To have a baby or not

[Narwhalelife]

Me and DP are 34 & 40, I have DD 14 and he has DD 5, we have been together 2 years, engaged live together. I have my DD full time minimal contact from her dad. And we have his DD 50/50, week on/ week off.

As you can tell I had my DD very young. I have never felt broody in my life but I am really feeling it. DP feeling it too.

we have come accustomed to our life, whereby we get several children free nights a week. We share the same passions and interests so indulge them but that pull to have a baby is so strong!

I admit I am a little scared having had a baby at 19, unplanned and I feel as though DP can be slightly reluctant when the conversation is raised sometimes.

I am on the coil and it’s due to be renewed in December which may be part of the dilemma. DP says we will decide nearer the time, can’t help but feel he is just saying that to please me.

please help, do I say what I want and risk losing an an awesome man and family life or do I just let him come to his own decision?

My thoughts are, no rush. If you're 34, another year or two won't hurt.
Enjoy your life as it is now then come back to it when you've been together a little longer.
You're engaged so sounds like he's a keeper.
And him sounded unsure is normal to an extent.
You've both already got children so you know it's a bit hard at times so a big decision to rock the boat, but worth it if you both want it.
I just had my 2nd at 39. My partner's first.
My daughter is 16. So slightly similar situations but you have much more time on your side.
Babies are great though. I'm loving it and want more!
All the best