofatinyterror thank you for your kind words and wishing you well for the rest of your pregnancy. You've made the half way stage which is such a milestone. It's really good that you got support with early scans, that must have been reassuring.

@SnookyPook how worrying for you, could you wait 48 hours before testing again? Easier said then done I know. Sometimes a few days can make all the difference. Thinking of you lovely.

@HashB is great you've got to 9 weeks, it's crazy how slow the hours and days can suddenly become! I've told a good friend about my pregnancy, it's been good to share it with her. Will probably tell my mum when I see her in a couple of weeks.

@JunkJane @Bumblesbee84 thank you. The tests have been 48hrs apart and first morning urine so on those fronts I'm covered. My nugget of hope is that the tests I've used do have some poor reviews on Amazon regarding faint lines etc so just maybe... However, I used the same hope last month and it was actually a CP. I'm on super high alert because this is the day I started spotting last month so that doesn't help.

I've bought a couple of other brands today so if no bleeding by morning I'll try one of those and see how it looks. Also, I'm actually 18dpo not 20, so maybe that's slightly better. I just don't know.

@SnookyPook how are you getting on? Did the new tests show anything different?

My DD is asleep next to me and she came along after a MC. It was a scary pregnancy as I didn't want to lose her. I had an early scan and then one more private scan later. (If I get pregnant again, I don't think we could afford it. We could back then). There is no way to stop the worry, I'm sorry to say, but you have a wonderful bunch of mums on here who have been in the same position and will happily hand hold should you need it. I want to hug you and send you tons of good wishes for this pregnancy (and all the other ladies in your position)

@JunkJane ah thanks for checking in. Yes, got positives on 2 other brands but still not suggestive of high HCG (I got a 1-2 weeks on CB when I was expecting 2-3). I'm just waiting on results of a repeat HCG blood test from GP, and if I make it to Tuesday, my women's health unit who dealt with my MMC in April have offered an early scan (6 weeks). Feeling a bit in limbo still but hopefully there is still hope. Not had any spotting or bleeding so far. 🙏🌈

How's everyone else getting on?

Congratulations @Lulubo1 - always lovely to hear success stories 🥰

@SnookyPook so sorry you're still feeling in limbo, that's so tough. That's good you've been offered a scan, hopefully that will give you a better idea of how things are going. Not long until Tues, although I'm sure it'll feel like a long weekend. 🙏

I'm doing ok thanks. Not really any symptoms apart from still having sore boobs. It's strange that I've known for 10 days but I'm only 4+3 which makes time feel like it's not really moving. Just under 3 weeks until the private scan we've booked so aiming for that at the mo.

@Lulubo1 thanks for your positivity and kind words. Lovely about your DD! x

First of all congratulations 🥳 my first was a MC at 7 weeks and took 2 years to get pregnant again I was just starting IVF. I am nervous I find myself checking the tissue everyone I go to the loo or all the cramps and pains s have me on edge but I'm just trying to take it one day at a time as I don't really have another option. My GP actually signed me off work for a week which has helped I was a mess when IVF was cancelled I didn't believe all my positive tests were real was absolutely convinced they were false positives .

@LizzeyBenett huge congrats on your new pregnancy after your long road to get there. Totally get how much anxiety you must be feeling about it. Really good that you for signed off and had some time out of work. How many weeks are you? Praying for a healthy and safe journey for you.

@Bumblesbee84 I be 5 weeks on Sunday so a long road ahead till I can relax .