Six weeks pregnant after miscarriage

[Macadamiabeat]

I'm 5+6 pregnant. I had a MMC picked up in March at 13 weeks (sac was empty) which took six weeks to complete and a chemical pregnancy in August at 5+1. And then got pregnant in the cycle straight after.

I just don't feel excited, instead like I have to steel myself for something that will go wrong. I've done 4 tests (all with a dark positive line), I've made my partner hide the rest. I'm waiting for the maternity unit to reply to my self referral and thinking about a private scan at 8 weeks. But not thinking about it too hard as don't want to tempt fate.

But it's so hard to be happy or optimistic, the best I can hope for is neutral. I keep checking for blood everytime I pee. I know all the advice that past miscarriages aren't necessarily an indicator and you're more fertile after a chemical pregnancy. I'm 38 though, time doesn't really feel on my side.

I know I'm meant to keep busy, not stress out about it and realise it's pretty much out of my control, however that is all very hard to do. So no real question, more of a vent.

I can totally empathise op. I don't mean to be the glass half empty but when I went through repeated multiple miscarriages and came on here looking for people who understood, I personally didn't take comfort from the happy ending stories. I just wanted to speak to people who understood the fear, the feeling of just assuming it was going to go wrong again, the understanding of over analysing every little twinge in your body. It's shit. Obviously I absolutely hope this all works out well for you this time op, you just have to get through every day, every hour is what I found.
As for testing, I became obsessed with testing. It wasn't healthy and it was bloody expensive! Try not to as I can also say from experience, if the worst happens you will still test positive for a while afterwards anyway, so once it's been confirmed that pregnancy has happened, it's a pointless exercise.
Good luck op.

Really feel for you, it's very hard being pregnant after miscarriage.
I had 2 chemicals before I had my son, then a miscarriage at 6 weeks in July. Now approaching 6 weeks again myself.
My therapist told me to try focusing on the now. So reminding myself today I am pregnant and trying to not jump ahead too much (I either catastrophise or get over excited when I think ahead). So that's what I've been trying and although it's hard, I do think it's helping. It's also allowing me to take a little joy in the now instead of refusing to acknowledge my pregnancy which is what I was doing before in an effort to protect myself.
Sending love to you, it's so hard when you can't control the outcome.

Hi @Macadamiabeat
Totally understand hun, i had a miscarriage then got pregnant 2 months later. I did the same, kept checking when i went to the loo. I had my baby girl in 2022.
Stay positive, look after yourself and enjoy your pregnancy x

I get - my last baby was after 2 mc. I remember my midwife called me at 8 weeks to arrange the booking appointment and I burst in tears and said what's the point?

(I lost both arround 8 weeks).

So we agreed not to book me in till 10 weeks and I had a scan at 9 weeks. That scan was so emotional. During covid so no partners and convinced I had lost another baby. She found the heartbeat so quickly, let me video call my partner and I was ahead of my dates. Best news ever.

Didn't stop my worrying the whole pregnancy but it did get better each week.

Take each day as they come and good luck!

I have written the same post as this a week or so ago. I am 4w+2 and I don’t feel enjoyment this time after a miscarriage (MMC 12w), just worried. I keep pregnancy testing and feeling anxious, even now that I have sickness and all the positive signs. I am in two minds about telling people, last time they found out at work anyway because I had to have time off with the miscarriage.

The only thing that is making me feel better is knowing I am going to have an early pregnancy scan at 7w, and I wont (hopefully) be shocked at 12 weeks by bad news. I just need to hold my breath until then, and try and calm down.

I understand the need to vent - it feels good to know you are not alone.

Wishing you luck for the next few weeks, fingers crossed xx

I understand how horrible it is :( I'm 8+3 after two MMCs and a chemical. It's just so frightening. I check for blood every time I go to the loo. Was doing ok but had a tiny bit of pink spotting last night so have another EPU scan on Wednesday now when I'll be nearly 9 weeks. The scan at 7 was all normal. Fingers crossed for all of us. X

I had all of these experiences when pregnant after miscarriage. It's really stressful. There is lots of hope, though, over time-DD is now in her late 20s.

(Pregnancy start dated from 4 weeks after the last miscarriage).

Thanks so much all. I really do want to be positive, but it feels so early and there's still scope for it to go wrong - @mincepieandcustard you put it really well.

@oop I'm definitely trying hard to keep it small and not think too far ahead. I've had to stop myself from looking at the maternity leave policy at work, because that is too far away!!

@lifehappens12 I'm so sorry - pleased though that you were able to get in for a scan early.

@Silverfoxlady I'm sorry - it's horrible. It's good to vent and I think my poor fiance (as wonderful as he is) is finding it hard to keep saying the right things over and over again.

@TheBirdintheCave I really hope all is ok and Wednesday goes well.

@marmaladeandpeanutbutter and @Summer2424 thank you for sharing.

I do hope it will all be fine for us all.

Have received dates for call with midwife, booking bloods and dating scan. I feel so panicky

Going to be honest and say I think neutral is about all you can hope for. I am not expecting any more than that! Do think if a scan will help, I didn't have one before my MC and I won't have an early scan if I do hopefully have another pregnancy. I know it won't help me, if it looks OK and then I have a loss after, it wouldn't be so much worse. Try and keep distracted if you can, make plans, do you have some project you can start in your house or garden?

@Macadamiabeat One day at a time. How long until your booking in appointment?

@PinkRoses1245 thanks. Sometimes I do forget about it and need to pull myself back! The house has many projects, it's a struggle to decide which one to do.

But seriously yes I need a distraction

@TheBirdintheCave my booking appointment is split in two, the call with the midwife is at the end of next week

I could have written your post months ago. Had a second miscarriage and then got pregnant straight after. I was terrible. Afraid to look in the loo, every weird feeling worried me. Well here I am 26 weeks expecting twin boys. All going well, ill be delivering in 10 weeks. You will get excited about this pregnancy eventually. I think once I got past 12 weeks, I began dreaming again. Good luck.