12 weeks and so anxious 😭

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I’m 12.3 weeks pregnant today with my dating scan on Monday ( 2 days away) and I feel physically sick even thinking about it. I can’t help but think something will be wrong and they will tell us there’s no heartbeat :(

little background: I’ve had 3 scans already at 6 weeks, 8 weeks and 9 weeks (due to slight spotting around then) on the 8 weeks one a slight bleed was found but they couldn’t see it again on the 9 weeks one which was strange. On all 3 scans a heartbeat was found and baby was measuring on track etc.

for a week now I had a terrible cold and since having this my anxiety has gone through the roof. My sickness has also ramped up as well but I think that is mainly down to my cold and icky etc. what I’m really worried about though is since yesterday evening I’ve had stomach cramps (in my whole belly really). TMI but this morning I’ve had a little diarrhoea and my belly went better but now it’s come back again and it constantly feel the urge to go to the loo. I’m worried this is the start of a miscarriage and I’ll have awful news on Monday 😞 my back has been sore for days which I put down to coughing and sneezing but now I’m second guessing my self. I’ve read that stomach cramps should come and go but these have been quite constant (although mild) just not sure whether it’s down to not going to the loo properly or something bad. I’m hoping it’s just gas etc but not sure anymore 😞

I’m so scared constantly 😞

Before each scan (8, 10, 11 and 12 weeks) I was physically sick with anxiety. I would get awful stomach cramps and diarrhea. This could be what you have too. Don't overestimate was anxiety can cause. I understand your worry but having a good scan at 9 weeks is very encouraging.
In my case I don't think the anxiety will ever go completely. I always imagine the worst.
Good luck for your scan!

Thank you for your reply! It could be that I suppose I do feel so so scared for Monday. They are not severe cramps but I’m worried they are pretty constant 😞 I just can’t bear the thought of getting this far and losing them now 😪😪 I’m getting awful dreams about it and keep waking up shaking and crying :(

I am under consultant care so I've been getting scanned every other week. I was scanned at 9 weeks the other day and he said the chance of miscarriage at this point with baby growing as expected is less than 1% so it'll be exactly the same odds for you.

Your baby is growing rapidly, everything in your body needs to move to make space so you will get lots of cramps, aches and pains.

I really empathise because I had absolutely horrendous anxiety through my previous pregnancy and I think it contributed to me having PND when my daughter was born. If you can, you really need to get some talking therapy to help you manage your anxiety because I'm afraid once baby is here the worry doesn't go away. Maybe also do some mindfulness/meditation videos to help you relax.

All the best for your scan.