First trimester struggles

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Hey there! This is my first post, I am week 9 today in my first pregnancy, and I’m 39 years old.
All things considered, I have not been tooo bad with physical symptoms. I have the tiredness for sure, as well as queasiness (especially in morning) and some headaches. But from what I have heard it could be a lot worse so I am feeling grateful so far (touch wood!).
What I am struggling a bit with is feeling lonely and a bit blah. I’m in my third year of a doctorate and I’m having to do quite a lot of work in my free time to make sure I’m as ahead as can be for when baby is born. This combined with low energy means I am staying in a lot to make sure I can get things done without burning out.
My partner is great but I am spending the majority of my time with him.
I am a sociable person and miss fun times with friends. A lot of my friends don’t live nearby anymore so it takes planning to meet up, plus I’m lacking energy. I’ve been seeing them at times, I just am feeling a little cabin fever-y which doesn’t help when I have the inevitable highs and lows about how life will look when baby is here. We have recently moved to a new area so I am hoping closer to the birth will be a great opportunity to meet new friends via antenatal classes etc, and baby stuff when they are born.
it’s more just finding ways to cope with the monotony of how I’m feeling now! I am trying to enjoy the rest while I can but would be nice to have some inspiration of things I could do (sociable or not) in the mean time :)
Also happy to be in this group as looking forward to chatting to other mums to be / in similar situations :)

Hi 👋
I can’t really offer much advice (sorry!!) but just wanted to say I get how you’re feeling. I’m around the same 9 weeks as you and this is my first pregnancy. At the moment we’ve only told both sets of parents and no one else.
I work from home full time so get that feeling of isolation. I also don’t have any close friends that have been / are pregnant, so I’m preparing myself to still feel a bit on my own even when they all know. It’s not that they’re not supportive and amazing, just more that they’ve never experienced pregnancy so maybe won’t fully understand… maybe.
My hubby is an amazing support, so can’t fault him. But the thought of feeling a bit lonely throughout this journey does play on my mind too.

guess what I’m trying to say in this ramble is that feelings like these are valid and you’re not alone. Hope that offers a little comfort ♥️

Hi Frankie thanks so much for replying and your solidarity ! It really does help to know I’m not the only one feeling this way.
I think not telling anyone must be hard! I’ve told a few friends but we have not officially announced it it that makes sense.
How have you been feeling physically so far and now at this stage? Xx

Hiya - sorry didn’t see this notification!

yeah I get what you mean. We’re planning on telling one or two of our closest friends, but will tell all the rest in a few weeks time.

so far I’ve been feeling so sick on/off but not physically vomiting. Also feeling very tired and low in energy. Butttt, I’ve heard other women have it a lot tougher, so I shouldn’t complain haha. How about you? Xx