No heartbeat

[Mamma124]

Hey guys. Had a scan at the epu today and no heartbeat at what is supposed to be 8+4 Sonographer said measurements look more like 5-6 weeks. All seemed normal but just no heartbeat. Anyone had this where it has been a positive outcome?

i have another scan in a week time but super worried about it.

Oh gosh, I have no advice but couldn't read and run - hand holding and sending love.

This happened to me 2 weeks ago, I went back 1 week later and still was no change. I knew there should have been a heartbeat cos my dates couldn't have been out that much, so it wasn't a good outcome for me I'm sorry. Wishing you all the best ❤️

@yeahright1 sorry to hear….😢

@frumpalertt thank you

How sure of your dates are you? I had an IVF conception and there was no heartbeat at just under 7 weeks. Went back 1 week later and there was. She is now 17 months old and I had an otherwise uneventful pregnancy (until delivery) and she doesn't have any health issues so being a slow start didn't do her any harm.

Are you sure of your ovulation dates or could 5-6weeks be correct? At 5-6 weeks there may not be a heartbeat yet and all could be normal, but if more like 8 weeks then really there would be one buy now.

@WithOneLook I thought I was spot on with the dates but it’s making me unsure of myself now with what the measurements are saying. I’m just praying that I’m wrong and it’s just my dates are off

When did you get your positive pregnancy test?

I had this and I'm afraid it didn't end well. I was sure of my dates because I was testing for ovulation.

@Mamma124 It really depends on when you had your positive test... If it was 4 weeks ago... Im afraid it is probably bad news. But if it was only one or two weeks ago, then it could just be that your dates are wrong!

@Overthebow 2nd September was my first very very faint positive

I’m in the same position, had scan Tuesday they measured 6+3 (couple of weeks behind what I should be but I have always had irregular cycles) sonographer said it’s just too early, midwife then gave us all the info on silent miscarriage (totally steamrailed us after the sonographer being positive) we go back next Friday and i am driving myself mad searching mumsnet and everywhere else for positive stories in the meantime. Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone and I know how you’re feeling. Fingers crossed we both see that heartbeat next week 🙏🏻❤️

@Anonymous2321 thank you for your message. It’s been a rough few days and it’s hard. I been doing the same searching everywhere. My sonographer didn’t look very positive which made us more worried and the epu nurse was lovely but looked so uncertain so I have had no positivity from the people you think would do that. Luckily my partner is being more optimistic than I am and he reckons it’s just too early. Now every twinge I feel I wonder if I’m gonna see what I don’t want. Can I ask, have you still got all your symptoms as some of mine seems to be fluctuating or my mind playing tricks.

🙏 and fingers crossed we are just too early

Symptoms have definitely been fluctuating, today is the first morning I’ve had what felt like proper nausea for a few days but I think it’s my mind working overtime than anything. I know how you feel every little twinge i panic and so scared every time I go to the toilet it’s horrible. Our Epu nurse is adamant it’s a silent miscarriage and has even given me all the relevant leaflets but when I spoke to the midwife at my birthing centre she said it’s so hard at 6 weeks cause it is borderline so can be quite normal to not see a heartbeat.

I’m just hoping for the best but at the same time trying to mentally prepare myself for the worst. When is your next scan? ❤️

@Anonymous2321 my next scan is Friday. Yes I got the leaflet too. Are you having any typical symptoms of a miscarriage. I’m just having on and off brown discharge but some readings say that’s normal. I don’t know what to believe as have seen both negative and positive stories.

we just have to keep praying that we are the ones out of sync and that it’s just too early. Funny enough have also got my appointment through for my dating scan at the end of October and I don’t know how to feel about it at the moment. 😢

@Mamma124 a positive more than a month ago, sadly doesnt bode very well... The earliest you can test positive is over the 3 week mark. So you should have been around 8 weeks at your scan.

Im really sorry...

@ASGIRC thank you. Been a hard few days so guess it’s just waiting until Friday either way to know the outcome.

Same day as mine and I got the letter through for my routine scan end of the month too, I rang the midwife at the birth centre where I had my booking appointment and they were lovely. They’ve told me to call them with the outcome of the scan Friday and if it is bad news they will sort everything with cancelling appointments etc. Nice knowing that’s one less thing to worry about if it is the news I’m dreading.

I have had zero symptoms, no spotting or anything but then that can be normal if it’s a silent miscarriage. I’ve also read that brown discharge can be nothing to worry about. I think it’s 50:50 what the outcome will be for us both it’s just a waiting game (going to be the longest week ever 🥺)

Im sorry you’re going through this too but hope it is some comfort knowing you’re not alone, it has been for me so thank you ❤️

Thank you for messaging. I have read that brown discharge can also be a sign of miscarriage and also not, depending on what you read. Have started spotting today so dreading it all (not really any severe cramps tho). But again I’ve read that spotting can be normal in the first trimester so what the hell to believe, idk. I’m just feeling sorry for myself at the moment but if spotting gets worst I will ring midwife Monday.

I’m just now fearing the worst. It’s crazy as the cramps I’m having now is no different to what have had throughout but at my scan they could see everything in the right place (g sac, y sac, fetal pole with a tiny bud on it but no hb). Really going crazy with worry and reading doesn’t help as it can give you false hope. 😢

hope you get some positive news though as sadly I’m fearing the worst so trying to prepare for that. ❤️

@Anonymous2321 how are you feeling getting closer to Friday. I’m seriously dreading it as have started cramping and bleeding. It’s a scary time here.

I don’t know how to feel, I still haven’t had any symptoms so making it hard to accept what I’m expecting the outcome to be Friday. Not too long left now for us both, I’m just trying to keep busy but it’s not really making time go any quicker. Sorry to hear you’re getting cramps and bleeding, hope you’re not experiencing too much pain. What time is your appt Friday?

Had to go ED tonight as passed some clots. They are pretty sure it’s a MC but want to wait til Friday to confirm. My cervix is still closed tho and they cannot see much bleeding from there but the pain was horrendous and unbearable. They done bloods to see if hcg is dropping but will repeat Friday too to compare. I’m lost atm and don’t even know how to feel I’m just really tired 😪. My appt is at 9:10 in the morning. Keeping my fingers crossed for u tho

@Mamma124 thinking of you today x

@beetroot13 thank you 🙏

@Mamma124 hope you got some sleep last night, thinking of you today x