Arguments in pregnancy

[Newbiemama24]

My partner and I just found out we are pregnant. We have an up and down relationship. The arguments are always the smallest thing that will escalate. Every time we argue he says he is leaving me (even when he's the one in the wrong). Now I'm pregnant he tells me to do it alone and we can co-parent. My mental health is so low and I feel isolated because I'm not a naturally open person who will tell my family/friends. I had my first morning sickness and he didn't even check on me from the other room. I'm so sad and feel like I've made a huge mistake in choosing him as the father of my child, but embarrassingly don't have enough self-love to walk away.

As PP has said, you might not have the willpower to leave for yourself, but you need to find it in you to leave for your baby.

Thinking of you, pregnancy is stressful enough without the added stress of an unsupportive partner.

I think you should talk to your family/friends about this as knowing you have their support may help you walk away. It sounds like you walking away is the right decision for you and your baby. As others have said, this will be a stressful time anyway without added drama.

Do you definitely want to continue with the pregnancy?

I’m in very similar situation it’s so hard but you need to open up to someone and speak about it

huge hug

I suggest to have a final sit down adult and clam down convo to confirm he want to do anything with his child or not.
Tell him the reason you ask just for you to make plan. You and your baby don't have time to mess around. Your body is changing rapidly in the background. So physically you are very busy. Mentally keep it as straightforward and simple as possible to keep you sane.

Once that's clear, you're on your journey to take all the credit on raising your beautiful baby. This forum also helps a lot which I hope you make the most of it. ( I personally found this forum very helpful, it's my first pregnancy and my hormone was all over the place!)

When you reach to next stage and face any upcoming problems can make use of the forum to share your problems again!

On a balanced note, if he turned out in fact want to be involved I suggest you turn the attention to the relationship between you and him - which I see it as the foundation of all the challenges ahead (raising a child or building fam). Might of communicate more about the good and bad of your relationship and how to make it better. Then maybe involve him in the midwife appointments, involve one thing at a time without overwhelming too much all the family planning pressure (like financials). The idea is put more weight on you taking the control in the beginning until you feel happy with him to make equal joint decision as a couple.