Terrified I won’t love my second as much

[LucyEleanorModeratz]

Hello wise MNers

I’m currently 35 weeks’ pregnant with our second baby.

Said baby was very much wanted and planned (unlike our first who was a ‘happy accident’) and yet I can’t shake the feeling I just won’t love the second in the same way.

My firstborn is the absolute light of my life - I didn’t think love on this scale existed to be honest, and I just can’t envisage feeling that same way again.

I suppose my feelings are interspersed with - and compounded by - feelings of immense guilt that I’m about to completely overhaul my eldest’s life.

I suppose I’m just after experiences - am I alone in feeling this way? Has anybody had their second and not loved it as much and, if so, how did you manage that?

Please be kind x

I can confirm that my worries were foundless - my DD (born in October) is the polar opposite of my DS in almost every way, and yet my love for her is just the same in nature and magnitude - unconditional, overwhelming, bottomless. Seeing the two of them together is a whole new kind of special!

Congratulations, good luck and try not to worry :)