Losing hope

[Mirabella3]

Hi,

Sorry long read! I had my beautiful baby via IVF last year August after 10 years TTC so it was the biggest surprise of my life when I got a positive on the 20th September.

I have PCOS so my periods are not regular and I don’t know when I ovulate. My last period was on the 14th August (that was a 41 day cycle). I don’t actually know how many weeks pregnant I am, maybe 5-6 weeks.

I have been testing since my positive (I know I will get flack) and my lines haven’t progressed well and are getting lighter (all FMU apart from first two). I know these tests are supposed to be qualitative and not quantitative but with my IVF pregnancy I was constantly in touch with my nurse and on progesterone so I felt like I was supported and not alone. I guess testing for me this time felt like i was actually doing something?

I got a 3+ with clearblue on 30th September. I have absolutely no symptoms. I am experience period like cramps. Do my lines look like a chemical or miscarriage?

I will stop testing now. I have a scan tomorrow evening and I’m just mentally preparing myself for getting bad news. Just feel so sad after having a glimmer of hope. This baby is so wanted.

I know this is such a stressful time, during this stage it is horrible to wait.

I am looking at the tests, and it seems like some of the control lines are darker (might be that there was more sample), and the later control lines are lighter so might have less sample on there which might explain your lighter lines.

Did you also test every day at the same time (first thing)? Were there any other differences that might account for the lighter lines (did you drink water in the middle of the night)?

The strips may not be designed to stain darker. So it might not be the best test.

It is hard to say for sure, but definitely worth waiting and finding out tomorrow. I will keep my fingers crossed xx

Please stop testing and try to relax. You have your scan tomorrow anyway so they will tell you if something is wrong. Good luck!

Thanks for replying. I tested first thing in the morning, usually after a 4-5 hour urine hold.
Times of test were different.

Thank you, I’ll be updating the thread after the scan results xx

I went to the toilet this morning and saw light pink blood when I wiped. Feels like the start of my period. Not sure whether to call EPU or just wait for my private scan this evening?

Personally I would wait for your scan tonight but if you really cannot then I suppose you could go to EPU. Good luck 🤞🏼

Just wanted to send you positive vibes. Hope all will be ok

I think that those lines look absolutely normal. I also had a lot of bleeding- bright red too- with my second pregnancy, right from they get go and carried on until 20 weeks. I was told it's common in second and subsequent babies as the cervix has already been open and therefore stuff is just more likely to escape (grim!)

Good luck with the scan, rooting for you.

I hope everything works out for you with this pregnancy @Mirabella3

Either way definitely worth speaking to the nurse/your GP about progesterone either for this pregnancy or any subsequent one if you have taken it in a previous successful pregnancy.

Thank you all.

Blood has progressed to the point I need to wear a pad. Called EPU who told me they’d only see me if I have a GP referral or A&E.

I’ll just wait for my scan this evening unless the pain is unbearable. Right now it’s more like period cramps.

When I found out I was pregnant two weeks ago I called my GP asking if I needed progesterone and they said no. I feel so guilty because I had left over boxes from my previous IVF cycle, maybe if I just used them it would have worked? I was scared to go against medical advice but I could have just tried.

I was waiting for today’s scan to know everything was ok and then I was going to refer myself to the midwives.

Just feeling so sad about this all.

I had my scan. There was a sac measuring 5w+2 days. No yolk sac seen but she said it could still be early and to come back in two weeks.

I’m bleeding heavily now. Not sure what to think.

I am sorry to hear this. ❤️‍🩹

Passed a massive clot this afternoon, was referred to the emergency gynaecology department and it was confirmed I had passed the sac. There’s no tissue remaining.

I feel surprisingly ok. Relieved that I don’t have to go back for further scans and have my life on hold. Now I can move forward, wait for my next period and start to try again.🙂

So glad to hear this. Good luck!

Aww I'm so sorry