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BabyHope1 · 10/10/2023 13:34

Hi.
I'm almost 30w pregnant. I'm not in the UK and I have gynecologist who has been following my pregnancy from the start.

I had several early miscarriages. Also been diagnosed with hpv.

My doctor seems inclined to influence me into having a C section even though I would prefer natural birth, as she says this would be with less risks for sth to go wrong with our miracle baby. I'm guessing that the fact my due date is close to Christmas could be a reason as well.

My doctor has helped me a lot in this journey so I feel quite uncomfortable to very drastically treat the situation.

What are your experiences with birth and want would you choose in my situation?

Thank you!

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Nursemumma92 · 10/10/2023 13:57

I would ask your doctor what their specific concerns are in terms of things going wrong and the wellbeing of your baby if you were to have a vaginal birth and do some research from there. If this pregnancy is progressing well and you and baby are both healthy, then there is no reason not to try for a vaginal birth. If your doctor has specific concerns for you or baby then you can make a decision with that in mind.

I have had 2 vaginal births with no complications but also work in obstetric theatres. Elective c sections are increasingly popular and suit many women and offer a controlled and generally predictable environment for delivery. They are not risk free though and can have complications occur too both with mum and baby, as with a vaginal birth.

It is your body, baby and birth and only you know how you feel about it. First step is to really unpick what the doctor means about less risk and go from there. There is no risk free mode of delivery unfortunately. Wishing you all the best with your birth!

Bosabosa · 10/10/2023 14:01

I desperately wanted a home water Birth and was all set up for it but then needed an emergency c section. After 25 hours of labour, it was practically blissful! I understand your concern, and you shouldn't feel pressurised into it, but just know that a c section can be a very special experience.

Summer2424 · 10/10/2023 14:11

Hi @BabyHope1
I went along with what my doctor had suggested hun, induction, try for natural birth but in the end had to have an emergency c section.
For me, i wish they had got me in earlier for a c section.
Make the decision that feels right for you but also take in the doctors advice xx

PercytheParkKeepershedgehog · 10/10/2023 14:16

Look up the C-sections rates in the country you’re in. A few countries have enormously high rates that suggest women are being pushed into having C-sections that are medically unnecessary. Unless you’d prefer a C-section? I didn’t want abdominal surgery so was keen to avoid it.

InTheRainOnATrain · 10/10/2023 14:31

What country is this? She should at the very least explain why she feels a vaginal is risky and a c section safer so you’re not left wondering if it’s for her own convenience over Christmas. I wouldn’t hesitate to get another opinion from another doctor though, presuming this is all private and you are able to do so: just because she was great during your miscarriages doesn’t mean she’s the best fit for you now; if you do go have a vaginal delivery then there’s no guarantee she’d be the doctor on call that day anyway.

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BabyHope1 · 10/10/2023 16:58

@InTheRainOnATrain one of the reasons I think is the hpv and the other that c section is a quite standard and under control procedure. But I do agree with you and I will insist to do it my way unless there is a real concern. She didn't say it must be c section, but I felt like she was trying to induce the idea to me. We decided we will see how things progress and decide then. If I won't feel comfortable with the conclusion, I will go for a second opinion.

Really hope I'll get as close to the due date as possible. My sister had both her kids a bit after 37w.

Thanks a lot for all the replies!

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MargotBamborough · 10/10/2023 19:22

Which country are you in, OP?

I wouldn't personally recommend having a C-section unless you want one or there is a medical indication for it.

InTheRainOnATrain · 10/10/2023 20:15

I’ve had 2 elective sections so I’m with you on them being a standard and under control procedure. I’d run a million miles though from a doctor that wasn’t clear with me, didn’t explain risks, won’t tell you why they were making a particular recommendation and feels the need to introduce things on the sly to let them brew without being upfront and clear as to why. Just based on what you’ve said and nothing more, if I was having a vaginal delivery which can be more unpredictable that would honestly be the last possible doctor I’d want in the room. But you haven’t said what country so no idea if the culture comes into it. If it’s Brazil with the famously high csection rate, maybe it’s just expected you’ll deliver that way. If it’s the US then the doctor sounds terrible and I would go elsewhere.

RowenaEllis · 10/10/2023 20:22

Why is vaginal birth higher risk for you? You need to know that before you can make a decision. The fact that you had miscarriages doesn't necessarily mean vaginal birth is high risk!

beetr00 · 10/10/2023 20:29

@BabyHope1 I wonder if others have missed the HPV factor?

It seems your doctor is being cautious.

This site may help you to make a more informed decision.

Ultimately though, this your decision, your baby, your birth plan. All the very best 💐

https://www.britishjournalofmidwifery.com/content/comment/hpv-during-pregnancy/#:~:text=HPV%20and%20birth,the%20virus%20on%20its%20own.

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