33 weeks pregnant / not bought anything

[FairyliquidBottle]

I'm 33 weeks pregnant and I have 1 dc already. I have not bought anything as we have a pram/bouncer/playmat/car seat etc

I just don't feel motivated/excited to buy anything. I know all I need is some babygros/moses basket/baby vests/nappies but even those things I can't really find the motivation to buy right now

I haven't packed my hospital bag either and that's the easy part because I have most things at home already

The other day I went to Tesco's and picked up a pack of newborn sleepsuits but then put it back just before I was about to pay for it

Did anyone else feel this way? Did anyone else not buy much until after baby was born?

I suffered with PND with my first, and I know I can't control it if it happens again this time but i'm worried this is the start of it already :(

Hopefully when i'm around 36 weeks I might suddenly get the urge to buy all the things. I have definitely been nesting, creating space for the baby/decluttering/cleaning out but when it comes to baby stuff i'm just not excited for it

TIA x

Just to add I know it's still early to worry about buying things considering we have the big things already but it's more the mental side of things. I have been waiting to feel that excitement of getting baby stuff (clothes, nappies, baby blankets) but it's not come yet

It’s quite hard to judge, if you have all the stuff already, then it’s kinda just spending for the sake of it. I’m 30 weeks with number 2 and don’t need anything but do see cute baby grows and want to buy them. I try not to though because I already have them and know I don’t need them. I’m not fussed on anything else, it’s all just more clutter! This doesn’t mean everyone is the same though and I think it’s really normal to be way more chilled with baby 2.

If you are worried about your mental health though, you should definitely talk to someone about it. Were you generally excited about the pregnancy? It’s ok if you aren’t. It’s also ok not to be obsessed by buying loads of stuff!

Thank you @TolkiensFallow and congratulations!! That makes me feel a bit more normal because maybe it is the fact that I have stuff already and if I was to buy baby clothes now then they would just be sitting there for 6 or more weeks

I was over the moon when I found out and i'm sure as time goes on, and the due date gets even closer then I will start to think about buying newborn essentials and it will start to feel more real

You've just reminded me I need to pack my hospital bag (37 weeks today 😂)!
I'd think it's normal to not feel motivated. Personally, I've done this twice before so don't feel as rushed to do things. Like you we have the big stuff, plus we know family are gifting her clothes & little bits & pieces so we're using our spare money to treat the two we have now before their sister is here.

I mean I'd personally just buy the stuff so you have it because babies coming early isn't unheard of and you're not far off full term.

If you're struggling to get motivated perhaps speak to your mw just for some support.

It is ways harder when you have another.

@FairyliquidBottle it sounds pretty normal to me! I hate the phrase but my “precious first born” I was so into buying things but I really don’t care about the stuff for number 2! I don’t have the headspace (or house space) to fill with things that aren’t needed yet… sounds like you’re doing fine!

@TolkiensFallow 🤣🤣 I feel a lot better now lol! It's good to hear it's totally normal to be unbothered and not in a rush when you've got stuff already! @Gloopyhoop good luck!! You're not far off at all, hope it all goes well!

@Puffinsandcreeks yes I will definitely get started on the hospital bag as I have most things at home for it anyway and

I’m 32 weeks, already have a child and i also haven’t bought much, mainly just maternity pads. Haven’t packed hospital bag either. Think i’ll be more arsed when i finish work and can actually rest.

How are you feeling in general OP? I’m finding third trimester with a toddler SUCKS.

I'm 34 weeks with number 4 and haven't bought anything. We had a few late miscarriages which made me sceptical we were going to get to bring a baby home at all. We had a growth scan a few days ago which showed a very healthy baby, I feel like it's only just sunk in that by December we will (God willing!) have a newborn.

We have enough clothes, it'll just have to wear a lot of pink if it's a boy as its got 3 older sisters. We still have a cat seat and my sister has a buggy and a crib we can have. Anything else can wait until it is here, amazon next day delivery can solve any problem!

Oh nappies, better buy some nappies!

@MariaVT65 thank you for reminding me that I actually do need to buy maternity pads!

I’m a few weeks behind you but I feel the same. We’re reusing the main items and haven’t felt the need or excitement to buy anything yet.

@MariaVT65 that's a good idea actually. I think I will wait until I am on maternity because then i'll actually have the energy to put stuff together lol! I am feeling super tired lately!! How are you feeling? When are you planning to go off on maternity? I'll be going at 37 weeks but added some leave on so will be sooner

@Moomoomo i'm sorry to hear that and very glad your scan went well! December is not far at all. Yes Amazon next day delivery is a life saver. It's not like before, waiting days and days for a delivery

@ThomasinaLivesHere so a few of us feeling the same then! Glad I started this thread as I was thinking it's abnormal 🤣

Good luck to you all by the way! We dont have long to go :)

I didn't buy much for DC3 as already had so much from DC2. Don't worry, the shops are open 24 hours and amazon delivers. You know what you're doing. It will be OK :)

The one thing I was really glad I'd bought was a present "from" the baby to DC2. It absolutely made his day and he was so happy (I got him a toy bus that he'd wanted for ages) and gave him a distraction too. I also got teenage DC1 some headphones kind of as a joke!

Yes agree to prepping hospital bag.

How are you feeling about the actual birth? Prepared, nervous, totally avoidant?? Do you already have anything in stone e.g. planned C section or just waiting to go naturally?

Oh and another thing that was really helpful for DC2 that you could do about now - I made him a little book that I just printed the text myself and made some crappy stick figure drawings, explaining what would happen when I went into labour.

Page 1 was our family as it was including me with big tum! Then some stuff about how mummies go into hospital to have babies and daddies go with them. Then some stuff about packing bags for me/baby/DS2, and explanation of him going to my friend's house while we're at hospital, how he might get picked up from nursery by her, or go in the car with DH, or even go in the middle of the night (he loved this, and when it was what actually happened he was so excited "Daddy, it's just like in my book!!") then that mummy + baby would probably stay in hospital for a day or two and DS2 + Daddy would come to the hospital to pick us up - this was during covid so they couldn't visit, but you could put about visiting. Last page was showing us all sitting in the car with the baby's car seat also visible. He still likes to read it and DC3 is now 2yo.

@BertieBotts that is such a wonderful idea!!! I love the idea of giving dc a gift from the baby. Thank you so much for sharing that with me, we will do the same and also with the book because at dc age I can imagine it's confusing when things aren't going by the usual routine. That's such a sweet thing to do and gives me something to do now as I am getting a bit bored LOL

I'm generally feeling okay but a tiny bit anxious at the same time. Trying to go for natural but going with an open mind to avoid disappointment! :)

In your shoes I would buy a pack of first sized vests and sleepsuits and a pack of nappies and a pack of maternity pads and stick them in a bag and then leave the rest until you’re on Mat leave. You don’t want to end up in a stressful situation where you go into labour early but have nothing in and then have to try to direct your DH to buy the right stuff in Tesco (speaking from bitter experience here!).

Or you could just buy a cheap bundle off Vinted, they’re so cheap and then you’ve got at least a few bits.

I think that’s normal, to me. Don’t get buying everything before, I’m too paranoid for that. Amazon do next day delivery for a reason!